Wel i met this girl fell in love and its 4yrs since i fell in love and few month ago we found out we are cousins.iv tried to not tell her i love her coz a cousin thing.but my heart says i love her.im in pain and tense coz iv not told her.how do i tell her.cousin marriage is common and not banned in my country.i truely love her and cant live without her.my sis says, tell her an talk about it to her
2007-03-05 07:21:19 · 12 answers · asked by nasserprofessional 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell her...it is common for cousins to marry if they are distant cousins.Wish you luck my friend.
2007-03-12 00:00:13 · answer #1 · answered by annie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on your family or simply your and her parents who you guys may have the most difficult time facing. Other people will not ask you if the person you married is your cousin or not so it really depend on how well your family is willing to accept this kind of thing. If you truly love her to the point that you want to spend the life with her, definitely tell her about it and see what she'll say. It's better to continue hanging out in the air and not knowing what the result is. Maybe painful to know but better than suffering alone
2007-03-12 01:37:21 · answer #2 · answered by ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just so wrong and nasty!!!! Billions of women on this planet and you want to get freaky with a relative? Might not be illegal but immoral it is and there's no way either of you could ever tell the kids, if any came about, that their mom is your cousin. Go sow some oats with a few lover's lane tramps you find on the internet to get this out of your system then focus your life on finding a good woman to love and respect who is not in any way related to you.
2007-03-13 14:59:30 · answer #3 · answered by rashawn4u2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not be specifically banned in your country but how would your family feel about it? I would not even approach her with talk of love without asking her first if she thinks cousins can ever marry. If she sincerely is not bothered by that and it is not an issue, then you could tell her how you feel about her.
2007-03-11 03:33:01 · answer #4 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk about it. Is she from the same country? if she is then she should know that its ok to marry your cousins....its only banned in the States because we worry about blood disorders...etc and the chances of that happening is greater with a closer family member than a stranger...
Talk to her and tell her how you feel...give her the chance to say "yes, or no" based on true information...
2007-03-13 14:47:37 · answer #5 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont tell her about your feelings...Just work hard on establishing your friendship with her...Let it come to a point where both of you feel really really close to each other. It shud come to a point where you both cud talk to each other almost daily..both of you miss each other like mad...etc...then perhaps,even your cousin wud realise she also has feelings for you. Alternately..you could even approach both your parents and tell them how you feel and about your commitment to the relationship. Hearing about this from her parents,could also work things in your favour..as with parents consent,even she will not see anything wrong in the relationship and it could be the beginning of something wonderful for both of you.
Good Luck!
2007-03-13 04:57:53 · answer #6 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!! Personally, if you really do like her, then tell her. You can't change how you feel. Don't freak your cousin out though! If she doesnt' want to be married then don't pressure her into doing it.
It's going to be a major surprise for the both of u!
2007-03-13 01:38:17 · answer #7 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tak to her first but remeber its all about what you can handle. like it or not people will say something about you and your cousin there no avoiden that. if she feels mutual you can go ahead with blood tests( its so that if you were to have a child it wouldn't efffect the child in any way i know cousins who did that just to make shure (not all pregnancies are planned )then if doc says its all good. good luck and try and remeber the corny saying love coquers all.
2007-03-12 16:33:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her the same way you just asked us..Good luck!!!
2007-03-13 02:35:50 · answer #9 · answered by violet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're sister is right, tell her and talk about it.
2007-03-06 05:00:39 · answer #10 · answered by WestCoastin4Life 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋