My 16 year old niece just told me that she qas pregnant and she asked me not to tell my sister, that she is going to tell her. What to do?
2007-03-05 07:12:41 · 16 answers · asked by *Stacy Baby* 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You should definatly give h er a chance to tell her mom first.
If i were you i would offer to be there with her while she tells her for support. Her mother will more then likely be VERY upset at hearing the news so you can cushion the blow because you have had time to think about it realistically adn let it settle into your head that this is actually happening.
A WORD OF ADVICE FOR THE GIRL
Dont let her think that having the baby will ruin her chances for a successful life. A very good friend of mine had twins at age 15 then another baby at age a9, she is now the head nurse at the NICU in our city. You can do anything you put your mind to no matter what you circumstances are and it seems to me that since she was not afraid to tell you that she has a good support system.
just be there to support her as this is a very hard time for her.
2007-03-05 07:23:46 · answer #1 · answered by Tissa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off, if you want to maintain the trust from your niece DON"T TELL. You should feel obliged that she came to you. Just keep a wholesome relationship between the two of you throughout her pregnancy. Ask her often whether or not she has told her Mom. If after a month she has refused to tell, take her to a clinic. It's bad for the baby if the Mother doesn't seek help for info and so on. If after three months she has not told or had an abortion, you have to take that chance of losing that trust and TELL her Mom. Do it in an ADVICE form and not TATTLETALE form. She laid down with the male, now your niece has to lie down with the responsibilty.
2007-03-05 07:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be sure to be there for her. Encourage her telling her mother, which is much more important than her sister. Give her at least a day to tell her sister, then approach her again if she has not. The sooner this is dealt with the better, stay on top of things!!
2007-03-05 07:21:47 · answer #3 · answered by Rhonda B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not tell just like she asked. If she doesn't tell your sister in a reasonable amount of time I would bring it up again with your niece.
2007-03-05 07:17:52 · answer #4 · answered by Meems 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it may be tough but you can't tell your sister, you have to let your niece tell her. If you tell your sister before you niece you will loss her trust and I don't think you want that. Plus its your niece's battle not yours she need to tell her mom herself, it will show that she is mature. Its hard but its the right thing to do, Good Luck
2007-03-05 07:20:04 · answer #5 · answered by mace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now you'll probably need to support her, let her tell her mother in her own time. She's probably going through a tough time, while telling your sister might feel like the most honest thing to do, it will be best for your neice and her mother if she tells her herself.
Just be thankful that she trusts you, and will come to you for help if she needs to.
2007-03-05 07:18:39 · answer #6 · answered by priestessofthepixels 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want her to ever share with you again do as she asks.
Give her time and your support and allow her to tell her mother in her own way.
If she is stalling -- then talk to HER and help her find the time, way and confidence to tell her mother.
She needs love and support from her family -- just make sure you give it to her. Just be there for her and LOVE her.
2007-03-05 07:19:56 · answer #7 · answered by Angie S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say anything just yet; Give her like 2 weeks totell her and if she doesn't then you need to tell your sister for her. But don't wait to long becuz if they don't want to keep the baby!
2007-03-05 07:17:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you will only give her until a certain date to tell her, and if she hasn't by then you tell her. I say this because its important for her to get in to see a doctor and the longer she waits to tell her mom, the longer she is going without professional prenatal care.
2007-03-05 07:17:11 · answer #9 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
YOUR NIECE TRUST U. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE Don't betray her trust. Your niece confided in you and its best to keep her trust. I would encourage her to tell her mother but i would definately let her do it. Its obvious that your niece trust you, so respect that. I would keep a close eye on her and the baby but let her tell. unless its harmful to the baby and her be a great aunt and continue to obtain her trust.
GOOD
LUCK
2007-03-05 07:28:31 · answer #10 · answered by nishababe74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋