He says this is 2007. We don't have kids yet, but I want to stay at home. I was meant to stay home. What do you think? Both husbands and wives.
2007-03-05 05:46:06 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well I can definitely feel where you are coming from. I have been a stay at home wife for the five years my husband and I have been married. We do not have any kids either and he has started telling me to get a job. I understand where he is coming from, but I love being at home and being a homemaker. I am really picky and like everything in my home spick and span and everything in its place. I also love to decorate and keep my home in my favorite styles. I also love to decorate my formal dining table differently about once to twice a month. I ask him what will happen to all of this once I am working all the time? Of course he cannot answer me. I think you two should talk it out and decide on the best action. Thats what my husband and I have done and we have come up with a compromise. I am going to work, but only part time so I can still devote my time to keeping things like I like them. However, I do not think there is a thing with being a stay at home wife in this day and age. It does not mean you are lazy. I say stand up for your principals on the subject and try to work on it together. Good luck.
2007-03-05 05:54:42 · answer #1 · answered by BamaBelle810 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
With this being 2007, I say that unless the man makes a LOT of money, then both husband AND wife need to work, simply because everything is so expensive.
It would be nice to have a wife stay at home and take care of the house and have dinner ready when I get home, but realistically, with gas steadily pushing towards 3 bucks a gallon, and the prices of houses continuously going up, we both need to work.
With that said, if he wants you to work, then he should be equally willing to help with the housework.
2007-03-05 05:51:37 · answer #2 · answered by Mister 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I stay at hime and it's hard. Harder than working out in the real world. I have two childen and babysit three. Three out of the five are in school most of the time. It's constant cleaning and cooking all day and the pay sucks! The great thing though is that I"m here when the school calls because my child is sick and I can go get them and I'm here for homework help after school. I like the fact that they know mom is here, plus there are after school act. that they need me to drive them to and from. But, here's my thing, if yu have no children, if your staying home now I think your just being lazy, sorry. Sure, everyone wants to be at home but son't do it unless it benefits your family like my situation. Help your husband with the bills by working and later when you decide to have a family, then stay home. It's hard, our money is cut in half but our childrn benefit from it. They are 5 and 11. My 5 year old just started pre-school this year, babysittind helps because I'm still paying some of the bills, nothing is worse than having to ask your man for money. Support yourself and help him with the bills ok..Your time will come to stay at home, until then enjoy being a working woman because housework is not glamorous and it doesn't have a time like 9 to 5... Children don't either, I go from 5:30 in the morning to 11:30 or later at night. I watch 2 three yar olds during the day and I'm tired, but to me it's worth it because I'm raising my babies and they don't have to live at a sitters house, my children are grateful for that.
2007-03-05 06:00:34 · answer #3 · answered by justwondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I happen to like the better things in life like driving the vehicle of my choice and being able to buy the sweater I love and have to have and going out to dinner when I don't feel like cooking. The only way we could afford this is if I work. My husband just told me that if I wanted my car, then I had to pay for it and I can't do that without a job. We have three wonderful children and I will tell you what, it makes me a better mother and much more tolerant of the children when I do work. When I come home, I cant wait to see them and spend time with them. Unlike my sister who cant wait for her husband to get home so she can hand them off and go shopping or hold up in another room for a couple of hours. She is just frazzled as a SAH mom. I don't find that!
2007-03-05 05:55:38 · answer #4 · answered by MyKidsMom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im no married yet, but when the time comes, I want both of us to be equal. That means we both have to contribute to keeping the family running. Personally, I would be very happy if my wife wanted to stay home invest her time in keeping a stable family. That job is extremely important, and for kids who grow up without a parent, it can be challenging. However, untill you have kids, I think it it best that you find some sort of employment. Working part time, and dedicating the rest of your time to the equally important buisness of keeping the house nice, would hopefully mean that both of you are working equally hard. Knowing this should keep one spouce from feeling superior of the other.
2007-03-05 06:05:23 · answer #5 · answered by Riley C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to work. It's a great way to put away a financial nest for when you do have kids, not to mention the fact that you should start saving for your retirement in your twenties. You can't depend on social security, anymore.
There's nothing wrong with working. I worked before I got married, throughout both of my pregnancies, and still work today.
I would love to stay home, but I would rather have two sources of income than just one.
2007-03-05 05:50:10 · answer #6 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think that considering what it costs to run a household nowadays, even w/o kids in the picture, that both parties should work and contribute unless one of them makes more than enough to support them (cover all bills and have some left over for savings and vacations/extras from time to time).
Since it's not common for one person to make enough to meet my last statement above, both need to contribute.
Nobody is "meant to stay home"...if you are in a marriage you are meant to contriubute to the running of the household, and that includes making sure bills are paid (and helping earn the $$ to do that).
Conversely, he should help with the household chores.
2007-03-05 05:53:12 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I always wanted to stay home too..then reality hit..Bills are more and if you dont have kids why would you stay home. We dont have kids so no need to stay home...(yet) But putting all the responsiblities on your husband isn't right. Maybe you should of talked about this before you got married.
2007-03-05 05:50:33 · answer #8 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That is a conversation that you two should have had "before" you got married. Hopefully you did have it and you should go by whatever was decided at that time.....unless you are able to convince your partner to change that decision. It is not fair to change your mind about something as important as that without your spouses consent. As for my own opinion, I think it is ridiculous for someone to expect that their spouse should support them..........especially if they don't want to do that. Everyone should be willing to carry their own weight in a relationship. So, if your husband feels that you should work and you want to save your marriage..........I strongly suggest that you get a job.
2007-03-05 06:17:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to work.
Do you think you are some kind of freaking queen.
He did not marry you to have a kid to feed.
You are an adult, go to work.
There would be a good reason to stay off if you had a baby.
Just because you are married does not make you into
some kind of husband welfare case.
\I'm married now, I'm on vacation. That attitude sucks.
2007-03-05 06:10:58 · answer #10 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋