Wedding WAS set for Sept 1st. (we have been dating for 2yrs)He called off wedding Sat night, on Sunday i broke up with him. His reason for calling off wedding is "I am not ready-meaning me, not him". Now since i broke up with him, he wants to call the wedding back on. Says if he wouldve known i would leave him, he wouldnt called it off to began with. He rather not lose me. What should i do? I partially want to get married because i am pregnant and want to be a family, and have told everyone i am getting married, the other half....I just really dont want to be with him after this weekend after the nasty comments he made to me in front of his friends and he has made me realized some things about him. We haved talked last night i am stuck with my answer, no we are not getting back together, but this morning he has callled saying he doesnt want to lose me and he is sorry and lets get married. Any advice?
2007-03-05 04:35:08 · 11 answers · asked by Nicole B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He showed his true colors. He is an a**hole. Don't marry him and find a man who will respect you. Flaky behavior that he has demonstrated is immature and would not be good to be married to a man such as that. Because it WON'T get any better after marriage.
2007-03-05 04:45:12 · answer #1 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all getting married because your expecting is a big no no.You need to really wanna marry this guy.But your saying that he disrespected you in front of his friends
that tells me he defenitley is not marriage material.If he disrespects you now imagine when your married( thats when the claws come out).Think about you & your baby right now.It is difficult being a single mom but maybe it'll give you some time to see if he changes or for you study him a little see if he truly wants to be with you both then maybe you might give him another chance.Good luck!!
2007-03-05 12:45:18 · answer #2 · answered by klueless 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have seen his true colors..Just think about how it will be in ten years.. Being pregnant and wanting the "family " life isn't enough to give up your right to be respected by a man. If he is willing to do counseling before getting married I would go for it. If not then let him be. But make sure he understand he child will still need him.
2007-03-05 12:40:32 · answer #3 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You both sound too immature to get married let alone have a child. I feel bad for the child. You guys need to talk to each other and leave the friends out of it. If you weren't expecting a child I would say that you both have a lot of growing up to do.
2007-03-05 13:04:16 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't get married yet. If you would like to try to make it work, get couples counselling. If you don't get counselling, but get back together anyway, you may end up with the wedding getting called off again, or stood up at the alter.
2007-03-05 12:43:15 · answer #5 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the start of how you will live if you marry him. He will continue to put you down and if you go back now, he will learn an important lesson about how he can do anything without consequences. Both you and your child will be better off without him.
2007-03-05 12:41:36 · answer #6 · answered by fly guy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wonder if this is a preview of what marriage will be like with him? Listen you need to put yourself and your baby first. Because you two are the most important. Go with your gut on this one. If I were you, I would leave, but that is me, and this is something you have to live with.
2007-03-05 12:45:07 · answer #7 · answered by kc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married until you work our all of your issues. Make sure that marriage is something that you want and that you're not just doing it because you've already told everyone about it.
2007-03-05 12:41:54 · answer #8 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man sounds like he has the maturity level of a ninth grader.....plus you are pregnant? This is not a good beginning to a marriage...plus, he calls it off, then its back on again.....the drama!!!!
2007-03-05 12:41:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The truth is - he's not ready to get married - he said it himself. He is willing to marry you in order to "keep" you, but the truth is - he's not ready... If it were me there is no way I'd marry him.
2007-03-05 13:35:19 · answer #10 · answered by Zabes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋