2007-03-05 05:06:55 · 17 answers · asked by Nancy W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be honest with them and set boundaries.
2007-03-05 05:11:03 · answer #1 · answered by Kalanthy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would get myself into counseling. It is too easy to lose yourself in a relationship where you aren't being dealt with honestly. Some people are not honest with themselves, how can you expect them to be honest with you? Is this something new? Is it possible there is alcohol or drug abuse, out of control gambling, etc? I would question your spouse. I would suggest therapy if he is willing to go there. Don't be surprised if he becomes very defensive. For whatever is going on, he may not be able or willing to handle or deal with the truth right now. Take care of yourself first. With the help and support of a professional in time hopefully you will find the answer that is right for you. Dealing with this person by yourself could take you down a dead end street or find you doing things where you find yourself losing your own respect. I know, I have been there too. Therapy, 12 step programs and a group of supportive friends helped save my sanity.
Good luck.
2007-03-05 13:31:43 · answer #2 · answered by May King 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being lied to is the hardest thing to deal with, especially from someone you love. Family counseling maybe the step, but then it may not help. Because lying person obviously thinks it's okay to lie, I think there is a basic moral differences, which is very important in the marriage.
Personally, I won't stand to be lied to, because how can you trust him/her? If you started to lie to your spouse, what kind of life is that? And most importantly, what do you teach your children? If it was me, I would tell him/her to take a hike and find someone else to use their lying skills.
2007-03-05 13:14:45 · answer #3 · answered by Pluto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends what the spouse is being dishonest about but I'd confront them
2007-03-05 13:11:22 · answer #4 · answered by ravred300 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be right to the point. Don't mince words. Tell him you don't like his dishonest bs and it has to stop now! Set some guidelines and let him know what you plan to do if he lies again. If he is a habitual liar you really have to consider ending the relationship. All depends on the severity of the lies.
2007-03-05 13:16:19 · answer #5 · answered by jeff7241 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a dishonest spouse will get it back on them double
2007-03-09 12:27:13 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront them and tell them you know what they are being dishonest about. You really need to talk it out - it may take time but if they are willing to be honest - you can work it out.
Good luck
2007-03-05 13:44:05 · answer #7 · answered by Confussedhere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I wouldn't deal with him, he'd have to deal with me leaving maybe. Honesty and Trust are the root of successful relationships. Without it, there is nothing but lies and deceit. Is that really what a marriage should be about? You have to be able to trust your partner above all things. Honesty should be the highest standard that we expect for ourselves. Don't lower your standards by excepting less than that!
2007-03-05 13:37:11 · answer #8 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself out of the situation. Do not let it bring you down any more than it already did. Think twice before making any move, and most importantly, remember that life is good and you have full control over yourself. Destructive decision is not an option.
Good luck.
2007-03-05 13:12:29 · answer #9 · answered by Master M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that you won't tolerate it anymore. If he continues to be dishonest, help him pack his stuff.
2007-03-05 13:12:10 · answer #10 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remain honest with yourself. Your can divorce or seek counseling, but don't be the fool in the relationship.
Good luck.
2007-03-05 13:16:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋