Has any couple had so many obstacles/things to forgive during a marriage and both spouses chose to commit to the marriage and were you able to overcome the past and begin a more intimate relationship?
2007-03-05 03:24:29 · 20 answers · asked by almostover 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Still trying to figure out if he's having an affair.He says that he is not.So wer'e still trying to get over this one obstacle.
2007-03-05 03:31:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my case, it was an emotional affair, and I quit a perfectly good job to get away from the man. But yes, it is hard. Me and my husband had a hellacious fight about it just yesterday. as far as an intimate relationship goes, no, we don't really have one. We're trying to get past it, but I don't see it happening any time soon. And I'm able to stand up and say that it WAS my fault. I'm not scared to take responsibility for my actions. It was my fault. There, I said it twice.
2007-03-05 03:54:04 · answer #2 · answered by tinkerbell24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almostover: There are so many obstacles to overcome when there is an unloyal spouse. Betrayal, lies, stealing (he or she spent money on this other lover, which took away from the family), infidelity, violation of trust. My relationship ended and I will forever carry the scars from the wounds. Good luck to you in your decision.
2007-03-13 02:36:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
affairs change things for good, it will likely never be the same again. after being cheated on I could never trust my partner again no matter how hard I tried. Trust is the foundation of a relationship and without it...true happiness will will always be shadowed by fears, concern, and paranoia. There are to many beautiful people in this world to put oneself thru that kind of torment...good luck friend.
2007-03-12 23:46:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank God, I am not in this situation and I hope I never have to be. I personally think this would be the hardest thing in the world for me to get over. I don't think I would be able to do it. There would always be a distrust, there would always be a hurt.
When dealing with cheaters, I believe what they say is true: Once a cheater, always a cheater. You only have to get over the person once, but if you stay with them you will probably have to deal with the pain of being betrayed ovver and over again.
2007-03-13 00:17:06 · answer #5 · answered by Sara K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought that was what we were doing after my wife cheated. Taking our time building back the marriage. But come to find out she has still being seeing him,texting him and everything else. It's clear she doesn't love or respect me anymore, because if she did she wouldn't be doing any of those thing.
2007-03-05 03:40:02 · answer #6 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it happened to me and it turned my world upside down, i ended up taking drugs to ease my mental anguish and now am dealing with an addiction problem. it took a whole year to get my life back. i'm still struggling with the addiction problem, i've never experienced anything like it b4. he is committed to the relationship now although i still am having trust issues.
by the way, it's been a year and i can't stay asleep all night in the bed. i'm so angry inside still and hurt and afraid to get close again. i'm trying, but i sleep on the couch most of the night and come back to bed b4 he wakes up.
2007-03-11 21:31:36 · answer #7 · answered by LuckyMo! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tried so hard to get over my husbands affair. He worked with her, and he wasnt trying as hard as he could to find a new job. I found that everyday when he went to work, he was seeing her and I ended up questioning him over and over to see what he was up to at work.I just was not able to trust him. He could have told me the sky was blue and I would call him a liar. He told me it was over, and guess what. It wasnt. I am now happily divorced and dating a wonderful guy. Good luck to you. You sound like a much stronger person than I was.
2007-03-05 03:35:46 · answer #8 · answered by tcg7213 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is very hard to over come something like that but i guess it can be done but it well never be the same .no trust, not wanting that person to touch you .all ways wondering what they are doing when they are not with you . you stay with them be cause after you been with them so many years it is hard to leave even if your feelings changed for them its like you are in a til light zone and can get out no matter what .or you just keep hoping things well change.all in all i guess you don.t over come it cause it well all ways be there
2007-03-12 15:32:09 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The outcome is hard for a few to several months. Maturity and your self -esteem will be the healing areas... If you understand, forgive, and work on your self ..you will have a better relationship as you will have to have awareness..etc. take care of yourself.. and your kids..
2007-03-12 17:21:54 · answer #10 · answered by Charles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stood married to my kids father for almost 2 years after I found out that he had an affair.
But everytime I looked at him I hated him more and more. We divorced when my daughter was 2. He cheated once, what makes me think he wouldn't do it again.
2007-03-05 07:08:17 · answer #11 · answered by Valentina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋