Who do you treat better...?

Question

BLONDES VS. BRUNETTES. As a natural born brunette gone platinum...and back to brunette again...

I've been treated noticeably differently as my hair color changes, and I'm interested in what's going on in that head of yours...guys and gals alike.

GENERALLY SPEAKING:

As a BLONDE, more doors are held open, I'm asked out more frequently, and my jokes are funnier...but no error goes un-noticed, my intelligence is questioned, and on more than one occasion, strangers have talked to me like I just graduated 5th grade.

As a BRUNETTE, people are more sincere, my advice is welcomed, and mistakes aren’t anticipated…but on the flip side of it all, I open my own doors, I buy my own coffee and if I have a flat tire, I wait 5 more minutes for someone to pull over.

It seems people are quick to critique others without even being aware of their judgment. How do you mentally regard people based on there appearance and why?

Note: It is not my intention to stereotype or offend anyone. These are just my personal observations. Genuine answers only please!

Answer 1

It's funny, but I am a natural blonde-and when I was reading your question I was thinking, without meaning to, that I am a bit put off by bleached blondes. My almost unconscious thought was that they tend to be pushy, aggressive, etc... Maybe people with flashy colored hair in general. But I purposefully try to be open to everyone.

Answer 2

Yes it is funny how people stereotype others. I'm a natural brunnette, but when I entered high school, I dyed my hair bright red with purple highlights. The teachers right off the bat didn't like me. They originally put me in the front of the class, and overlooked my attempts to excel in their class.I always liked to do a little more than what was required, but they didn't take me seriously.I always got very good grades, and was never a troublemaker. Even the brainy students steared clear of me, like I was this extremely rebellious person, when honestly I just liked the hair color. It took about half the school year until the teachers realized that I was actually one of the better students. You can always break the stereotypes.

Answer 3

I wonder if there's as much difference as you think.

Do you actually keep track of every door opened, every complaint, every flirtatious look?

Or do you notice the one's you "expect" -- you began noticing behaviors you got when your hair was one color.

After changing, you noticed a day when you got several such behaviors.

After that, armed with a pattern in your head, you attribute all relevant behaviors to your hair color.

If it were true, none of those people would answer that they treat blonds differently -- they wouldn't realize it.

BTW, I've been a blonde (not platinum, real hair color -- now that I'm getting older, it's getting darker, mixed with gray) and I wouldn't say I've been treated the way you describe being treated when blonde.

There are some guys who like blondes, but most don't care all that much.

Answer 4

For the most part. I am not one to allow appearance to bias my opinion of someone. Although I see many people who do. I know that good people come in all shapes and sizes. And to you guys out there, " A pretty face don't make no pretty heart." Generally the people who I allow appearance to rule my judgement on is the women who over do thier flaunting of their appearance in the hopes that someone will do something for them just because they are pretty. "Pretty Lazy!" "Pretty stuck on themselves."
"Pretty dependant on complements from the male animal to boost their self esteem." "Pretty Pathetic!" Get real people. Everyone wants to look nice, but there is way more important stuff than worrying about "Oh If I have a flat without my stiletto heels I may just have to fix it myself." For pittys sake! Women like that give women a bad name. How about having the strength to fix your own flat. Let the guys know that you can take care of yourself.

Answer 5

We all have our own built in biases, right or wrong (usually wrong).
As I see it, we need to go forward with our heads held high and live our lives the best we can.
Let's not judge ourselves by the feedback we get from others. It is only our own self-opinion that really matters.

Answer 6

i feel that brunette or blond if your pretty and skinny guys automatically check you out. my experiences with my friend who goes from blond to brunette she gets hit on the same, (she is pretty and skinny). i overly pay attention to that because im the opposite of her, Guys just like to see someone pretty.

Answer 7

stereotypical roles exist because people believe they exist. I judge people on an individual basis unless they wear symbols or dress codes that obviously demand a category on them.

Answer 8

I treat all people equally. But i'm more sexually attracted to brunettes.

Answer 9

i treat all wenches the same...i do not prejudice against any...have a good day