My husband has started to flirt with young women everytime we go anywhere, whether at a restaurant, or while we're shopping.
It has gotten to the point that I don't want to go anywhere with him, as I am so embarrassed.
I am at a loss as to how to deal with this problem.
2007-03-05 06:09:47 · 20 answers · asked by Molly B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i don't know why married men flirts or looks at younger women my husband did too when we went to grocery store or walmart were seprated now on acount of abuse now adays young girl's half dresses showing body parts i think its indecent
2007-03-09 04:45:27 · answer #1 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think one of two things is happening. 1. He really and truly thinks that he is hot-as-fire and that a young woman finds him too sexy for his shirt (aka mid-life crisis) or 2. He is trying to intimidate YOU to see if you still care. We tend to lose the flirtiness we once had when we've been with the same person for a while. My husband does this occasionally and I laugh. Think of the really personal things that a "new love interest" might not be so interested in. Dirty underwear,socks,him on the toilet,his bad habits, and shrug it off. Retaliation is the best reward. Start working out,dressing different, etc. and he'll wonder if YOU have a new love interest. I bet you a million his focus will be directed at you. Remember, you gotta do what you did when you caught him in order to keep him. Bring sexy back!!!! Remind yourself that he is not as fine as he thinks he is and that no younger woman will put up with some of his unchangeable habits. Laugh at him when he flirts in front of you. When he asks what you are laughing at say to yourself, "Do you REALLY think she's interested in you?" Poo stained underwear,balding head,pot belly,stinky feet,burping,farting,etc. all those things a new woman would not be interested in knowing about him that YOU already know. It will make you feel better. Meanwhile, make him jealous of YOU!!! Men notice big changes and they hate it. Everytime I am dieting, my husband will purposely bring home cookies and junk food. They don't want anyone to have their woman. Personally, I think you're husband is fishing for your attention. Make him feel sexy again. He should do the same for you.
2007-03-05 14:30:33 · answer #2 · answered by wondermom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, don't allow this to continue. Sure he may be feeling old and looking for attention from younger girls. However, it is very disrespectful and embarrassing of him to do this in front of you and he needs to know that. You need to tell him how it embarrasses you. If he doesn't understand this and cares more about flirting, then you need to seriously re-evaluate your relationship. If he still doesn't understand you could try flirting with younger men. Do it all the time and watch how it makes him feel. Does he get embarrassed? Does he get jealous? Don't let him tell you flirting is harmless. If it makes you uncomfortable, he shouldn't be doing it.
2007-03-05 14:23:39 · answer #3 · answered by Swim Mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be careful and keep your eyes open my ex started with the flirting and then ended up sleeping with one of my daughters friend he is 40 and the girl is 17, so just pay attention to change when he started changing big time and you notice, look out he is about to do something extra or he has done it already.
2007-03-05 14:17:12 · answer #4 · answered by la-la 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's searching for his youth. He probably is just looking for a little attention from a younger person to prove to himself that he's not washed up. My dad went thru it and my mom just understood that flirting was as far as it would go. She knew he had acquired some insecurities about his age and that was his way of feeling up to par, if even for a moment. Unless he's become a pervert, I don't think I'd put alot of emphasis on innocent flirting.
2007-03-05 14:28:09 · answer #5 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh,I know what the issue is here,he is flirting with younger women because they make him feel like he is younger and more attractive.You have nothing to worry about,he just wants to see if he can find his youth again.All men go thru this stage in the later years.
2007-03-05 14:14:28 · answer #6 · answered by Brenda 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone who said to start flirting with men. Make sure you look awesome EVERY TIME you go out. And flirt right in front of him, just like he is doing to you.
2007-03-05 14:15:24 · answer #7 · answered by Kari R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first thought was to reply as Joshua did, but after thinking about it more..........
Can't you speak with him and let him know that what he's doing is upsetting and demeaning to you? It's your feelings in that matter that count, not his ability to justify or minimize his actions. If he's unable to properly and maturely communicate this with you, he doesn't deserve you and the 40 years you put into this.
I wish you luck -
2007-03-05 14:15:40 · answer #8 · answered by Bobbie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not unusual for a man, as he gets on in years, to make a last ditch effort to maintain youth and vitality. It will pass bit, if you feel he is making a show of himself you may need to express your concerns.
2007-03-05 14:19:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he should see the horrified look on these women's faces, a look that says he reminds them of a perverted old man.
2007-03-05 14:17:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋