I have asked what the deal is... He has gained some weight and says it bothers him. He is eating better and we started walking. But I want it NOW and I feel like I am going crazy. Yes, I have toys and such but the real thing is way better! Any suggestions?
2007-03-05 05:56:44 · 6 answers · asked by megokane 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thanks to those who have answered so far... I am very supportive of him. I love him even with the extra weight. I am not perfect either. I have asked him if anything else if wrong. If I want sex, I just have to grab him and tease until he is ready. It feels wrong to me though that he doesn't just want me for no reason... We use to have sex every day! I tell him that all of his buddies would be envious if they knew I wanted it all the time! I have tried not pressuring him for a couple days and got no results either!
2007-03-05 06:13:34 · update #1
make sure he knows you find him sexy even with some extra weight (we would want the same from them). When it comes down to it, one of the biggest turn ons for men, is to have us (the women) to just take them. Don't take no for an answer!! Ride 'em cowgirl!
2007-03-05 06:04:51 · answer #1 · answered by kebbs32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you're describing to me is absolutely normal. It sounds to me like he has simply lost a little confidence as a result of puting on a few pounds, that's all. He wants to lose as much weight as he can before he starts to have sex with you again. The extra weight gain has DEFINTELY made him feel unattractive. Trust me I see this all the time: It's not his sex drive that's the problem, it's his confidence. He doesn't feel he looks good enough for you right now. It sounds crazy but it's true. I know you've shown him that you want him even with the extra weight...however, this is what makes him want to lose weight even more. The reason is that you've shown love him unconditionally. This means a LOT to him so in his mind he is going to reward you by getting back down to his "playing weight" to pleasure you the way HE wants to.
Believe me, I see this in couples all the time. Men want sex ALL the time, regardless of what we say. The 10% of the time when we're NOT thinking about sex, we think about how to do it better.
Like I said, this is just a confidence thing. When he loses the weight, I can ASSURE you the two of you will have a lot more sex. I also want you to remember that a man's sex drive is almost directly related to his confidence. If his confidence is low, his sex drive is low. If his confidence is high, watch out!!!
Good luck, and hang in there! He'll be rockin' your world again before you know it!
2007-03-05 07:10:48 · answer #2 · answered by Eddie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a man, and there have been times when I wasn't interested.
The question is How are you acting towards him?
You say he's gained weight - do you tease him about it? Have you reacted in any kind of negative way?
The next question that you should also ask yourself is Have YOU changed in any kind of negative way whether physically (gained weight also) or mentally (acting nasty towards him or anyone else)
If you're a sweet girl and haven't gained weight, then there is a sure fire way to get your man to 'give it to you'
when he steps into the bedroom - BE BUTT NAKED IN THE BED!!
If he wasn't interested, he would be then!!
2007-03-05 06:08:30 · answer #3 · answered by Mister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure it's just the weight gain and not anything else? If it is just the weight gain, then I would say that you need to make him feel more comfortable with himself by complimenting him regularly and reminding him that you love who he is. I don't know though...it seems kind of strange that a man doesn't want sex. Be sure you're not missing something obvious here.
2007-03-05 06:00:34 · answer #4 · answered by Mel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wear skimpy outfits or nothing at all and tease him to no end...He'll eventually break. If that doesn't do it, take those toys you have and use them in front of him...that would do it for me!
2007-03-05 06:04:59 · answer #5 · answered by blamb! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he gay? sounds like it, or maybe he doesnt want to get married and that is scaring him into hiding.......dig for the answer, better now than later
2007-03-05 06:35:41 · answer #6 · answered by alex grant 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋