my brother is 17 and i'm 15. we fight all the time, mostly about stupid things. i hate it, i want us to have a better realtionship so lately i've been trying to be nice to him, he won't budge and always puts me down. i only remember 2 times when we ever had a good time together just the 2 of us, one was last year when we were on my uncles 4-wheeler, he was driving and i was holding on to him. we were laughing and he would go fast to get me scared and i would just hold on to him tighter. i never felt closer to him in my life than at that point. the second time was last week we were at church and clapping and singing along during praise and worship and we were copying how everybody else clapped and whispered to each other like little kids would. i know it was mean mimiking ( i spelt that wrong) every one else and not very polite to whisper in church but i will always remember that. now he's back to his old mean self. what else can i do? please help...
2007-03-05 07:07:22 · 12 answers · asked by i totally agree with you!! not 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
neither of us can drive yet so we can't go anywhere together
2007-03-05 07:08:37 · update #1
Well, believe it or not you two are totally normal, my sister and I were like that and so was my husband with his little sister. Your brother likes you trust me, wait and see when you start dating, he will be more protective than your parents. I know you probably don't want to hear this but you will become even closer when he moves away to college. My sister and fought all the time until she moved away, and that gave us more to talk about and we became closer. Good luck and remember, it is not you, it's is just the situation that all siblings go through.
2007-03-05 07:15:12 · answer #1 · answered by Fallon V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister and I had the same difference in age as you and your brother, and although I am older, she acted very much like your brother does! While you aren't often close and don't usually get along, you are not unlike most siblings. As bad as that can feel, the best thing you can do is keep trying - remove yourself from the situation when things are bad, and enjoy it when it is good. Following a particularly good experience, you may want to tell your brother how much you enjoyed spending time with him while you were getting along. After a bad time, tell him how disappointed you feel when the two of you fight. He may just need a wake up call (he is a teenage boy, after all :) Either way, know that as you both get older, your relationship will change, and you will most likely come to appreciate one another and become friends as well as siblings. Good luck!
2007-03-05 15:32:25 · answer #2 · answered by tech_girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may never get along the way you want, and there is no way to make it happen. For instance my buddy and his sister do not get along, there personalities are just to different. Same thing with my older brother and me, he just annoys the heck out of me. As time goes by you may start to have more in common and family may become more important to your bro. But you are younger and thus you annoy him. Siblings fight, it's what they do.
2007-03-05 15:50:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to find out if he really does dislike you.If he does then find out what it is about you that makes him angry.Perhaps he is not angry with you at all.He may be going through something right now that is upsetting him.He has to ventilate,get it out of his system ..so he takes it out on you.People take out their frustrations on the ones they love.They do because they know that they will not abandon them,even after they have been so mean to them.In the meant time be patient and do not stop loving your brother. Eventually he will come around. You are family!
2007-03-05 22:56:27 · answer #4 · answered by earthangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my brother and me used to fight all the time, but ever since he moved out weve had a much closer relationship(im 12 and hes 20) i think that you should ask him to go do something together like for example if he likes golfing ask him if he wants to go golfing sometime. =D
2007-03-05 16:00:45 · answer #5 · answered by Gloom and Doom™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its normal...i mean brothers and sisters dont get along!!Wait till your older... I am sure you will be good frens! Until then act normal. Being too nice can freak him out. Be normal or talk to him about how you guys argue way too much...hope this helps
2007-03-05 16:50:04 · answer #6 · answered by lynette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a borther who is two years older too and i am 14 n he is 16 and we are really close we watch movies together at night (no "homo") and just talk like tell eafch other stuff that happeneds so why dont u try talking to him about something then ask him to do stuff
2007-03-05 16:45:38 · answer #7 · answered by PinkGink 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i also have a brother who is 2 years older than me. i know it's hard. do little nice things for him, be nice to him, but don't over do it. he may try to use it all against you if he know's you'll "make him the sandwich he asked for" , (example). just be nice. it works for me pretty well.
Good luck with getting along with your brother, and best wishes. =)
2007-03-05 15:13:10 · answer #8 · answered by Hailey L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is WAIT!
My brother and I couldn't stand each other. My parents used to say we would end up crippling each other. Same for my cousin and his little sister.
Now, we all get along like we've been best friends for decades.
2007-03-05 16:00:39 · answer #9 · answered by Mika M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie - 17 yr old boys can be TWITS!!! Just keep being nice (or just ignore him) and when he gets through this brat age, he will turn human. I raised 2 boys and 1 girl -- the boys were just awful to her, but when they became adults, they became inseparable. Just hang in there and you two will get through this.
2007-03-05 15:13:17 · answer #10 · answered by GP 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋