Why won't she butt out?

Question

My ex and I have an eight year old daughter. A year ago he married a woman who just won't butt out of any business that has to do with my daughter. I have asked nicely and I have finely gotten to the point where I finely had it out with her and she still will not stop. I have spoken to my ex and that was a total waste of time. I'm at the end of my rope. Why won't she butt out? What can I do?

Answer 1

Unfortunately, not much. She is your daughter's step-mother and is living in the house so there's not a lot you can do.

If you feel very strongly about it, contact an attorney and ask if you can obtain an order of protection so the step-mother can not be around your daughter.

Good luck.

Answer 2

I guess it depends upon what type of "business" she's getting into.

I married a man who had two girls, who are now grown. I don't know what your situation is, you haven't provided enough details. In my case his girls actually benefitted from my involvement. My husband isn't the type to take care of anything remotely business related. So, when we married I inherited a number of responsibilities for two girls (and their mom) who didn't thank me for anything. I made sure they had proper insurance, though their mom was uncooperative; I made sure birthdays weren't forgotten, flowers were sent for graduation, souveniers were sent while we went on vacations. When one kid got in trouble with the law, it was me that arranged for my husband to be in the courtroom via teleconference. It was me who arranged for plane tickets to visit (had to bite the bullet on one because kid acted up and wasn't allowed to leave the state.) When the girls came out for visits, looking like orphans, I took them shopping for decent clothes. When their mother chose to go with the boyfriend the one weekend one daughter was allowed a visit home from foster care, it was me who listen to her cry.

You are probably a great mom, and you should be concerned about the people who come into contact with your child. Also keep in mind that your ex and his wife probably discuss everything, including what's best for your child. They probably make decisions together, as married people should, and if she's working, some of her income is going to support your child-- whether she likes it or not- becasue it's what's best for your child.

Again, I don't have enough information to go on; but, by my own experience, you should take a step back and really think about why you're so angry. You really don't want this woman as an enemy, you want her to be an ally. My husband's girls may never know what I did (and continue to do) for them, but they certainly recognize my influence on their dad. Think about it.

Answer 3

You wish but he don;t!!!lol...lol...