see hates me relaxing in the house. Gradually I have aslo started hating her . We do not like to speak in privacy or otherweise . I want to aquire sanyasa. Please suggest me the ways.
2007-03-05 05:02:09 · 15 answers · asked by marsh man 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is quite common with couples where the man has been busy working his whole life and now he is spending more time in the house. I think maybe you need to ask your wife what you can do to help her in the house, or else spend more time outside it.
Maybe take up a hobby or volunteer somewhere so you will not be at home constantly? Or maybe find a temple or meditation center near your house and spend time practicing yoga or meditating.
You both have a big lifestyle change to deal with now, and you should both be compromising to make the situation better.
Good luck!
2007-03-05 05:08:19 · answer #1 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is often the case when someone retires. You must get a hobby or some reason to get out of the house and have more of a life. Why don't you see if there is a college course you can do for your own interest. Why not try art or photography or something you have never done before. Also you could give some of your time to charity or to the local school.
You could also try some travelling. Maybe take your wife too. Go and see the relatives or why not come to Europe.
2007-03-05 16:17:22 · answer #2 · answered by JJ88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you remind me of Dad, not of all these bitter thins that you through, but the bitterness he goes through is no less..age wise, to accept that he should move on... These days...62 is too young to retire, did you know that ? And then, your question is so inadequeate that everyone in here is wondering why she really hates you relaxing..Look, think thirty years back from now, you were active, working, doing everything she wanted, perhaps she feels alone, she is insecure at the thought of you not working and taking care of her, perhaps your children dont care a s---.....
C'mon, stand up, if you cant work its okay, but make her understand, it takes time for her to accept the fact that once you were the man standing by her, doing everyitng, and now you are just tired, and alone....be with her, dont get upset...and sanyasa is b...sh..t..okay, do u know you have to sacrifice a lot for sanyasa..so whom are you sacrificing, your wife ????
2007-03-05 14:20:24 · answer #3 · answered by arya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are always relaxing while she is working in the house. Besides, you must be ordering her around for your own needs which you could have met yourself. You must not be having a kind word for her and always must be criticising her. In short while your contribution to the running of the house is zero, you have increased her burden from before. While you feel justified in relaxing during your retired life you do not think the same for her. All this has lead to constant friction between the 2 of you which has lead to the present stage of no return.
While you can set things right by your small contributions in the house you are indulging in 'ESCAPISM' by wanting to become a sanyasi.
But be aware that a sanyasi's life is much more difficult than the life you are trying to escape from.
Instead, the long life that you have spent together must be utilised to support each other now in the twilight years when you will require each other, most.
2007-03-05 14:26:13 · answer #4 · answered by mcmohan40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sir I feel your decission is not correct. Just think about the deep meaning in your wifes saying..... I think she doesn't want you to become burden for your kids, thats wat it is happening in most of all the families. So if you are healthy enough why cant you start something your own bussiness and be independent. For her also it will be a great time when she cooks for you from you earning.
If this is not the fact, then you both discuss, try to understand what is she actually expects from you, and try be together. Because this is the real time where you need companion to share your feelings.
Remember always a female can be alone with out male but it's very difficult for a male to be without female...........
The care, love and happiness what your wife can give can not be gained in any ASHRAM.
2007-03-05 14:14:24 · answer #5 · answered by sweety 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did you take retirement from service or from life? Relax marital life awaiting for its Golden Jubilee. It is not better to take sanyasa keeping an aged wife at home. When retired husband always remains at home with no other job, petty quarrels/arguments start between spouses in leisure time. Make use of that time to avoid them.
2007-03-05 13:11:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you serious? well, it's common to get annoyed with each other when you spend too much time together.
so, it's best for each of you to acquire a new hobby! You can even do them together, like volunteering for a same organization, so you're in the vicinity but not necessarily working together. That way both of you could have a mutual understanding and respect for what the other is doing. Consider helping at a children's hospital or homeless shelter. As you get busy, you'd start to miss each other. Best wishes!
2007-03-05 13:08:33 · answer #7 · answered by speedy41893 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is probably difficult for your wife to get used to someone in the house 24-7. What you must realise is that both of you need to get used to living with each other all over again. I don't think that she dislikes you or you her, I think you are just both getting under the other's feet. Find something else to do - both of you could pursue hobbies. It is difficult for couples who have been together for such a long time and who have been doing their own thing for years and then have to come together again. What do you do with each other with all that time on your hands when you have both been engrossed in your own things for so long? Do not run away. Talk to each other and come up with a solution or compromise. Good luck.
2007-03-05 14:23:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that this relationship is turning sour. How long have you been married. If this relationship becoming unhealthy than something needs to be done about it. If you two are quarreling and you can't stop fighting or if you don't even talk to each other than something needs to be done. I know that if you live under these conditions you may crack. You may have to separate OR get past your differences and make up.
(I know that sometimes when something irritates you, you amplify the feeling by 10, see if you can go a day with out negative feelings)
2007-03-05 13:08:45 · answer #9 · answered by godblessamerica_911 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sanyasa is a term that means 'sath'-'nyasa' that is to follow and practice the truth and good and right deeds.
sanyasa means giving up wrong practices which v might have followed till date and commit to doing good deeds, which include, showing kindness, love, gratitude to all, having clean thoughts, clean habits, positive thinking etc.
sanyasa does not mean to don orange robes and go out of the house.
please read good spiritual books for enlightenment.
2007-03-05 16:53:30 · answer #10 · answered by purna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋