My boyrfiend and I were right at the two and a half year mark when he broke up with me. This was about 2 weeks ago. Every other night he calls me and tells me how much he loves me and regrets it. Then the next day he tells me he hates me and doesn't want to talk to me ever again. His behavior is rude and not how you would treat someone you love. I'm not sure if he is confused or just playing games with me? Any thoughts? Is me calling him just what he wants? Should I ignore him or give him a taste of his own medicine?
2007-03-05 07:02:06 · 15 answers · asked by danielle_renee119 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He sounds skittish! I would not call him (I know this may be hard but this is the time to go out with the girls) and do not accept his phone calls..
He is leading you on and sounds like he is confused. Maybe he is calling you out of habit or somethign..
But I would not talk to him for a few weeks/months and see what happens.
2007-03-05 07:07:17 · answer #1 · answered by *G* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Facts: He broke up with you after 2.5 years.
He now calls every other night with expressions of heartfelt and undying love and repentance.
The VERY NEXT DAY he tells you he hates you and doesn't want to talk to you ever again.
You realize he is rude and is not treating you the way a person would treat someone they love.
You don't really need help, hon. you see and understand what is going on right in front of you. He is not confused. He knows what he is doing.
He is toying with you. I don't know what he said when he broke up with you, but he is acting like a child. I hate you I love you I hate you I love you...
The question is, how long are you willing to put up with his abuse. You don't hate the person you love. You aren't cruel and unkind, playing head games. He is being mean & nasty. He doesn't mean it when he says he loves you or the hate word would never come up.
You need to move on with your life, and find someone who truly cares about you, and won't play silly games when they have the emotional advantage over you.
Try your best to put him behind you.
He may have been your boyfriend once, but not he is no longer good to you or good for you. His behavior has proved that. Stop calling him.
Hope this helps.
2007-03-05 15:51:26 · answer #2 · answered by 1985 & going strong 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, move on. If it's over why are the two of you calling each other? This is the time to reflect on the relationship, assess what was right and wrong, learn from your experiences and move on. The longer you drag a break up on, the more it hurts. Focus on what you want to do for you, rather than what he's thinking. And remember, being singles oes have it's advantages.
2007-03-05 15:10:20 · answer #3 · answered by quegomail 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him, obviously he did not want to be with you for some reason - it hurts but its true (I've been there). What probably happened is he left you for something he thought was better and realized it wasn't. YOUR ARE SECOND TO KNOW ONE. So be tough, struggle through it and move on. If in a few weeks/months, you think he is sincere make sure that he does the things he did in the beginning to get you back. He has to make you fall back in love/like with him again.
2007-03-05 15:10:40 · answer #4 · answered by K B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, leave him alone, go out or stay with a friend if you can for a few days, turn the phone off. Sit on your hands with this one. Go out with your friends, take a nice bubble bath and have a glass of wine (if your old enough... I don't know) and listen to your favorite music. Do all those things that you like to do. Watch lifetime, eat junkfood, wear your robe all day .... stuff like that, but don't call him! He'll come back or move on, but you don't need that roller coaster of b/s either way.
2007-03-05 15:08:27 · answer #5 · answered by sassinya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dear bo sounds to be either very confused, manipulative, or bipolar. I'm not all for downing drugs and calling it the cure, but there are ways for him to feel more balanced, so he doesn't have to regret his decisions every other day, and you don't have to put up with the chaos. See if there are any other symptoms, which might indicate a bipolar disorder.
2007-03-05 15:16:16 · answer #6 · answered by Tink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, he is acting like a spoil brat reaching out for attention. Honey, move on and stop expecting calls from him. If you don't have caller I.D. and you find out it is him, hang up. It is obvious you need a real man and he is not it. What man do you know play games like that. Honey, we are all grown around here and no one have time for childish games. Tell him it is over and stop callin you. Move on!!!! He has already made it clear he doesn't want you any more so why call you. DUH on his part!
2007-03-05 15:07:42 · answer #7 · answered by jetta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should move the f**k on. You are soo much better off without him. This is what u do. Do not answer or listen to his calls and start dating again. If he loves you he will make it up to you. To see if he is honest he will fight for you
2007-03-05 15:15:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you calling him is playing right into his hands he thinks he has you right where he wants you think about it why did he break it off with you to begin with look and re-read your post and you will see things alot better,my idea is he is playing games thinking since he broke it off with you and still can come back sweet one day mean that night or visa versa that he can act the way he wants i certainly wouldnt call him and wouldnt break my leg to answer the phone when he called
2007-03-05 15:15:08 · answer #9 · answered by loveChrist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex is having a bit of a jackal and hide, he thinks he can do without you and then changes his mind. Don't let him treat you this way, he wants his cake and eat it. He doesn't want you but is confusing you so you don't go with someone else, move on and let him go.
2007-03-05 15:08:26 · answer #10 · answered by kittiebann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋