Long story short... I have been with my now wife for over 6 years. We have been married a little over a year and a half. Months before our 1 year anniv. I found out that she had been having an affair with another man. After a couple of months of fighting for her, I got her back... sort of. She has not spoken to or seen this other guy in months. She tells me she was not sexual with him at all. Before this we didn't have sex a lot, but we did some. We would "mess around" frequently, and would occasionaly kiss or have foreplay. Now, and for more than a year, sex is not even a thought or option, she just says "I don't like it." The same with passionate kissing, not an option. She will occasionally pleasure me, however, very rarely wants me, or allows me to do anything with her. What can I do to help her through this? Am I out of luck? How can I help spark something again with us?
2007-03-05 06:03:37 · 10 answers · asked by I.M. Worried 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow!! You actually believe she is not fecking someone else? You are very naive.
2007-03-05 06:10:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe the two of you should seek marriage counseling. Intimacy is a very important part of any successful marriage. There is a problem if she does not want to share herself with you. If you really want to work it out, the two of you need to talk and try to get to the root of the problem. Good luck.
2007-03-05 14:09:19 · answer #2 · answered by cashis 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried courting your wife again, start by buying her flowers, take her out for a meal. Try that for a while and see where it may lead.
If you get no joy then your marriage is dead, and i would start over, you`ll have tried everything.
You need to get on with living and find someone else.
2007-03-05 14:11:38 · answer #3 · answered by Tatty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, your wife was having sex during her affair. Yes, she came back to you, probably due to feeling of guilt or obligation, but she sure doesn't want to have sex with you. You don't turn her on. These are just the facts.
2007-03-05 14:46:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't by any chance the guy in Michigan who dismembered his wife the other day, are you?
Cuz man, that's where this thing is heading. Jimi Hendrix said it best, "I'm going down to shoot my old lady, you know I caught her messing around with another man."
2007-03-07 21:40:19 · answer #5 · answered by ferdinando! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typical woman. She wants adventure, romance, pain, candles, passion, mystery and conflict -- only NOT with you. All women are totally screwed up in the head and can't understand why their lives aren't like some damn chick-flick. Confront her, MAKE her tell you just why in hell she no longer wants sex and ask her to go to counseling with you. Then go ahead and retain the nastiest divorce lawyer money can buy (before she does).
This is your only hope to salvage your marriage.
2007-03-05 14:11:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just surprise her big time one day and be surprised with her reaction. Women need to be pampered so you can have them in to the mood
2007-03-05 15:09:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a big problem. Try seeing a counselor. Just by yourself then with her.
2007-03-05 14:07:48 · answer #8 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you a big boy downstairs??? ;)
My husband says I want it too much!!! That's why he buys me lots and lots of toys to play with!!!
2007-03-05 14:12:29 · answer #9 · answered by Melrose 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
she has another man!
2007-03-05 14:18:56 · answer #10 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋