How do u move on after some1 close to dies? ??

Answer 1

You did not mention what the nature of your relationship with the deseased person was - whether he/she was a mate, a parent, a child, a close friend, etc.
So I have partially reproduced the same answer I just gave to someone else who is hurting over a painful relationship break-up..

When my husband (married 28 years!) died, I thought I could never know a happy moment again for the rest of my life - and that "rest of my life" could not be short enough to suit me!
It was the 8th wonder of the world that I could even get out of bed in the mornings and put my shoes on the right feet. I was NOT EVEN ready to face life again - but I had no choice, because there was LIFE facing ME and I had to deal with it.
All alone and struggling for my day-to-day existance, I somehow managed to hold down a job and keep going.
I wasn't aware of the gradual change as it was happening, but about 2 years after his death my daughter came to visit me. When it was time to return to her home (in another state) she was complaining about the upcoming Greyhound bus trip. I remarked that I had always enjoyed travelling by bus.
She responded, almost resentfully, "Oh, Mom, YOU enjoy just about EVERYTHING!"
It was at that moment that I realized it was true - I DID! I had recovered and regained my old "joi-de-vivre" and never even realized it till that very second.

As terrible as the emotional pain of the loss may seem right now, every day it will grow a tiny iota less intense untill one day something will jog you into realizing - as my daughter's comment did for me - that you have HEALED.
Yes, HEALED. Just as injured bodies heal, so do injured souls. It is just more difficult to observe the process because it is on the inside where you cannot see the progress as it is happening.

You are hurting badly now, I know because I have "been there", "done that", as they say, but sometimes the harder you land, the higher you bounce.

Now, almost ten years later, I am engaged to be married again and I wouldn't trade the man I love now for my late husband back alive and well, even if I could!

It is easy to forget when we are shivering in the coldest part of the Winter that Spring and Summer will come around again. It is easy to forget, when we feel lost in a dark tunnel, that there is light at the other end of it.
But, even if you can't see it now, there IS!

Answer 2

You never really recover from it...

My girlfriend of 6 years died a few months ago in a fire and I have still not recovered. Some people will recover from a death quickly but then there are those times where you feel you can't live another day without the person that died. The first few days aren't always the worst. The days that you don't think about him/her will be the worst as you wil realize that you forgot about them and will feel very very bad. Depending on how close the person was to you you may not want to get up some mornings or you will just feel awful but al you gotta remember is that you will see them one day again and life will move on (sometime...)

Answer 3

One of my boyfriends a few years ago passed away without warning on my birthday. It was one of the hardest things that I have ever gone through, and I am very sorry for your loss. The grieving process has a few steps such as shock,denial,anger, sadness, and acceptance. You will probably go through these in different stages but it will take your heart and mind to decide when those changes will take place. Try to remember, and talk about the good times you have spent with this person. Go to his/her grave site (or special place you two shared) with memorabilia from the good times together. Talk to a counselor or church leader, with questions you might have of death, having some hope in the answers might let you help yourself deal (not move on because you wont to be honest) with the pain. Once again, I am so sorry for your loss and the pain you must be feeling.

Answer 4

With great difficulty - My father committed suicide when I was 14 years old and we never did find our the reason why.

I loved my dad and this always bugged the heck out of me and of course at school I was always pointed to as some kind of a freak because my dad did this.

It was always on my mind more some times then others but always there.

Then About five years later when I was at Ohio State and up studying late one night in the Frat House when everyone else was asleep I heard some one call my name. I answered and I was asked the question "did I love my father" - and of course I said "Yes!" - then the voice came back with - "Then respect what he did"! - I have no idea where this voice came from or who it belonged to but I always felt that it must have been an angel from God sent to help me.

After that I was never bothered with any bad thoughts about my fathers suicide again.

It takes time!

Pray to God that He helps you with this.

Good Luck & God Bless!

Answer 5

You must GRIEVE. Don't try to deny you are in pain. Don't try to rush through it. It can take years before the pain goes away.

In his book, What You Feel You Can Heal, Dr. John Gray recommends spending a little time each day alone just to get in touch with your feelings.

There are also some good books out there on the grieving process like, On Death and Dying by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross and How to Survive the Loss of a Loved One by Peter McWilliams.

Answer 6

There is no pill or overnight cure for taking a loss like this... Everyone greives in their own way and time.. You could spend days, months, years in depression..

You might think your world is spinning out of control and there is no one to help you.. but you must know that you will make it out of this difficult period and more on...

There is no quick fix... everyone grieves in their own time and own way.

Answer 7

One moment at a time! One thing is certain, you will once again know and experience joy, if The Lord Yeshua, (Jesus) is truly you source, and instead of getting angry at Him, and running the other direction, run head long into Him. You will discover or rediscover your,1st. Love, and your best friend, who sticks closer than a brother. To rediscover His Voice and His reassuring presence only found in the secret, special place,revealed to those who ask Him and seek Him with all their heart, mind and strength. This is the inner place, where His strengthening power is manifest in all brilliance and the shining magnificence, of His presence. In that intimate place, there begins a knitting together. A priceless bonding, of I Am, and His own valuable child, as He begins to speak to, as an adult, and one who has found themselves thrust into that place of pain and need, where only you and He , face to face dwell, for the talk, and honest truth, which elevates the process of the bonding in oneness. Which deepens the bonding relationship, in that eternal Covenant, as never before known or experienced to you, in this temporal mortal pilgrimage, of your journey together. I find it absolutely amazing how the worst, and most tragic events in life, though they carry the most pain and anguish, can end up resulting in the greatest personal turn-around choices, that literally change, and set us aright, on the course of real, honest, true life, with The Life-infuser, and restorer of our lost laughter, restoring and increasing us with an, exceeding joy! How? He finds you in the middle of your crisis, and tragedy. And pulls you up to Himself, you look into your Father and Lords eyes once again and you know, all will be well !! You through your loss, are reminded of where true fullness, assurance, and inner contentment always was,and Is, and Is to Come. Ahh! The Word of Faith, In your mouth and in your heart ! And you discover, that once again, or perhaps for the very 1st. time. Your 1st and Most Trusted Love, The Only Fully True and Honest Love You'll ever completely experience. An everlasting empowering Love that only The Living, Eternal Creator can deliver, always and forever, and He knows and looks to the greater plan, the one with your highest purpose in mind, and ultimate Joy, peace and resurrected Life's fullness!! He is not a mediocre Father, but a Hero and a King of Kings, and you are His princes and princesses, alive in His Only Begotten Son, Yeshua Ha Mashiyach, that is Jesus The Messiah and anointed One of Yahweh, The all existent, in all the issues of the lives of mankind and all of His Creation! He Is God! Press into Him, and you will not just move on, you will increase, entering into places more abundant and beautiful, then ever traveled before So choose to Lean all your weight into Him, He turns deserts into moving streams, and mountains into level ground, so your footsteps may be sure and steady, and He gives Beauty in exchange for your Ashes, faith for fear, gladness for mourning, hope and triumphant peace for despair, He is faithful, even when we're not, for He can do no other, He can't deny Himself! He is faithful to perform His Word! He will not abandon you to the enemy,nor ever leave nor forsake you! You are in The Beloved, The Son of His Love and Your Life is hid with God in Christ!!....And Dear One! He WILL COMPLETE the righteous thing He Himself has begun in you, He Will Do It ! Simply, Believe!! He will help you to, Trust in, rely On, and adhere To Him Only. Go put on some contemporary Praise and Worship music and fill the atmosphere of your home and bedroom! Read your Bible, NIV version or ERV is easy to start off with. Listen to T.D.Jakes on TV, check his books out at your local library for free! Also, Joyce Meyer, and Paula White Ministries, watch them on-line.Joyce has a tape series on GRIEF and any issue you can think of! They all do!!! And STAY BUSY! Find a Word Speaking, Holy Spirit Filled Fellowship to be accountable to and share your giftings with. Do your best to serve any person you have peace about that is in need, you'll find your loss becoming less pronounced, and a sense of being necessary and vital.... Now go and do! You will never regret Oneness With The Prince of Peace and soon coming King!! Thanks for the question,Friend!!

Answer 8

HONEY THIS IS SOMETHING CLOSE TO MY HEART AND I HAVE NO CLUE. IN 2 DAYS MY BEST FRIEND WILL BE DEAD FORA YEAR AND I DON'T KNOW HOW TO HANDLE IT. I CAN'T EVEN PASS HER HOUSE ON THE BUS CUZ I START CRYING LIKE A BABY. TIME IS WHAT THEY SAY, SO GOOD LUCK!

Answer 9

Go to bed at night and wake up the next morning.

Not a big deal..............