my mother has always been a controle freak,shes not the nicest person,but shes my mom,and i love her,I am a mom of 4,I havent been in the best relationships, and mom sure let me know it!ive been told many times i was an awful mom(i learned to ignore her,to prevent a fight)well i was diagnosed with breast cancer and was going through a break up at the same time as treatment!it was the toughest time of my life,well mom was actually supportive and as usual very controling,but i was to weak and depressed to NOT let her controle my life,she took me in a path i didnt want to go....court and fighting and destroyed any chance of my good relationship ever working out!well to get to the point I was behind on a payment ,my mom borrowed me the money,we got in a fight over nothing, and now we havent talked in 3,i havent paid her, im so mad, she has just written me and my kids off,should i pay her back?or should i just forget it?she doesnt talk to my 2 brothers either....is it us or is it her?
2007-03-05 05:33:40 · 4 answers · asked by shannon a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
So that you can go on with a clear conscience pay her back what you owe her, with a little interest. You will know you are the better person and will feel more comfortable resigning her to the past with that not hanging over your head for the rest of your life. Don't be totally negative about your mother to your children, they may want to contact her when they get older. Just tell them that you and she do not have personalities that get along well and it is for the best that there is no communication between you. She remains their grandmother and they may want a relationship with her when they are older (and at that time you may want to have a talk with them about the issues which resulted in you not having a relationship with her so that they would go into it with open eyes, but not until necessary). Good luck and God Bless.
2007-03-05 05:40:33 · answer #1 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's odd you ask this. My mom is going through something like this w/ my grandma. My mom still talks to her because when my grandpa died he told my mom to take care of her. I'm always telling her to just ignore it. I know it's hard, but like the first answer said....If she died tomorrow, how would you feel??? Sometimes we just have to understand that some people are just the way they are. My grandma bold face lies to us, she's VERY controlling and does things you just couldn't believe a person would do. Embarrassing! So....we just have to look past things and keep going. About the $$....If you have the money and are able, pay her back. It would be the best thing to do and you would feel better because then she couldn't hold this over your head. Good Luck! I know this is hard!
2007-03-05 13:57:27 · answer #2 · answered by ParisLynn16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the question you should ask yourself is...if she died tomorrow would you be okay with however you chose to handle it..if the answer is no then change it. If the answer is yes that you are doing what is right for you.
Best of luck to you
2007-03-05 13:40:00 · answer #3 · answered by missourishol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-05 13:49:55 · answer #4 · answered by prower2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋