I've heard too many women say that they married for reasons other than love. I wonder sometimes what those women will do if they fall in love while married to the man they settled with.
2007-03-05 02:18:54 · 23 answers · asked by S K 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A smart woman will not settle for anything less than a man that loves and respects her. It's easy to let your better judgement be clouded by what your heart wants, but I've seen too many women do that and end up crying into their merlot one week after the honeymoon sobbing, "What have I done?!?". Not me, honey. I'd rather be on my own than in a miserable relationship. So I waited until the right guy for me came along, who incidentally was my first boyfriend at 14. He moved away, came back into my life years later, and now we've been married for over 10 years and have 3 kids. If I'd settled, I wouldn't have had the perfect guy for me. Having said that, I also don't think you should have such ridiculously high standards that no man could possibly attain. Either you'll never find anyone, or if you do, you'll spend all your time finding fault with him (that's the biggest reason I hate "Everybody Loves Raymond"- I can't stand the way Debra constantly tells him what a failure he is, and it annoys me).
2007-03-05 02:29:01 · answer #1 · answered by scouseryank33 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Great question! I've often wondered that very thing! After 21 years of marriage, I've realized that there is no 'fairy tale' marriage. Every marriage has its ups and downs. When I married, I believe I was in love with the idea of being in love. Now, I'm just content. My husband is a hard worker, good provider. We have no passion, but we depend on each other to make our relationship work. I guess the bond we share is knowing we took vows and sometimes fate is harsh and misunderstood, but...rather than walk away and search for something that may not exist....we've built a good life together. I would not risk what we share or hurt him by wondering what could have been....
2007-03-05 02:45:14 · answer #2 · answered by Lovinlife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I married young because I wanted to be "married". I did fall in love with another man while still married. That was 4 years ago. I'm now divorced and still in love with the other man. At this time I'm single living with my daughter and have practically given up on having love in my life.
2007-03-05 02:26:43 · answer #3 · answered by Lynne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was very fortunate, I married my husband 33 years ago because he was the "love of my life", he still is. Sadly, I know too many women who settled for less. Most of them are very unhappy people, some are divorced.
It would be great if everyone could meet the "love of their life" the first time around. I doubt if life is like that, but just because they didn't find it the first time doesn't mean they won't the next time.
I wish them well.
2007-03-05 02:29:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always said I would never settle for less than what I deserve and now I have settled. Not that I dont love him because I do with my whole heart but in the past i carried a picture of what I wanted in my head and no matter how good the guy was if he didnt meet those criteria he was history now i have thrown my picture out and am very happy
2007-03-05 02:31:04 · answer #5 · answered by eve p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to tell you how me and my husband met and you decide.there is a 3 year age difference in our marriage.We met through my twin sister,they worked together.We started talking and he informed me that he joined the marines and was i still interested i was excited and said yes.He went away to boot camp and we wrote each other all the time.He came, we started getting serious then we got a call that he was going to Iraq.I was still in high school,he went over there for 7 months.I was having a lot of problems at home and it was very hard to talk to him being so far away so we broke up.Stayed the best of friends,but lost contact i changed my number and one day received a call.It was him we talked and started getting serious again.Then he popped the question in South Carolina at my family reunion.Or course i said yes.He is still in the marines and we are still married .It's tough but he is worth it and some.It's for love and being my shoulder to cry on all those nights being an ear to here all my burdens,being the other piece to the puzzle that completes me.It's love and sooooooooo much more!
2007-03-05 02:34:01 · answer #6 · answered by TRUTH 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I married for two reasons: love and because I truly believed that he was the one God chose for me. So far, that's still the case. We will be celebrating our 25th anniversary in April, and although we've had our share of trials, I do not believe for one moment that I "settled" or made a mistake. I had been dating another guy for over 2 years, and I almost "settled" for him. THAT would've been a mistake! NOBODY should "settle" / marry just for the sake of getting married. WAIT for the one God sends you...it's worth it!
2007-03-05 02:25:13 · answer #7 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I married for love this time and it is great and the best marriage and relationship that i have ever had. Marrying for something other then love is usually wrong and a big mistake.
2007-03-05 02:36:49 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For me I did married for love. I an very much in love with my husband and at the time we got married. but resently he said he's not in love with me any more he found someone else tell me how do men fall out of love so easly eveny though at home he gets everthing that then need please answer that queston are you all like dogs who just move right along when you think that you are finish.
2007-03-05 02:26:47 · answer #9 · answered by sally 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I married for love. Personally I think love is the only reason to marry. I can't understand getting married for any other reason, it is unfair to everyone involved especially if their are children.
2007-03-05 02:23:25 · answer #10 · answered by QT 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋