She said that I appeared to be unhappy and that she now wanted to see if she could make it on her own. She had previously written me a letter saying all this and I decided it was time to make a change for the better and work at being a better husband. However she just received her permanent green card and she told me that if she hadn't gotten now that she was feeling this way - she would not have left. She has moved to Westwood village near UCLA and hangs out with a girl that has been coaching her on how to get out there and discover herself. I feel that my wife was very loving but very impulssive and insecure at the same time. She is 25 years old. I have heard that Westwood is party single scene. Do I stand a chance that she will reconsider coming back to me - last I heard from her she was decided on leaving.
2007-03-05 04:36:41 · 9 answers · asked by michel s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She used your @ss for a green card dude. Report her to the INS!!!
2007-03-05 04:40:28 · answer #1 · answered by Devdude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I completely agree with Devdude! She used you to get her green card. Sorry. But she didn't say anything negative other than that you appeared to be unhappy? What kind of wife is that? A good wife tries to make her husband feel better: his favorite meals, something to help. She doesn't get up and leave unless she has issues. It's like she said, he's upset so let me upset him some more. Rub salt in the wound.
She may return, but it probably won't be until she gets in trouble for something.
You are a nice guy. You might want to consider moving on. There are nice women out there who are looking for nice men. Many have been hurt by someone they love. I just answered the letter of a young lady who has been left repeatedly by the same man. I hope you find someone who loves you for you, not for your status as a native or legal resident. And not for what you can do for them. You deserve better. Much better.
God bless you. Try to feel better.
Hope this helps.
2007-03-05 04:54:52 · answer #2 · answered by 1985 & going strong 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming you do not have a way to contact her. I would find a way to contact her and ask her out on a date. Try a fresh start, the way things were when you first started dating. I am also a young wife (27 & married for 6 yrs) and I also go to school so I understand her stress and the influences she may be encountering when at school. Tell her that you want to be there for her and you need her to be there for you...good and bad. Stress or happy times included. Maybe send her some flowers or a love letter. My point is: make her feel loved and special and maybe she will realize what she left behind. All the best!
2007-03-05 04:45:24 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Appears she married you in order to get legal status in this country. For her to just suddenly leave the marriage with an excuse of you being the one that was unhappy sounds like just an excuse to leave. When a person is impulsive they can be very fickle with the decisions they make in their life. You can suggest to her your willingness to work at the marriage and if she still refuses then I would say you have no other choice but to let her go. Then you must stand firm and let her know you will accept her decision to leave and will move on. This way you are letting her know that her decision to leave is definite and she will not be allowed to act impulsively and to play with your emotions. Best of luck to you!
2007-03-05 04:51:19 · answer #4 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I kind of agree with the person who said that she used you because that is what I think she did. You could report her but, if you do love her, then fight for her. If, however, you see her dating and having a great time with men (or women) then I suggest you report her to INS and explain that you did love her, that you still are, but you think she did everything for that green card and she is out having fun-sans you.
2007-03-05 04:44:18 · answer #5 · answered by uchaboo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her timing seems perfect as she just got a green card. I would let her go, you are young and hopefully do not have children together.
She left you and assumed she knew how you felt to justify her leaving. If you do want to reconcile, than go to marriage counseling, but I would not suggest dating other people for either you or your wife.
Marriage is hardwork and both of you have to communicate with one another to make it last.
Good luck.
2007-03-05 04:59:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Face it, you've been used bro - take it from me, I know having been used myself. Move on, find your self something better, or just get out there and enjoy
2007-03-05 04:44:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's a *****. She totally used you to get into the country. Damn immigrants.
2007-03-05 04:46:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
she dumped your butt for a green card you was her sucker and that's bad of her
2007-03-09 04:25:05 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋