17/m unsure of my sexuality?

Question

Hey im a 17 yr old an recently found out one of my friend is bi because he confesed to som1 closed to me hu is bi an they told me.. i havent seen him in ages but i saw him again at a party and just thought WOW! i had many thoughts goin in my head like hes so ******** an fit etc i know for a fact i aint gay cause i defo love my gals lol.... but helppp mee!!
Tell me wat u think ppl!!

p.s dont waste ur time answerin if it aint constructive!! =)

Answer 1

It depends, you might just have this thought, because you admire his body and see him as someone you look up to.

Then again, you might want to make sure if you REALLY love your girls, why not experiment? what harm can it do?

Answer 2

There is really no black and white to human sexuality. If you are gay or curious or bisexual or whatever then that's ok. The point is in time you will figure this question out for your self so in the mean time don't worry too much about it and don't be ashamed of who you are.

Best to you,

Jason



"It’s so wonderful being a gay person. I said that before. I’m going to say it again. I love being gay. And I love gay people. I think we’re better than other people. I really do. I think we’re smarter and more talented and more aware and I do, I do, I totally do. And I think we’re more tuned in to what’s happening, tuned into the moment, tuned into our emotions, and other people’s emotions, and we’re better friends. I really do think all of these things. And I try not to forget them."

-Larry Kramer (activist, author, playwright)



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"Gay and lesbian people have families, and their families should have legal protection, whether by marriage or civil union. A constitutional amendment banning same-sex marriages is a form of gay bashing and it would do nothing at all to protect traditional marriage."

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Mrs. King said that her late husband Martin Luther King Jr. supported the quest for equality by gays and said that the 1963 March on Washington was organized by Bayard Rustin, an openly gay civil rights activist.

-Coletta Scott King (wife to Martin Luther King Jr.)

Answer 3

Here is the "Mom" answer. You may be bi from the thoughts. However....Your age dear makes me urge you with all of my might to give yourself a few more years to decide. Whether you are straight, gay or bi you need maturity before you jump into the sex games. I am not saying don't have feelings. I am simply asking you to evaluate them and give lots of time to study them thoroughly before you are that intimate with anyone.

Answer 4

it sounds as if you may have bi tendancies. but then again maybe not. you have a lifetime to find out. many people find those of the same sex attractive without feeling sexual towards them. women do this all the time. explore your feelings if you want, but do so in a safe way. be careful who you talk to about what you are going through. this age is very hard for someone who is having feelings like you are.

Answer 5

First of all...PLEASE use proper spelling/grammar. This is nearly impossible to read and I'm not trying to insult you, but "chatspeak" in serious situations just makes people look like uneducated morons. Not calling you one, just saying. Pet peeve of mine, I guess.

Second...I understand how confusing this can be. The first time I realized I had a crush on my best friend (who is, unfortunately for me, straight), all I could think was, "what the hell, straight girls aren't supposed to think like this!" But it wasn't until a few months later that I was positively sure of my sexuality. I am now proud to say that I am bisexual.

I wouldn't advise acting immediately, but give it some time and allow yourself to experience different reactions to other men. Eventually, it will either pass as a phase (as has happened to a few of my friends) or you will come to accept your sexuality as bisexual.

Answer 6

Your 17 and there is going to be many things you are unsure about. Just let it go for now. It is natural to have these thoughts since someone just told you something new about his sexuality. If you start having these thoughts about more men then I would suggest that you put some real thought into, but for now, chalk it up to being young. Don't stress.

Answer 7

Just because you see someone who is good shape and he's attractive or she's attractive, does not make anyone gay. Humans like to see physically fit people. That is why we like sports. Many art statues have been done of nudes with nice bodies. It doesn't have to be sexual thing. They just make us feel strong and fit.

So you had a odd thought come into your mind. Just let it go away.

Answer 8

I think your bi, cause you think another guy is ******** and fit. Im gay thats what I think of some of my friends, one in particular, I think WOW too but we aint done it yet, I mean *******!!
Good luck & do whatever pushes your buttons David :)xxx

Answer 9

Well, I think guys are still capable of noticing when another guy is attractive without being gay, but as far as to think of him as "********"?? I'm pretty ceretain you're Bi.

Answer 10

i read that at least 1nce in your lifetime you have feelings for the other sex... its just exploring just to make sure .. dont worry .. if you turn out to be gay or bisexual it doesnt matter but this is your way of finding out your sexuality .. you will know after some time if you are attracted to him more !