I am engaged and we have been together for about a year now. Everything was great at first I really liked him and we spent every moment together. We now live together and a lot has changed. I do love him, but I dont think that he can stay faithful. I think this because I have found numerous emails and messages from him where he is flirting with tons of girls even ones he doesnt know and cant even see a picture of what they look like and sometimes the messages are sexual. I dont think hes has cheated on me but I believe its going to happen sooner or later. I have confronted him and he jumps on me because I dont trust him. He has also told me that he has never been faithful in any of his past relationships. he also disrespects me by commenting on almost every single female we see. I really feel that he has a problem with being monogomous. He tells me he loves me and he wants to get maried but how can I marry a man that I dont trust?
2007-03-05 07:00:16 · 8 answers · asked by Vanilla Cream 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't marry or stay with someone you can't trust. It's really just that simple. Sorry, honey. But he ain't worth it.
2007-03-05 07:11:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been married for 5 yrs and just a year ago I found out tha my hubby was talking to anohter girl. She is married with 2 kids. I found out bcuz he started acting different and told me that I had gained alot of weight.I took a look at the cell phone bill and that's when i found out.he said I pushed him to that because I was so jeolous for no reason.he is blaming me for everything. Now I decided to lose weight and not show any type of jealousy.I know he still talks to her and texts her.It is killing me inside, but I will not say anything until I lose the weight and feel confident.He also says he loves me.I guess you have to give him an ultimatum.You don't want to be with someone thats gonna have you wondering what hes doing. It is a terrible feeling.
2007-03-05 07:18:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do yourself a favor and leave this man as quickly as you can. If only I was smart enough to have followed this advise years ago before I got married. I was not lucky enough to discover my husbands wandering nature until after we had already walked down the aisle. Be smarter than I was and do not make the same mistakes I did.
If he hasn't cheated yet, he will.
2007-03-05 07:19:21 · answer #3 · answered by freyja5683 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drop the chump, he is not respecting you at all, if someone treated my daughter that way id have to step in and move the guy out of her life for good, no trust? you can never really love someone like that, it will be love in vain for you, and that will lead to nothing but a life spent in misery with false hope, trust me on this, my wife did this to me, evidently he doesnt have heart
2007-03-05 07:18:54 · answer #4 · answered by sofmatty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haven't you figured out that men are conquerers by nature. Once we've made a conquest, its time to move on. And men are practicle too. Why buy a cow if you can get free milk? Ann Bolin drove Henry IIIV crazy by holding back the treats. Next time, don't be so quick to fall back with your legs wide open.
2007-03-05 07:11:32 · answer #5 · answered by rico3151 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everything that us say he does....does not sound like he is ready to settle down. Red Flag everywhere don't be blinded by love.
2007-03-05 07:06:56 · answer #6 · answered by chyna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone to be with that respects you and that can be trusted to treat you the way you deserve.
2007-03-05 07:04:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant be married to some one who is not trustworthy. Be happy you discovered this behavior before you got married.
2007-03-05 07:13:06 · answer #8 · answered by zax_fl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋