okay so i had this best friend who ive known for 2 years on the internet, shes totally cool, we have so much alike! and i love her, i really do, she has a great personality, now the thing is, that yesterday she finally sent me her picture, and she told me wat she looked like, blonde...blue eyes, that stuff, now when i c the picture, i was a bit shocked cuz it wasnt wat i expected,we get a long soooo great and to c her made me kinda get my hopes down. i am going to say the truth...she was a bit messed up in the face. i think i sound shallow do i? i mean i know looks r important, now its not everything, but it is the first thing we c, well ive known her personality first, so now im a bit shocked, and i sound so shallow....and i really really dont know wat to do, i was gonna visit her in a few years, but now im thinking of ending the friendship, god wat do it do??
2007-03-05 06:12:51 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Were you looking for a romantic relationship with her? Usually it doesn't matter what friends look like unless we are attracted to them, and even then, sometimes looks don't make all that much difference (but I'm not going to lie...we are all attracted to certain looks, but if she's just a friend, why do you care?). You can still be her friend. That's what friendship is all about...being supportive of each other. We are all imperfect. What if she didn't want to be YOUR friend because she didn't like your picture or the fact that you broke your arm when you were 10? You would think she was mean. After all, you're supposed to be FRIENDS! If we were all perfect, we wouldn't even need friends in the first place. I think you'll get over it if you just keep talking. It may take time to get over your impression but pretty soon, things will go back to normal.
2007-03-05 06:48:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Come to think of it, what you're doing is shallow because you want to end the friendship due to looks. You're saying that she is a nice girl, so why don't you continue the friendship and be the kind of friend that she is looking for? Looks aren't everything and you can't judge a book by its cover. Don't be so picky of the friends that you make on the internet. You chose to talk to her and open up to her so just be her friend. I hope my advice helps you. Good luck.
2007-03-05 06:33:39 · answer #2 · answered by Lady S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow you do sound quite shallow...maybe her description wasnt the best to describe her picture...but still if you enough her "company", even if its over the internet...you should still be her friend...maybe she realizes she has something wrong with her face...and didnt want to be judged by you...and thats why she waitd till now to send the pic...and now ur doing exactly what she was hoping you wouldnt do...get freaked out and click right out of her life.
I think you should still be her friend...and when u feel more comfortable talk to her about it.
2007-03-05 06:20:14 · answer #3 · answered by icingonthekake99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just an adjustment. You've been imagining this girl for two years and now that she's not what you pictured it will only take some getting used to. Don't end the friendship over this. Just give it some time to sink in.
2007-03-05 06:27:01 · answer #4 · answered by figglepie123 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't sound shallow, you are shallow. What does it matter how she looks? I'd understand if she was a 56 year old man that was just trying to lure you to his place, but that's not the case. She's a friend and if you were really her friend you'd still go meet her.
2007-03-05 06:20:53 · answer #5 · answered by Just D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't 'sound' shallow, you are BEING shallow. How old are you? 12, 13 years old? Hopefully, there is still time for you to grow out of this immaturity. Does she realize how shallow you are? I would be much more embarrassed to have a shallow friend than an ugly friend. Please begin the road to maturity by continuing to love your friend for who she is.
2007-03-05 06:45:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I talked with my husband for a while before i saw his picture. I was also shocked. Looks didn't matter because i already knew what a beautiful person he was. I married my best friend.Now he is beautiful inside and out. Sometimes pictures are deceiving
2007-03-05 06:22:11 · answer #7 · answered by ladydaisy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 05:51:38 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So to be your friend, i'd have to be pruity??
So, If im ugly, can i still give you my opinion about your situation?
Or do you not even take advice from people "messed up in the face"?
2007-03-05 06:23:11 · answer #9 · answered by Java Chip 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think that is a stupid way to end a friendship just because of her looks that isnt right im sorry but it isnt so..yea best of luck<3
2007-03-05 06:22:06 · answer #10 · answered by !${*~ stressed and confused~*}$! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋