In a divorce, does cheating affect alimony/child support?

Question

In a divorce case, if the wife has been cheating and this can be proved, would that prevent the husband from having to pay ridiculous alimony payments and child support? Essentially the wife is the one that caused the divorce, so why should the husband be punished with these payments. Anyone who has knowledge on this matter, please help!

Answer 1

Child Support, NO it will not effect it.
Alimony, maybe... a 50/50 chance it will effect it.

depends upon the state, the case, the judge.


CHILD SUPPORT CALCULATORS
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/calculators.htm
http://www.alllaw.com/calculators/childsupport/
http://www.helpyourselfdivorce.com/child-support-calculators.html

CHILD SUPPORT LAWS
http://www.lectlaw.com/files/fam11.htm

LAWS
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/states.htm
http://www.divorcehq.com/spprtgroups.html
http://www.divorceinfo.com/statebystate.htm
http://www.divorcenet.com/states
http://www.divorcesource.com/
http://www.divorcesource.com/info/deadbeat/deadbeat.shtml
http://www.divorcecentral.com/
http://family.findlaw.com/
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/unpaid-support/support-orders-enforcement.html
http://www.divorcehq.com/deadbeat.html
http://www.divorceinfo.com/
http://www.divorceinanutshell.com/
http://www.lawchek.com/Library1/_books/domestic/qanda/childsupp.htm
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-laws/state-child-/
http://www.supportguidelines.com/resources.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/links.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/laypersons.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/articles/news.html
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-basics/
http://www.spiesonline.net/deadbeat.shtml
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/index2.html

STATS
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/acesstatistics.html

FINDING DEADBEATS
http://www.wantedposters.com/skiptrace.htm
http://find.intelius.com/search-name.php?ReportType=1&
http://www.discreetdata.com/index.html
http://www.identitycrawler.net/people_search.html
http://www.efindoutthetruth.com/
http://www.peoplefinders.com
http://zabasearch.com/

FED AGENCIES
http://www.ncsea.org/
http://www.nfja.org/index.shtml
http://www.naag.org/issues/issue-consumer.php

REGIONAL FEDERAL CHILD SUPPORT OFFICES
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/oro/regions/acf_regions.html

FACTS AND REGIONAL FEDERAL CS OFFICE INFO
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/fct/fct4.htm
http://www.divorcesource.com/WI/ARTICLES/beaulier11.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/opa/fact_sheets/cse_factsheet.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/index.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/faq.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/passport.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/fop.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/faq/faq.htm
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/extinf.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/grants/grants_cse.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/index.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/region2/index.html
http://www.fms.treas.gov/faq/offsets_childsupport.html
http://www.govbenefits.gov/govbenefits_en.portal
http://www.fedstats.gov/qf/
http://www.fedworld.gov/gov-links.html
http://fatherhood.hhs.gov/pfs92/ch3.htm

SSI AND CHILD SUPPORT
http://www.ssa.gov/policy/docs/policybriefs/pb2004-02.html
http://www.ssa.gov/notices/supplemental-security-income/
http://family.findlaw.com/

FIND YOUR STATE REPS
http://www.usa.gov/
http://www.usa.gov/Agencies/State_and_Territories.shtml
http://www.nga.org
http://www.naag.org/attorneys_general.php

CHILD SUPPORT LIEN NETWORK
(some states work with them)
http://www.childsupportliens.com/

COLLECTORS
http://www.supportkids.com/
http://www.supportcollectors.com/faq.php
http://www.deadbeatdadfinders.com/
http://www.deadbeatdadfinders.com/links.html
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/index2.html
http://www.divorcesource.com/info/deadbeat/deadbeat.shtml

TAX INFO
http://www.taxsites.com/index.htm
http://www.divorceinfo.com/taxes.htm
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc354.html
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc422.html
http://www.irs.gov/faqs/faq4-5.html
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/advocate/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/publications/p525/index.html

http://www.fms.treas.gov/faq/offsets_childsupport.html
http://www.irs.gov/publications/p504/ar02.html#d0e563
http://money.cnn.com/2007/02/14/pf/taxes/do_not_miss_tax_breaks/index.htm?postversion=2007021411

REPORT DEADBEATS
WORKING UNDER THE TABLE
(in writing, to your local and federal IRS offices)
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/compliance/enforcement/article/0,,id=106778,00.html

SEX OFFENDERS
http://www.mapsexoffenders.com/
http://www.scanusa.com/
http://www.nsopr.gov/
http://www.familywatchdog.us/Default.asp

Answer 2

I can see it affecting the alimony payments, if she was the one who started the problems that led to divorce.. But when it comes to child support, as long as the child is proven to be his (through dna testing) then the husband should definately be held financially responsible for his own child. It's not the child's fault that the mother slept around (if that is the case).

But of course, I'm not a lawyer or anything.. so I can't really say that with absolute certainty. However, it is my opinion, and I would assume that would be the way things go in a matter like that.

I agree, the wife should not get any alimony at all, if that is the situation. But when it comes to children involved, they deserve to be supported financially as well as emotionally.. so I can't imagine how any type of "cheating" or whatever other issues there may be, could have any bearings on child support.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

You said "infant child", does your wife have postpartum depression? Is that the problem? Why are you thinking about filing for divorce? Get some counseling and some help for her postpartum. As I know it, if your wife gets custody for raising your child and she has no income then she gets alimony for a short time till she can work. If she is uneducated then the alimony is supposed to be given to the woman to get educated so she can support herself. The money that's allotted by the judge to come from your income is for the sole purpose of raising the child so the child is in a home and has a room for theirself, good food, clothing, education, medical care. I would suggest you stay in the house "unless" your attorney tells you to leave. But by them you and he will have talked out the situation and you'll know all the angles. There is definitely nothing painless about this, ever, or in the future of you all, leaving would mean only arguments, constantly being pulled into court, both of you being short of cash, fussing over time to see your child, etc. Then if the child has say some medical or educational bills and you can't pay she will bring you back in court. It's sad to say but the attorneys over the years will get a lot of yours and her money. So, stay there and bear thru this. The child needs you. If you can say have a room in the house to yourself then do that. If you go to an apartment then get an apartment with 2 bedrooms and 2 baths and live like unmarrieds if you have to, but, fight for this marriage. I think if she earns then there would be no alimony, and if she earns more than you (which she will probably make sure she doesn't till the child is 18) then she will not get alimony. I think it's only if you have been awarded the child that she would pay you alimony and only if you weren't employed.

Answer 5

Alimony is a tricky thing that's different in every state. But, child support is pretty basic. If he's there Daddy, he's going to have to pay regardless of what she did.

Answer 6

It depends on your state, but you can probably kiss alimony goodbye. It won't affect child support.

Answer 7

In KY they couldn`t care less who cheated on who. As for child support its all based on income. Alimony is case by case here. You could get it if you haven`t worked outside the home during the marriage.

Answer 8

If you cheat they can use it in court. And it will cause the payments to be lower for the alimony but not for the child support

Answer 9

It's not punishment to provide for their own children, it's not the child's fault that a divorce has happened and essentially that's what the money is for, to provide for his children. I am not sure about the laws in your country, but here in the UK cheating does not affect the amount that the court orders they pay.

Answer 10

that may stop the alimony but she will get child support, he will loose the custody battle for some reason the courts would rather the child grow up with a whore than a good dad

Answer 11

I know in CO. it does not matter. They look at your income and her income and don't care who slept with who. If children are involved then child support also comes into play and once again they do not care who slept with who. My ex-wife ended up giving me the house, three out of four cars and had to pay me child support because I got 50/50 custody and she makes more than I do. Good luck.