after my brokup with me he told the girl he was trying to get with that he never loved me and was not physically attracted to me. NOW, I can honestly tell you he told me many times How much he was attracted to me and he showed it when we were together. Also, his mother use to tell me I was very beautiful and lets just say I dont have a problem getting a date. I am not a vain person but, he hurt me very badly. I was close to him and his opinion of me mattered. No matter what, I would have never devalued him to be with another guy. Why did he say this. When I confronted him he told me that wasnt true, but if she is a liar why did he continue to be with her? She is the one who told me. Needless to say I severed all ties with him because I dont trust him in any manner anymore. Can someone tell me what or why he said these things about me, I never did anything to him, in fact he broke up with me to be with her. I helped him thru alot when we were together, why would he go to these extremes?
2007-03-05 05:14:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He lied to you. It sounds like you're just suffering from a bad break-up.
Don't let him get to you like this. He's obviously a jerk, and he's not a jerk you need to be around.
Did he mean what he said? Sure.
Does he mean it now? No.
Don't let his bad judgements get in the way of YOUR happiness though. There are MUCH better fish in the sea!
2007-03-05 05:18:14 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know what's really sad about this? It has nothing to do with you. Yes, it is highly probable he said that, and, yes, he didn't care two bits about you while he was saying it. He is only thinking about getting closer to the new girl in any way possible. You, sad to say, are out of sight, out of mind when it comes to the new girl. Does this mean that his feelings for you, when he was dating you, weren't real? Unfortunately not. They were as real, or more real, as his feelings are with the new girl.
In the meantime, you seem to have made the right decision when you said you will no longer have anything to do with him. Sometimes, it actually boosts a person's ego, when the former girl/boyfriend makes it obvious she or he still cares. And you've already given him so much, you don't need to give him any more. You don't need to let him, or his new girl, know how badly it hurts.
2007-03-05 13:31:14 · answer #2 · answered by Tess O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well right now you are going by hear/say. The girl could be lying to you just to be evil. She may also being doing this to reassure herself that yall will not be getting back together by tarnishing any kind of friendship yall may still have with him. If he told you he didn't say this and you know its not true then brush it off. As long as you know that you are beatiful thats the important thing and she probably thinks so too and thats why she started talking crap in the first place.
2007-03-05 13:21:10 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Guys will do this sort of stupid stuff to make themselves look good to the other person. If I were you I would just enjoy life. Never allow a man to make you feel less than, believe me what he did will come back around to bite him in his butt. Have high opinions of yourself, no one completes you but you not another man. Stay true to yourself, live your dreams and never lose faith. Let the other girl take your sloppy seconds, he isn't worth all that.
2007-03-05 13:30:51 · answer #4 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember when I broke up with a girl, she told everyone I had a little dingaling. Yes, it hurt. But then I rembered how she not could sit on it all the way and I felt a lot better.
Hope this helps.
2007-03-05 13:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, from him, to her, to you...it just doesn't matter. If I were you I would tell the girl this is what he did to me...so I expect that he will do it to you. Then drop it. Don't listen to either of them, don't talk to either of them, and don't pay attention to it.
It seems like a game to her...i'm better than you...he is just playing the game of what each wants to hear to keep the peace, lol or *pieces* as it may seem.
It's just not worth it, he is your ex, and whether it was on him or on you, seems that you are in the more favorable position of not having the BS in your life.
2007-03-05 13:42:55 · answer #6 · answered by BrokenOpalAngel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wanted to make himself look good. He thought about it and this was the best excuse he could come up with to use on this other girl. The smartest thing you did was to sever all ties with him. He's this other girl's problem now.
2007-03-05 13:22:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe his new girlfriend made it all up to keep you away from him! Turn that page of your life, set your eyes on your goal and go for it - not looking back!
2007-03-05 13:30:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply to appease her insecurities about herself. The girlfriends. Take it as a compliment. Really. That is what it is.
2007-03-05 13:24:55 · answer #9 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either she is making it up, or he is saying anything to get with her. He is your ex, why do you care what he says? The past is the past, leave it where it belongs. Move on with your life.
2007-03-05 13:21:40 · answer #10 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋