he is more than everything I dreamed of finding in a guy: sweet, intelligent, hardworking, ambitious, successful, attractive, motivated, supportive, trustworthy, etc. We met nearly a year ago at a time when my ex and I were broken up - I never in my life thought I would fall in love with anyone else, and then he came along. He is talking marriage and a family and gets very excited about it all... and I love it, I am ready to begin life with him!
Problem is we live 8 hours apart and one of us has to move. We both are very fortunate with amazing jobs. He is self-taught and I have a degree. I would have to give up the house I just bought and the job I absolutely love to be with him, or he would have to give up the job he absolutely loves and might never find another like it in my city. It would be easier for me to find a job where he is.
Neither of us have family in our cities, I only have 1 good friend here and believe there is more to life than work, am I crazy to consider?
2007-03-05 03:07:57 · 13 answers · asked by Betty 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He said if it takes marriage to prove his committment to me then he will. He is also wants to buy a home together and have it ready to move in before I get there....
2007-03-05 03:16:19 · update #1
I don't see why you have to give up your home immediately. I'd rent my place out and move into his house while you look for work and see how living together works out.
If you're asking questions on here, then you probably have some lingering doubts and keeping your own house would give you a fallback position at least.
If he objects you could point out that property is always a good investment and when you're sure about your future together you'll sell and you'll both benefit.
2007-03-05 03:22:54 · answer #1 · answered by Skidoo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely not crazy to be considering this. If this is the man of your dreams... go for it. You may love your job, you may love your house, but like you said you can get another job and if he's talking marriage, you'll have another house anyway, and because you'll have 2 incomes, you'll be able to afford an even better house. It's not everyday that the man of your dreams comes along. I did the same thing 6 years ago. My husband (who was my boyfriend at the time) lived 9 hours away from me because he was in the military and got stationed out of state. I commuted back and forth for almost 2 years. I realized I wanted to be with him because he was the most wonderful thing that had ever happened to me. I owned my own business at that time, but gave it up because I realized I wanted to marry him more than I wanted my business. I didn't want to grow old alone. I have never regretted it for a second. We've been happily married for 6 years. Since you have a degree, you don't have to worry about ever landing a great job. It's not often that a man will talk about marriage, don't let that one get away. Good luck.
2007-03-05 11:22:31 · answer #2 · answered by Bluebellringy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move and then do what ? SHACK UP !!! That's a convenient way to forget about everything except today.
TALK is really cheap these days, and some men are great at controlling women. My best advice is to continue as you are now until AFTER the wedding. Then you will both come to the right decision.
Don't risk your career and your happiness because he's giggly about talking marriage. TALK IS CHEAP.
Good Luck
2007-03-05 11:19:53 · answer #3 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say go for it. Like u said u can find a job in his city. It is much harder to find an amazing man, then an amazing job. Sometimes the best things in life require sacrifice, they are not just handed to us. Follow your heart, and your gut instinct........they are rarely wrong. Good luck, hope it all works out for u.
2007-03-05 11:19:42 · answer #4 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you already know where your heart lies, I say follow it. Go ahead and move all you are giving up is work and by the sounds of it you seem to be able to find work almost anywhere. It's not that far away from you friend they can always come and visit you. I say at this point you have nothing to lose and sounds like you have everything to gain. I wish you luck.
2007-03-05 11:15:51 · answer #5 · answered by freyja5683 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would honestly say move when the ring is on your finger. Giving up all of that with no really set commitment is kinda risky. But if your willing and wanting to do that, and may risk it all, then go ahead. But I seriously think you need to have the ring before you move!
Good luck
2007-03-05 11:12:24 · answer #6 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
IF I WAS IN YOUR SPOT I WOULD MOVE IF YOU DONT HAVE ALOT OF CLOSE PEOPLE AROUND YOU WHY NOT YA YOUR HAVE A JOB YOU LOVE BUT COME ON HOW OFTEN DO YOU FIND A GUY YOU LOVE AND WOULD GIVE UP ANYTHING TO BE WITH HIM!ID GO FOR IT!
2007-03-05 11:13:09 · answer #7 · answered by April 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is as great as you make him out to be, what are you wating for. You know what they say, "a good man is hard to find". Or is it the other way around. Either way pack your stuff and go get 'em tiger!
2007-03-05 11:13:45 · answer #8 · answered by t_buck70 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easy just figure what is important in your life and go from there. Just remember material things come and go, true love is forever.
2007-03-05 11:29:36 · answer #9 · answered by rastus7742 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A serious situation there. Someone is going to have to give in.. He should be prepaired for you to stay unless he can be creative and solve this question for you.
2007-03-05 11:12:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋