I'm nearly 15 years old and i have always felt so silly 2 go up and dance and i have no idea why! I mean i am a dancer myself and i did a dance at this disco but i just don't have the guts to go up there its soo stressful because they all looks so good doing it! i really want to overcome this! and feel confident! but how?? i mean i felt so silly :(
2007-03-05 07:09:02 · 12 answers · asked by Pureness =) 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Dancing
same with me love! i used to dance in a class and found it great when i danced in competitions but as soon as i started going clubbing i just found it so embarrasing. i think its because when you have a routine its easier to do it infront of people but freestyle moving can jst look silly. but dont worry, no one (no matter how you may think it) is looking at you. they all feel just as insecure!! xxx
2007-03-05 07:12:52 · answer #1 · answered by hana woo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ha! I thought I was the only one, I mean, a dancer who is not comfortable at clubs. Either go with your friends from dance school, (but you will be running a danger that the whole club stops dancing and starts staring at your little group, because all of you are good, way better than the rest of the crowd - that's what once happeded to us) or give yourself a break - you are not on the stage, you don't have to look perfect. The truth is, you are probably much better at disco dancing than those people you are referring to as "so good" but you don't realize it. Because disco dancing feels silly after you had some serious training :-)
2007-03-05 15:55:50 · answer #2 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most people get nervous in a large crowd maybe you should start in a amaller venue and work up take a few months but might be worth it. also you might just be more concious because of you changing a little and feel alot of people are looking at you more than they really are dance by yourself in front of a mirror that might help don't go drinking that is the worst thing you can do you may "loosen" up but how "loose" will you become just remember the person who asked you to dance may think they are just as goofy when they dance but I would say over 85% think they are no good at dancing in a crowd everyone is a little different but we all get nervous when we are doing things in a crowd vs by ourselves or in a practicing group. besides you haven't even lived a third of your life enjoy it don't let anyone bring you down.
2007-03-05 15:26:25 · answer #3 · answered by Bear_Polaroid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i`m 24 and still have this problem,i was fine when i was younger and didn`t care what people thought as long as i was having a good time without being to serious,but now due to low confidence and self esteem i feel realy self conscious and silly so i tend to avoid going clubbing,i think like me you should try work on your confidence and remember most people are rubbish dancers anyway!!goodluck,x
2007-03-05 15:40:33 · answer #4 · answered by onlyme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same exact way!
I always want to go out there and dance,
cuz I know im good, but it just feels so awkward....
I feel stupid and small, and just plain weird....I understand how you
feel. The best thing to do is if you really love dancing who cares!
Just go out there and dance ur heart out!
If your Friends make fun of you, then that's there problem not yours.
2007-03-05 15:36:24 · answer #5 · answered by ceel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings are almost universal. You're out of your normal style, and it's perfectly understandable. You didn't say what style of dance you're trained in, but if you recall you weren't comfy with it, either, when you first started. Experience and training, I bet, have largely overcome that in your chosen style, and the same will eventually happen at discos through the same mechanism.
2007-03-05 19:46:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason you feel this way is because your self confidence is probably low. i'm also almost 15, and i'm VERY shy this way. i just tend not to dance at all... but going somewhere and doing what everyone else is doing is very hard for me. just talk to everyone around you, get to know them, and then get them to dance with you! it can be more fun when you know them. =)
2007-03-05 15:17:49 · answer #7 · answered by Hailey L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. I do showdance and am fine on stage, but in a club or disco I hide in a corner.
2007-03-05 15:17:06 · answer #8 · answered by gymnastics~is~life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever watched your self dance, trust me it really doesn't matter how you look when your dancing, just enjoy the music and dance the way you feel
2007-03-05 15:22:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try going to dance-classes.that would help you overcome the bad feeling of dancing around other people.
or-dance along with videos on mtv.learn the moves.
and don't drink if your friends say it will loosen you up!
dancing is fun!enjoy :D
2007-03-05 15:13:30 · answer #10 · answered by flaming red 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋