2007-03-05 04:48:04 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Because of the way you worded your question, without the benefit of any specifics, it is obvious that you are wanting a one-size-fits-all discipline solution. There is no such thing. As so many respondents have told you, it depends on what they have done. If you do not know how to come up with a discipline that fits the crime, ask for help from your children's teachers and be specific. They will be very glad to help out. Do not be afraid of exposing your family's private matters. Teachers with families have all faced the same problems in raising their own children.
2007-03-06 10:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by Kansan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what they do wrong.
There are many ways to deal with a child's behavior such as giving them task around the house when they are bad , taking away there favorite item , punishing them from seeing friends or going outside..It is hard to say how to discipline a child when you do not say what they did wrong but spanking is never the answer, it is abuse and is a proven fact not to have an effect on kids and teaches them violence.
If your child were to say get suspended from school a good way of discipline would be to have the child sit at say the dining room table from the time school starts to the time it ends and have them do some kind of school work such as going online and printing out worksheets.
If your child is to say get into a fight with someone a good thing would be to take away something they love and have them write an Essay as to why they should never put there hands on someone else or write a letter to the person they attacked saying they were sorry.
2007-03-05 05:04:55 · answer #2 · answered by Diamonds_Glow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well... I have a teen (early years) and i have to tell you... that she doesn't give a **** when i ground her. I know a lot of kids that don't as well. Don't just take something away... you gotta break it and throw it away. Make them watch. This worked for my younger daughter. But... honestly it depends how bad they act up. If she hits you or something like that... you got to smack her butt or arm or something. JUST NOT HER FACE!!! And this is not abusing your child... just teaching your child some good discipline. Also... lets say that she was going to a birthday party next week, but then she hit you, stole something, lied...etc. Then you could say, "Now, your not going to that birthday party!" She'll get real pissed off... but thats ok... just ignore her. Even though some of this might seem harsh in YOUR eyes... its really not and its best for your kids. Also, whatever method you decide to use... you gotta stick to it. For instance if something happens like the birthday party example... then you gotta stick to it. You can just say that she's not going... but then let her talk you into taking her. Then, she'll learn that she can just manipulate you into getting her way.
GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-03-05 05:01:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take things they love. Lay down the rules, there will be no lying, no stealing, no cussing,etc breaking one of these rules takes birthday parties, or something their really looking forward too. If our homework, beds werent made, etc by 7 pm we didnt get tv, talk on the phone or leave the house that day.. F's were unexceptable in our house getting an f on a report card got my phone taken away for 6 weeks, and trust me 1 f was all I never got. Taking phones, computers, sleep overs, parties etc work great for girls! Use what they love most.
2007-03-05 04:57:19 · answer #4 · answered by letthepartybeginnow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The punishment needs to fit the crime. I don't believe in spanking, and I also believe that the girls need to be clear on the rules. Grounding and taking away privelidges work. I tell my daughters to plan their misdeeds according to their schedules. If they have something they've been looking forward to, if they're in trouble, they'll miss out. It's also important that they know why you're telling them 'don't do... (for example). They need to know why something's wrong. Don't take it for granted that they do know; that knowledge isn't instinctive. Most important:
don't issue idle threats
you have to follow through
don't cave
be consistent.
2007-03-05 06:27:15 · answer #5 · answered by l_quicksilver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your children are already 10 and 9 yrs of age and you still dont know how to decipline them then what ever they did is not their fault. YOu as a parent should be able to raise your children correctly. I dont understand how parents can come on here to ask for dicipline advise. We dont know your children, you know them best. You should know what to do. If not, here is advice, you shouldnt have kids if you dont know how to 1) care for them, 2) raise them, and 3) decipline them.
2007-03-05 06:30:43 · answer #6 · answered by bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure i honestly believe in spanking because it teaches them to hit. now I DO agree with punishing them by taking away the things they like i.e. t.v.,cell phone, allowance
2007-03-05 05:38:58 · answer #7 · answered by Mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Might as well take the easy way out...
it seems like more and more parents on here
give the kids an old-fashioned spanking.
Maybe spankings do work
2007-03-05 05:11:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Depends on what they did. I say taking away something they like. Like tv time, cellphone, video games, mall time.
2007-03-05 05:00:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on what they did! ground them, take away things, etc. you have to tell what they did there are different punishments for different things.
2007-03-05 05:29:26 · answer #10 · answered by kissybertha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋