My ex and I get along very well and have a friendly, co-parenting relationship of one child. He has been off-and-on seeing someone for the past five years. I have a boyfriend. I do not expect my boyfriend to be friends with my ex. My ex, however, does not want to marry his girlfriend unless I can accept her and be friends with her. My answer to him was this: go ahead and marry her. I don't care. I trust her with our child and know that she will treat him well. I will not be friends with her however. I am not going to spend holidays with you all or hang around her. That's my line in the sand. I will get along with everyone civilly.
Do I have to be friends with her for the sake of my child? Or is it ok for me to draw the line in the sand here?
Thanks.
2007-03-05 07:12:03 · 8 answers · asked by annie bananny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you're about as reasonable as they come. Tell your ex to grow up, make a decision whether or not he wants to marry his g/f, and leave you out of it.
2007-03-05 07:18:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say you need to have a freindly relationship with each other, respect each other and be able to talk openly so that you know whats going on with your kid. but as far as best freinds lets share all our secrets and talk about boys and life and our dreams and all that jazz...thats a bit much. Friends maybe...just in the sense that you dont mind spending time with her...but not best friends. Thats what i think good luck
2007-03-05 07:21:06 · answer #2 · answered by Courtney C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to be friends but also dont lie to yourself...Smiling and being happy around someone you really don't like isn't easy it could take a toll on you.
2007-03-05 07:35:39 · answer #3 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u do not have to
howevere if u wish to u may
tough sometimes its more of a burden then anythin else esp. if u try to move on later cause she may have feelings/ or u may - so it will mess wth both of u
2007-03-05 07:25:08 · answer #4 · answered by . 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right on. You shouldn't be forced to like anyone just because... Except maybe your inlaws or outlaws as I like to call them
2007-03-05 07:24:35 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe not Friends, but for the well being of your child, I would suggest being civil towards her.............
2007-03-05 07:19:32 · answer #6 · answered by tallerfella 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no u dont have to be friends. what you said was fine i would of done the same thing.
2007-03-05 07:17:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you don not-
2007-03-05 07:15:16 · answer #8 · answered by baseballlover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋