so he's a friend who helped me out financially because i was struggling with a newborn baby. he's not the dad.. not possible we never had sex. he has let me borrow money until my child support kicked in.. well in some of the emails he would send.. he would refer to my baby as"his" he would write something like "so how is my son" . At first I didn't go along but Me and the baby Bio father were not getting along so, I knew it was just joking so I said "Our son is fine". Well my baby's Bio dad while at my home visiting the baby, got into my email and read my emails including the ones between me and my friend. Well, my friend has fallen in love with me and the baby so he really got into the I'm the baby daddy thing. My babies real father read these, and so now and I understand this,he wants a DNA when we go to Child support court, no problem.I know its 100% his, and he says he's gonna give the emails which he forwarded from my email to his mail to his lawyer. what can they do w/ them?
2007-03-05 06:36:58 · 16 answers · asked by Shalie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The money my friend let me borrow.. I have paid that back to him, so I wasn't trying to get money "out" of him. he offered to help when He found out i was about to lose my home and car with a newborn baby. There is nothing going on with me and my friend.. and yes I probably led him on a lil because I didn't want to lose the help.. but he knows it's not his and so do I...
2007-03-05 07:00:13 · update #1
You have nothing to worry about if the baby is his. When the DNA test is done, it will show him as the father, and you can explain that the emails were just a little joke between you and your friend. The emails won't do any good since the DNA test will come back with him as the father. Relax... as long as what you say is true, everything will be fine.
2007-03-05 06:42:31 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shalie, just have your friend write up an explanation of why you all were saying that. Your baby's father should not have been looking at your e-mail, and if you had not given him permission to look at or forward them, then they are most probably not going to be allowed in court anyway. But if they are allowed, a brief explanation under oath from your friend to the court should suffice. Also, DNA says it all now a days. He is going to have to pay child support, he is just trying to find a way to wiggle out of it AND make you look like the "bad" here.
Talk to your lawyer about this situation and get everything in order and he won't have any ammo to use.
2007-03-05 06:45:06 · answer #2 · answered by dedum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They can't do anything with them, the DNA will tell the story, just let the judge know the same thing you told us. This guy was helping you out with the baby and jokingly refered to the baby as his. The judge should understand and the DNA testing will back up your story. You can also tell the judge that the babies father did not have your permission to look at your email, that should cause the judge to throw out the email evidence anyway. Good Luck
2007-03-05 06:44:33 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to worry, if he truly is the biological father the DNA testing the court performs will prove he is the boys father. Explain to biological Dad that you understand him wanting the proof and that this other man has been helping you out and certainly knows that he is not the dad (you do need to reinforce this to him) and that you understand that this is hurtful to the biological Dad and neither of you can refer to this man as your sons father. Get this matter cleared up with your friend quickly. You don't want this to interfere with the relationship between bio-dad and your son. Also...tell bio dad he is there to visit the boy, not to snoop in your stuff.
2007-03-05 06:46:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, getting the dna test will prove what you know to be true, and if there is any questions, just have your friend testify to what you just told us. Also, what was the baby's dad doing going through your email. If he did that without your permission, you might want to tell your lawyer that as well.
2007-03-05 06:42:45 · answer #5 · answered by I love sushi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should NEVER have sent those emails, and BAD mistake to even joke with him I take it. You will get scared at 1st BECAUSE they will try to intimidate u!!! DO NOT let them win!! U never meant a thing in the emails. The Bio sperm-donor can get into legal trouble for reading your mail!!!!!!! DO THAT!! Call a lawyer.
2007-03-05 06:45:06 · answer #6 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing, nothing. And it does not matter what other people think- your Friend was there for you all the way. I bet there are girls out there who wish they had a friend like yours. As for the father of the baby- MR.DNA- go for it. HEl'll have to pay since he requested it. Good luck
2007-03-05 08:29:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them the truth, and tell them your friend was a REAL man by stepping up and being a dad (he might not have been the sperm donar, but he acted the dad part) Old saying for your ex, give em enough rope and they will hang themselves, In other words, do not try to hide or deny anything, it will all work out and it shows you was the honest one in this relationship.
2007-03-05 06:41:18 · answer #8 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about emails. DNA is all you need. If I got called on every silly goofing around comment I ever put in an email I'd be in jail by now.
2007-03-05 06:41:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you really got yourself into a fix eh? There's nothing you can do, but have the test done, then see what the results are. At this point, I don't think there's much you can say or do ... that would make one bit of difference.
2007-03-05 06:49:59 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Carol♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋