My mother-IN-LAW is the person in question. In 25 years of marriage all of a sudden she refuses to take her husband on out of town conferences, she refuses to eat lunch with her daughters, she’s a simple secretary in the federal government but she goes to work on the week ends. She goes to work at 6:00AM and doesn't come home until 5pm. She is no workaholic, she’s actually pretty damn lazy. Now you ask, why does it concern me? Well she’s a self-righious bi tch. And my father is the nicest man in the world. A simple man but a good man. I also don’t want her teach any of her tricks to her daughter (My wife). So what do you think do I have a keen eye or do I just hate the bit ch?
2007-03-05 03:25:25 · 16 answers · asked by mud 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like a little of both. But i worked in the federal government for over 30 yrs. And in my 30 plus years I have NEVER known a secreary in the federal government to work from 6:00 a.m. to 5 p.m. Most secretary's in the fed get off at 4:00 or 4:30 p.m. Watch her she is up to something.
2007-03-05 03:36:16 · answer #1 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, I'm sorry but having been working for the fed gov for quite some time now....no one works on the weekends. Unless they are involved on a project with a deadline. Even still, those people usually take the work home or have laptops to access the information from home. Another thing to consider, if she is a fed employee and not a contractor, then she isn't being paid overtime, because we're all salary, and comp time is frowned upon. So what person in their right might, lazy or not, would work 22 extra hours per weekend, just out of the goodness of their heart?
Regardless of this, it isn't your place to make the accusation. Maybe mention these things to your wife and see if maybe her dad knows and just doesn't care. I know its hard, but it isn't your place to say anyhting to her dad.
2007-03-05 11:38:39 · answer #2 · answered by jlonva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is cheating working from 6am -5pm on the weekends. Does she give an explanation as to why the change in work hours.
What does your wife think of her behaviour ?
It wold be fun to follow her and find out what is going on though.
2007-03-05 11:37:12 · answer #3 · answered by Lou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just better left alone. If she is doing something behind his back, she will get caught sooner or later. As far as her teaching your wife tricks....you trust HER, don't you? I think you are in a natural state of wanting to protect your father in law. If you are close to him, then maybe you could discuss your "fears" with him. Just tread softly because if he loves her, he might not want to hear it. Good luck.
2007-03-05 11:31:20 · answer #4 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is having fun outside the house.
You should just focus on your girl and leave the mom alone. What if she is cheating on her husband and you told the family about it. It will put you in a bad situation and it will cause lots of problems between you and your g/f.
take care.
2007-03-05 11:31:12 · answer #5 · answered by Living Fantasy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say your wife is old enough to make up her own mind and her mothers infedelity has no bearing on whether or not your wife will choose to learn her "tricks". This is HER family - you should be supportive and sad for her. You have NO right to call her mother anything.
2007-03-05 11:31:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you might be on to something, but since you do have hatred, you need to make sure you have facts before you lay anything out on the table. If you don't it will only cause more problems. Good Luck Bro...
2007-03-05 11:29:58 · answer #7 · answered by In love with Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both! You have both, a good eye and a generalized bad feeling about her. It's not your place to investigate or tell on her though.
Others are suspicious too. She's not YOUR mother and you have to bite your tongue and wait for it to stop. And it will too!
2007-03-05 11:32:13 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I don't think that it's any of your business. Your father in law will have to come to his own conclusions about his marriage.
2007-03-05 11:31:32 · answer #9 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is really abad wife and bad mother but believe me whatever she dose now she will get older and older and she will need her husband and daughters beside her but she will not find them as she hope (kind ,tend) and at that moment she will regret what she has done with her family she will bay she will bay belive me and whatever who she gives her interest out side she will not find it besid her at that moment
2007-03-05 11:47:01 · answer #10 · answered by lovely m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋