On Fri, after I just got back from my 2.5 week vacation I got a call on my cell from my boss' wife saying that I don't have to go to work anymore. She made up some excuses to fire me although I know they're not true.
Although mad and upset, I think it's time to move on anyway to a better job since I have outgrown this job and don't see that I can build a career in this company. It'd be a good turning pt for me as I can collect Unmployment Insurance (UI) while looking for a new job. At this pt, I'm ready to accept the discharge.
On Sat, I found out fr. a cowork that my boss does not really want to fire me but his wife does cuz she's really paranoid.
I still want to maintain a good relationship with my boss. I think it'd be good if I go back and finish off any unfinished work or assign it to someone else. 2 weeks is the most I'm willing to work and it prb won't be enough to finish the work.
1 What should I do?
2 Will going back for 2 wks affect my ability to collect UI?
2007-03-05 04:24:56 · 7 answers · asked by Peg 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Quickly to answer your questions, do NOT offer to go back and work the two wek notice. Once someone is terminated, the job is over no matter the circumstances (i.e. leave the wok unfinished and your boss in a squeeze.) The good boss will turn you down anyway. His wife would see that as usurping her authority and decision she made. Also, there is also the argument of the risk of malicious damage by a disgruntled employee. All-in-all, don't offer it because the good boss won't take it anyway. This makes your UI question mute.
Your reaction is WONDERFUL!! It's RATIONAL!! You accept the situation was not good and change was needed. You're blaming them entirely for it but you're not taking total blame. In better than 80% of cases when an employee is fired, the blame lies on both sides or it's political (it is NOT because the employee is incompetent!) In fact, it has nothing to do with your actual work. You also don't deny your true feelings. yes, it still hurts to be told you're not wanted anymore. Yet, you recognize the need to move on and that a career change might be better for you overall.
JUst because you were fired doesn't mean you can't get a wonderful reference! Here's how you do it. I advise people to ask what the reason is when the termination happens but you already got that from the paranoid wife. It's just to get it out of the way. Then you say, "Now that I'm out of work, I'll need to find a new job. Is it possible for me to get a reference?" That is music to their ears!! It means two things: you accept heir decision and you're not going to sue them! PHEW!! The first concern of an employer is whether or not the terminated employee will go ballistic! Instead, you're calm. Next, will they take legal action. That is a nightmare for an employer having to deal with lawyers and the time wasted on it, not to mention the financial cost. Asking for reference clearly states you're not going to sue them. Plus, a good reference doesn't cost them a dime and is hardly any effort! Sure, any employer with two working brain cells will gladly take that tradefoff!! And I've done this and you'd be AMAZED at what wonderful things they say about you in the reference. Makes you wonder why they fired you in the first place! LOL!! Seriously, the good boss will gladly help you land a new job somehere wlse to not only avoid legal hgassle but also relieve his guilt. He's a good guy and knows it's political. He's forced to side with his wife. He has not choice. That means you're out of work. Giving you a glowing reference resolves a big part of his guilt!
-- Liam
2007-03-05 05:19:04 · answer #1 · answered by almcneilcan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if going back for 2 weeks would affect your ability to collect UI, but if i were you, and this is coming from experience, i say don't sweat being fired. It happens to the best of us. The best thing for you to do is to sit back, chill for a minute, get your head together, file for UI, and start collecting. Then get out and look for something new. If your boss's wife is being that paranoid (stupid b---h), then it's probably best if you not go back there anymore. And you really should not take this co-worker's advice unless you get it straight from the horse's mouth. A co-worker may have it in for you and is probably devising some type of plan to make you look a chicken with its head cut off and have you running scared and out of your mind over something that's really none of his business!
2007-03-05 12:38:07 · answer #2 · answered by Nate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why go back?
You're allowing personal feelings to interfere with a business relationship. You've been fired - take the time to find something new and/or just chill out and relax.
Maybe it's true that your dismissal is the spearheaded idea of the boss' wife - but the reality is your boss went along with the idea and didn't stand up and fight to keep you.
Walk out on a high note you can still be cordial and keep a good relationship (occassional 'hello' emails and lunch dates) in the future - but as far as staying beyond your term of employment....why bother.
2007-03-05 12:31:52 · answer #3 · answered by The First Lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was fired as well. It sounds to me like you are ready for a change. So get ahold of your job service and get yourself set up for unemployment benefits. You may want to arrange a meeting with your boss and his wife and clear the air, if that needs to be done. Let them know that you are ready for a change and are hoping to use them as a reference. You may want to only use the husband on this one. If you do decide to finish your projects and work out a two week grace period, this should not interfere with unemployment. The last date of employment is what is needed. I would call Job Service and talk to a counselor, they are in the business of answering career questions.
2007-03-05 12:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your boss needs to fire his wife, but then again I honestly have to say why bother. If he is going to let his wife make all his decsion making then it is hardly worth you salvaging a relationship and or completing a job. I would say take it as a favor, enjoy yourself use the free time to construct and AWESOME resume and find a job that you can grow and really have fun at!
2007-03-05 12:34:46 · answer #5 · answered by pattiof 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about going back. Just get in touch with the guy and find out what he really thinks. Make it all pleasant. Ask how you can improve yourself and ask his advice on the future. See if he REALLY still appreciates it. So far you are going on rumors. If he does appreciate, ask if you can use him as a reference or ask for a letter of recommendation. Find some way for him to speak up for you (without the wife finding out lol).
2007-03-05 12:35:29 · answer #6 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screw them. They fired you so the obviously don't give 2 craps about you.
2007-03-05 12:32:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋