Why do homosexuals & lesbians need to tell everybody their sexual preference? I'm straight and don't tell anybody my sexual preference. If someone wondered about it I'd keep them guessing. If I don't know it doesn't matter. I work with one known homosexual and he is good at his job, so it doesn't matter. If he didn't tell me I wouldn't know and it still wouldn't matter. Just a thought I had.
2007-03-05 07:26:23 · 12 answers · asked by Mike T 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm bisexual and I don't tell anyone. (Well, I just did, but only because it was pertinent to what I'm saying.) If no one asks, they don't know. Most of my school assumes I'm straight, but if they were to ask about it, I would be honest. I just don't go parading it all the time.
The reson some people DO parade it is probably because it is just assumed that they are straight, and with that assumption, how are they going to find a partner who is also gay? Obviously, the person they seek as a partner may assume they're straight.
2007-03-05 07:37:47 · answer #1 · answered by SheIsDeath 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When YOU meet someone, they assume you are straight because most people are. They don't automatically assume you're gay unless they have a good reason to. So some homosexuals might prefer to make their sexual preference known as soon as possible to avoid uncomfortable situations later.
P.s. Lesbians ARE homosexuals. But then again, heterosexuals and straight people usually forget that.
2007-03-05 15:28:56 · answer #2 · answered by nerveserver 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you think many people presume you are gay?
Do you think many people presume your coworker is straight?
Do you think that an invisible minority has as much chance at becoming equal as a visible one?
Do you know how straight people react when they find out a gay person is gay after knowing them for some time -- I can tell you right now on this one, no thinking needed: they react with "Why didn't you tell me?" So obviously not everyone feels as you do.
Gay people are out for one thing because otherwise they are invisible. For another because its like taking a huge weight off. How would you feel if society said you HAD to be gay. You knew you were straight, but you forced yourself to pretend all the time? How do you think it would feel? Might you want to just say "don't you love me for me, dont' you realize I like girls?"
Same thing, in reverse.
That's over simplified, but it should do as a beginning.
Kind thoughts,
Reyn
believeinyou24@yahoo.com
2007-03-05 18:47:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I agree to a certain extent; but we can never avoid the people in the work or social setting that say "why are you not married? You are so cute I have a nice girl that I would love to set you up with!"
Are we supposed to keep them guessing then?
2007-03-05 15:43:29 · answer #4 · answered by Yikes! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not need to tell anyone your natural, inborn sexual orientation (note correct term) since you have 99.99% of the movies, music, TV and ads to do it for you.
I'm glad that you are not discriminatory, and evaluate everyone's work based on their output. If you could just get rid of that last niggling bit of prejudice, it would be great!
Good luck!
2007-03-05 15:41:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't. I haven't heard a single person tell everyone their sexuality--homosexual or heterosexual. It's not wrong.
By the way, lesbians are homosexual women and you just told us you are straight...
2007-03-05 15:30:05 · answer #6 · answered by Busta 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
We live in a world that is predominantly populated by heterosexuals. By default, everyone is considered to be heterosexual until the show themselves to be otherwise. There is a term for it: Heterocentrism.
2007-03-05 16:10:01 · answer #7 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha ha ha, you just contradicted yourself by blabbing about being straight.
Maybe you're curious about something else, and that's why you're hanging out in this section of Yahoo answers
2007-03-05 15:30:50 · answer #8 · answered by martin 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone acts the same way.
2007-03-05 15:43:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Becuase they are paranoid and think that every body are looking at them funny so they just come out.
2007-03-05 15:31:21 · answer #10 · answered by jon jay 87 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋