my 15 year friend(like a brother) got his 15 year old girlfriend pregnant. How can I be supportive and help out?
2007-03-05 04:01:46 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
he has a job already & is wanting to help take care of his child; his fam. is being supportive they've already started buying stuff
Oh i'm in my 20s and married with 1 child already & possibly pregnant again and they know that me & my husband would help out anyway we can
2007-03-05 04:14:48 · update #1
it would be better right now, if you would stand back and let them
work on the situation alone for now. but try to be there if they need
or ask for your assistance. its nice to want to be a friend, or be th
ere to offer your support. but right now is not the time to push too
hard to give a helping hand. the main thing that they need to do,is
to turn to someone who has experience in working with teenager
s who have become pregnant. if they dont want to include their pa
rents, perhaps they could go to the health dept, parents planning
hood, a school councelor, school nurse, a hospital, or doctor that
they can trust. its very important and helpful, if they talk with som
eone who maybe able to help them soon.
2007-03-05 04:17:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not enough info hun! How old is he or am i misunderstanding your question? it sounds like he is your friend of 15 yrs. If they are both 15 and pregnant just being supportive is what i think he needs. I cant imagine having a child that young. Then go get him some condoms and tell him to learn how to use them!
2007-03-05 12:07:28 · answer #2 · answered by jessica s 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just remind him of his responsibility. 15 year old guys aren't the ones getting their lives turned completely upside down. My sister got pregnant at 14 and her boyfriend same age who really had NO responsibility for taking care of the baby's daily needs just ran off, he's a total deadbeat. Make sure he supports this girl and the baby, and doesn't run off on her if she decides to keep the baby.
2007-03-05 12:06:40 · answer #3 · answered by Rhuby 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be there for them, was pregnant at 15. He will have enough unsupportive people telling him how stupid he is but bottom line, That will not help the two of them. I had my son at 16 & he honestly was the best thing god could have done for me at that time in my life. I graduated hs & did a few years in college. It was definatly a struggle for my husband & i but we did it. We had alot of supportive people. Thank god for them. Being supportive will definatly help the two of them.. God bless.....
2007-03-12 17:42:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look there really isn't much you can do besides be there he has put himself in a really big mess.
He has no say so about the pregnancy the girl has all the choices she can abort it adopt it out or keep it and Make him responsible for the baby.
He basically just has to wait and see how it unfolds.
all you can do is be there for him when he needs to talk.
Your friend needs to talk to his parents and let them know what is going the parents and teens need to have a meeting and discuss the options and then do what they feel is best in this situation. Reality is though your friend and his family have no real say so in this matter not fair I know but it is how the law works.
Good luck !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-05 12:18:08 · answer #5 · answered by angie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should be as supportive as you can.I also think that maybe your husband could talk 2 him you know give him some manly advise and let him know what was going on in his head when you got pregnant 4 the first time
2007-03-12 10:52:28 · answer #6 · answered by Nae_Nae_1117 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell them to obstain as often as possible after this child is born...and tell the girl about tracking her cycle so they are planning for the times when she is least fertile. there is a lot of obvious stuff to take care of but its best if they try as hard as they can to not concieve for a while. they are babies having babies and one is stressful enough. but dont get me wrong, i am against abortions...so maybe he can even try to have a savings plan if its possible for any future kids that may trun up.
2007-03-12 06:49:43 · answer #7 · answered by TarasBoutiqueAtEtsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Ask yourself the following; Can I help take care of the baby? Do I have enough experience with children to know what to expect? If you don't have children of your own, there's a good chance that you can't be of much help because you won't know what to expect either.
2007-03-05 12:07:28 · answer #8 · answered by mama_lisa24 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be supportive, but this is their situation. They will have to decide what to do. they should speak with a counselor though, they DO have options. There is adoption and (as many of you don't want to support this) there is abortion and of course they may decide to keep the baby. Your job as a friend is to be supportive of them no matter what they decide and no matter how stronly you feel about it.
2007-03-05 12:10:25 · answer #9 · answered by kerri c 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seek for spiritual adviser,,,,,Be there for him,emotionally and physically via giving him advises to lift his spirit,looking for a better job to help him financially
2007-03-13 09:39:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋