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Question

I am finding it so strange, I want to move on however my heart isnt with me to accept that - and my mind wants to moe on now - its creazy
I dun know what to do... no idea at all...

After a break-up it’s been quite a while now, well --- almost a year,

And I can’t seem to be able to re-commit myself in any other relationship, I mean I've turned down a bunch of people, and I have been looking, it’s not like I have not!! But, I am constantly running away from it, I just can’t see myself in one again for some reason,

Yesterday, this guy I had a huge thing for sometime back, told me that he feels the same and also tried to make a move on me, and I just didn’t feel anything at all..... Is that strange?? What’s happening?
What do I do??

Please help, advice and opinions appreciated.

Thanks allot

Answer 1

You aren't ready to move on....no mystery...just a little disappointing to you.

Take your time, men may be like buses, one comes around every 15 minutes but relationships aren't buses. They are gold plated rolls royces. Hold out for the gold. You will feel it in your heart when you meet someone worth pursuing.

And, remember, someone worth pursuing is someone worth taking the risk of being heartbroken again. Heartbreak tells you that you are alive and that you have owned something wonderful and that you have been loved and will be loved again.

Answer 2

Whatever you do...please make sure you are keeping the other parts of your life happy, healthy and nourished. To still have such a "crazed" feeling about moving on after a year seems like you haven't gotten over some of the things that were done to you in that relationship. Even though it takes the heart time to move on, a year is a bit much. That means you are spending a lot of time thinking about your time with this person OR a lot of time thinking about how you can never be with anyone else. Either of which are both unhealthy. Try going someplace where you can relax and open up your mind and your heart. You might even want to break out the I-Pod and listen to something really inspirational to you (not something that both of you listened to) and then just let your thoughts fly out into a journal. Don't be too judgmental about what or how you write....just write for however long you feel so inspired. Then close the journal and go on about your day. Don't read it until you are ready to read it...but try to do those exercises as much as possible without forcing it. Through your writings (or you can record them onto a tape) you might begin to realize what it is that is making you afraid of relationships. More importantly, I hope this helps to free your mind of the clutter that is preventing you from moving on with your beautiful life.

Answer 3

I can only tell you what I think I would do. I think I would get some time on my own completely. if you feel nothing then you have nothing to give right now and it would not be fair to him if you said you did. We all need friends and people around us, but do not get into a relationship if you don't feel it. I suspect you still have some more grief or pain to deal with before you can really see yourself with another person. I think you should give yourself that time. If you truly feel nothing for him... let it go. go find out what you feel and want and need first of all. the more you have loved someone the longer it can take before you are ready to meet and greet a new one... (even old new ones) Best of luck to you.

Answer 4

sometimes it takes time - a lot of time in your case. Its normal.


however, if you feel like you still want to be with this person you were once with - try it again. I always tell people - if you want one more round - do it ... then maybe after that you will FOR SURE know how you feel.

im sorry but no one on here can tell you what to do - its either get back with that other guy and see whats happens - or if you really dont want that -- try to move on - it may take a lot of time - but it will happen!


good luck.

Answer 5

Apparently your just not ready yet. It can take a long time to mend a broken heart. You shouldn't be in any rush to find that special someone, because he is there some where and one day whether you are ready or not you will find that special someone. Love doesn't wait around until you are ready, it just happens and when it does you will know it!

Much happiness

Answer 6

Your just not ready to move on.
Take time to get to know yourself and then you will find happiness. I was alone for almost two years before I found that someone to make my heart whole again. Don't rush it. Only time can heal that broken heart.

Answer 7

Maybe your not ready now - i'd say enjoy your freedom. Work on yourself. Sometimes it does take a while to get back into the game of even wanting someone. Take your time it will all come to you eventually.

Answer 8

Maybe you're just not ready for another relationship. What's the hurry? Take your time. It won't seem like you have to force it and it won't be a struggle when you are ready again.

Answer 9

Dude you think you have it bad of one year ago, TRY 7 years!!! I still haven't gotten over my ex. I love him as if I had bearly fallen for him. But it's normal, and even if you don't care for other men but they care for you try it. I haven't been able to move on because he just won't go away. He wants to have me but in a beneficial friendship kind of a way. So really I haven't had time to move on or even other people to help me, but if you do go for it. If you don't help yourself to move on millions of comments and opinions won't do ****. Help yourself.

Answer 10

You're just not ready.....give yourself all the time you need, and when you're "really" ready for another relationship, you'll know. Meanwhile focus your attention on something else, things that you enjoy doing.