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My wife has not been very interested in sex since the birth of our child (6mos ago). We have talked about it, and agree that we want to satisfy each others needs. She has experienced some pain, so I am happy with giving each other "a hand." We are still not in agreement on how often...any suggestions?

2007-03-05 03:44:59 · 25 answers · asked by Killer B 2 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

She has been seeing a GYN for the pain...

2007-03-05 03:47:53 · update #1

25 answers

I understand your frusteration. I'm about 41 weeks pregnant and ready to bust any time! And eventhough I know my husband would be as understanding as you're being with your wife, and I do have to give you props for talking it out with her because communication is key!, I still want to keep him satisfied. There have been plenty of times throughout my pregnancy where I've been just plain uncomfortable and not really feeling up to sex. And as much as he enjoys pleasuring me, my main concern is to just take care of him. I'm sure she's just got a lot on her mind right now and she probably wants emotional support from you more than physical. Keep talking to each other. She'll come around. Just give her time. I know its been 6 months, and that seems like a LONG time for her to still be in pain so hang in there until after her OB/GYN appt. See how things go and talk about it.

2007-03-05 03:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by shainamarie20 2 · 3 0

It is difficult after a birth of a child, and there is some pain involved during intercourse especially if your wife had alot of stiches giving birth. So you should be understanding and have open communication about this. She should also see her doctor if the pain continues. I would say for a while twice a week would be O.K., but that should be in agreement. Give it time, and soon you will be back to your normal pattern of love making. Good Luck.

2007-03-05 03:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 1 0

Give her time and patience. She has been through a lot and her body has changed. You are gonna be #2 on her priority list for awhile. Sorry, that's just how it is. Be patient, gentle, loving, caring and understanding with her and she will respond better then if you nag her and complain. I went through so much with my 2 pregnancies and births. We went for years with not much sex, but thank God my husband stuck with me and was patient with me. I was on a birth control that killed my sex drive and I didn't know it was the b/c that was causing it. Anyway, I got off it and now am so much better. After so many dry spell years, we are just like 2 newlyweds and it is great. Be patient and let her get help from her doctor and take it slowly. Every couple is different on how often is right for them. It is between you two. With the new baby, it may be less now, but will pick up later when the baby is older.

2007-03-05 04:02:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

There is no set frequency when it comes to this. That has to be between you and her and you can't compare yourselves to other couples due to everyone having different sex drives. Be compassionate and continue to work with the doctor. If you really love each other you can get through this. Remember too that it takes a little while for a woman's body to get back to normal, it isn't like rubber that bounces right back into shape. Think of it no different than if she had a disease like cancer to deal with. You should care about them for being a trusted and faithful wife with a heart of gold, not how many times you get some in a month.

2007-03-05 03:56:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

This is very common after the birth of children, probably due to chronic fatigue. I think everything went back to normal after my child is around three, and I have 6 children. My poor husband had many lean years but he was such a trooper and never complained (much).
Remember sex is directly proportional to how much the husbands helps around the house and with the newborn.
Try to get grandma to take the baby overnight so you can have a date night. Please be patient and things will return to normal if you don't make demands.
Also give the new mom a 20 minuet back rub twice a week on a no sex night.

2007-03-05 03:53:38 · answer #5 · answered by Just ME 5 · 3 0

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2016-11-27 23:21:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

you wife might be suffering from post partum. and it is normal for a women to loose her desire for sex after the birth of a baby. she may not be getting lubricated enough which is also a problem that happens after the baby's birth, after that she should speak with her doc about the pain to make sure it is normal.

if she had an episiotomy she will experience pain for a while.

2007-03-05 03:54:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

it might be more than just her feeling pain... 6 months later if she's having pain then she should see a doctor.. It could be a sign of her feeling insecure because her body's changed a bit....help her feel secure by complimenting her tell her you love her even more now that she's had your baby... buy her flowers just because and just help her feel attractive again...before you know it you won't be able to make it through the door...you'll be on here asking for advice about how to cut back on too much sex.. good luck though!!! Just tune into her and help her regain her confidence and everything should be fine!!! congrats on your baby....

2007-03-05 03:51:24 · answer #8 · answered by Mary S 2 · 2 0

If she is still having pain after 6 months she needs to get checked out. Other than that make sure that you pay special attention in making her feel like a sexy desirable woman. Having a baby can really mess up your self esteem and body image. If you feels like you find her irrisistable her sex drive should return to what it once was. Many people find that their sex life gets better after having a baby....just be patient!!!! :)

2007-03-05 03:52:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3 0

I think that fair sexual frequency for a couple is at least once a week. It's the ultimate display of affection. If your wife is experiencing pain, I would suggest that she go see her gynecologist about it. If she had a cesarian section, it should have healed by now.

2007-03-05 03:50:20 · answer #10 · answered by Philippe 3 · 2 1

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