Paranoia - Not normal?

Question

I'm 13 wks pregnant with my first child. I've had 3 miscarriages before and waited 5 yrs to conceive again. The problem is I'm paranoid. I check the toilet paper every time I go to the loo for blood. Every little twinge or ache convinces me I'm having a miscarriage... and even small things, like lying on my back or waking up on my stomach makes me go nuts with worry. When I had my 8 wk scan I saw the baby's heartbeat - a black blob going tap,tap,tap... this did nothing to put my mind at ease - shouldn't I have seen a properly formed baby by then? I haven't gained weight, in fact I lost some (I throw up a lot, & I'm struggling to eat all & any food makes me physically sick) - this worries me.

Anyway, I'm going for my next scan on Thursday, and I'm really bad now. I've convinced myself the doc's gonna tell me the baby's already dead, or it isn't growing or there's some serious complication & I have to terminate.

How do I get over this? I can't go to the doc every 2 wks.

You've all been very helpful. Thanks! It does help to just say the words, and no one's snorting in my face an telling me to grow up :)

Answer 1

Did you know that morning sickness is a very good sign of a HEALTHY pregnancy.
"Those who feel sick during the first trimester of pregnancy have about a 70% reduced risk of miscarriage...." I read this in American Baby. I also read in "What to Expect While Expecting" basically the same thing. They said there is a reduced risk of miscarriage and that women who are sick usually have healthier pregnancies.
As for the blob you saw that is normal. As you progress more into your pregnancy your baby will take on a more human like shape. The important part is that you heard the heartbeat, that means your baby is really there.
I know it is super hard considering your history, but try to relax and enjoy this baby. It is the real deal honey, and it sounds like everything is OK. We all worry a little, but try not to do too much because stress is not good. Best of luck to you and I know we will hear about your baby down the road. Take care and CONGRATS!!!

Answer 2

If you keep freaking yourself out like this, how do you plan to enjoy being pregnant? There is nothing you can do to prevent a miscarriage...so why worry about things you can't change? Everything you've said sounds SO normal to me! I also lsot weight in the first trimester (morning sickness is a B*tch). 8 weeks is not NEARLY early enough to see anything. Hell, you can barely tell it's a baby at 20 weeks! Without the ultrasouns tech I would've had a hard time guessing at most of the structures.
I would focus on the POSITIVES: as in, get a meal plan diary together and research exercise plans that can help you maintain a normal weight and have an easier delivery. get organized, start a savings account for those unpaid maternity leave days. You know...take your mind off the negatives!

Answer 3

You have to quit worrying. It isn't good for the baby!! I did read though that it is normal to check the toilet everytime you go to the bathroom, I still do. At 8 weeks all you see is a little blob. If the doctor said everything was good at that time then trust the doctor. I also lost weight during the first 4 months. Nothing sounded good and I couldn't eat. I am 25 weeks now and just started to gain weight these past 3 weeks. Seriously, just enjoy being pregnant and congrats!!!!

Answer 4

What you are feeling is totally normal. Mothers always worry. I am 30 weeks pregnant and I check the toilet paper too, I think all of us pregnant woman do that. At 8 weeks you will not see anything that remotely looks like a baby. As long as the doc said everything looks okay, don't worry. Morning sickness is a sign that everything is developing like it should. Drink lemonade and ginger ale for nausea, and milk and water for constipation. Try to sleep on your left side (a body pillow helps).

Just have faith that everything will be okay.

Answer 5

Your throwing up is probably due to morning sickness. Some women do lose weight as a result of this. Dont worry so much-you saw your babys heart beating, that should assure you that s/he is alive and well. Please try to stop stressing-its just going to put strain on you and the baby. Ask the doctor if everythings ok and what you can do to help prevent another miscarriage. Please just try to relax. Good luck.

Answer 6

Nothing we can say is going to make you less paranoid, you have been through hell! Just try to keep your stress down for the sake of the baby. you saw a strong heartbeat! good for you, just try to relax if you can! Just take your prenatal vitamins and try to eat throwing up is normal in early pregnancy, I hope all goes well with your next scan, the farther along you get you will be able to rest. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 7

i lost weight at the beginning of my pregnancies.
i had a miscarriage before i had my 3 beauties and i was paranoid too. you wont be able to see a formed baby for some time. being sick is a good sign that those hormones are still working. if you werent sick it would be more worrisome.
lots of luck too you try not to worry to much!

Answer 8

Try to find comfort in something you like doing (as long as it's not bad for yourself or your baby), talk it through with people who understand and stop worrying so much, since lots of stress isn't healthy for you or your baby. It's going to be fine, just believe in it and ask help to whatever you believe in. I find comfort in giving myself reiki, others pray, some other dive into eating chocolate, others cry, etc. Doesn't matter what you do, just try to find a way to relieve some of that tension.

Answer 9

i know that by telling u "try not to worry" wont work with u rite now...but TRY NOT TO WORRY SO MUCH. wait until u c ur doc again/ ur baby is fine and ur fine...and its ok if ur throwing up a lot(thts a part of preg.) but the only thing i tell u that might comfort u its PRAY..ask GOD to comfort ur lil heart and put u in peace with ur preg.he will hear ur prayers and confort u thru this time. good luck GOD bless.

Answer 10

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