well im 16 and i have already lost my virginty but im supposed to go over my boyfriends house friday and we want 2 but im kinda nervous.... i dont know if i should i mean i love him we've been 2gether on and off for 1yr. and 6months i didnt lose my virginity with him!!! but he said he doesnt want 2 use a condom and i thats what im worried about!!!!!! i really dont know what to do!!! im not a ho cuz i know its bad that im 16 and want 2 have sex but its with somebody i love and the guy i lost my virginty 2 i had feelings for him but didnt love him i regret ever doing it with him...... and i know older people(people older than me) are thinking i dont know what love is does anybody really know and plus listen 2 chris brown young love!!!!
2007-03-05 02:10:21 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
and how bad will it hurt the second time!???
2007-03-05 02:24:11 · update #1
ooo and 2 jasminetablen i dont sleep around ive only had sex once!!! u get a grip!!!
2007-03-05 02:28:11 · update #2
It really sounds like you are not wanting to and I think that you should think about it some more. If you have sex with him and say he c ums in you .. you can get pregnant and would this boy be there for you when that happens? I bet not... since you are a on and off couple. Also since he is not wanting to use a condom.. how many others has he not used a condom with.. and does he have any STD's. I think you should wait and even though you are not a virgin.. you can still hold off til you find that "right guy" and make sure you are both protected.. you know. I think you are smart enough to make the right decision here. Do not let him pressure into something..ok.. good luck.
2007-03-05 02:18:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't say you love him. You are right when you ask, "Does anybody know what love is?" Well, you sure as hell don't at 16 years old and I don't really care what Chris Brown has to say about it. Did you say you loved the guy you lost your virginity to at the the time? Sex doesn't mean love. You two have been together for a year and a half, he has gone this far, he can go further. But, you didn't make the other guy wait for anything so, I don't know why you would make this guy wait. If he treats you right and you think he is a stand up guy, do what you want, but make him use a condom. MAKE HIM USE A CONDOM!!!
2007-03-05 02:19:44 · answer #2 · answered by The doctor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is emotional as well as physical and you have already admitted to regretting losing your virginity to your first boyfriend. If you have doubts don't do it because sex is very often disappointing without a strong emotional bond and true love. I understand that you are at a curious age and there is nothing wrong with that. Just make sure that you are 100% sure next time you have sex and this time you don't sound it. Your boyfriend sounds irresponsible if he doesn't want to use a condom and this is selfish of him. He isn't thinking about you. You are too young to have to worry about pregancy and STIs and it sounds like this guy doesn't care. Just because you love someone doesn't mean you have to have sex with them. I'd advise you only to have sex if a) he uses a condom and b) you are 100% sure. If you decide not to and your boyfriend pressures you he is not worth it and you are better off without him. I know this isn't probably what your heart is saying but use your head and respect yourself. Don't have any regrets!
2007-03-05 04:29:36 · answer #3 · answered by ell_073 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My only concern is the no condom thing. The rest you have to figure out by yourself. There should be no reason why you can't use a condom and if he insists on having unsafe sex then he doesn't love you. Lay down the law, girl. NO condom, no booty. It may hurt to tell him this but at your age, you have to think about your safety. Pregnancy, disease, the possibilities are endless. If he does love you then he will think about your safety as well. IF he still insists on no condom, tell him to pack it up and go back to the house. ALWAYS USE A CONDOM. You're young and shouldn't have to bear the responsibility of a child or some disease.
As far as having sex with him, I don't think you're a ho. Everyone makes choices at the time they feel is right for them. Do what you want, just WRAP IT UP!!!!
2007-03-05 02:18:34 · answer #4 · answered by katymlady 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all I think it's great that there are men on the answers that feel you should not do it. Also, I think you should steer clear because your boyfriend is clearly not respecting your wishes if he won't use a condom and if he doesn't respect that what makes you think he will respect anything else you want to say or do. He will also expect this all the time if you give in so easily and then you run the risk of getting pregnant. Please Please just wait. I'm sure God has some awesome things ahead for you and you don't want to get caught up in the detour of life by having babies so young. Sure people do it all the time...but what personal goals and dreams do they sacrifice in return.
2007-03-05 02:18:26 · answer #5 · answered by child_n_light 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're going to have sex - use protection! You're right to be nervous. Why doesn't he want to use a condom? My sister was a pregnant teen and, while she loves her little girl, she was not ready to be a mom. If he refuses to use protection, tell him you refuse to have sex. If you can be open with your parents, discuss the pill. But since you have been sexually active in the past, and I'm assuming he has as well, you really need further protection against STDs. Be careful and think hard before making this leap. Take care...
2007-03-05 02:18:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to use a condom? Poor baby. That is a selfish choice that shows no respect for you! Responsible people use condoms when they have sex to prevent pregnancy and disease. If he cannot understand that, then he is not responsible enough to have sex. If you got pregnant, I suppose he wouldn't pay child support either because "he didn't want to."
DON'T have sex this Friday. DO go to a clinic where you can learn more about birth control options and safe sex. DO tell your boyfriend that you are not ready to take that step with him.
2007-03-05 02:19:05 · answer #7 · answered by not yet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look tell your boyfriend that if he wants to have sex with you he has to use a condom. Or no sex! as simple as that cuz u don't know if your bf has STD/AIDS or something. Plus he shouldn't be so selfish only thinking about himself and think about YOU You can get pregnant or catch a disease, so don't do it if he won't use a condom. Actually you probably shouldn't do it all cuz he should think of you first.
2007-03-05 07:55:08 · answer #8 · answered by Jenny0305 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the starting up do not assume to have a good time with it,nerves will allways take over and the favor to thrill your better 1/2 is only to a lot to agonize about,its no longer like the films even as its all suitable etc its more suitable of a fiddly affair with no longer understanding what to do besides the undeniable fact that it does get more suitable positive in time,remember the condom's and don't be compelled into doing something your no longer thoroughly chuffed with,
2016-12-05 06:38:45 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not too young to love. My first love was nearly 9 years ago when I was 16. But that doesnt mean that you know HOW to love, and certainly doesnt mean he knows how to love you.
A man simply doesnt love you if he's more concerned about how something feels on his penis, than protecting you from sickness and babies.
You do NOT need to have sex with someone who wont use a condom, that would make you a stupid girl.
There are reasons why people tell you that you are too young for love and sex. This is one of them, just the fact that you would need to question yourself and doubt your reasoning about using a condom is proof of that.
Use protection every time, until you are married and TRYING to make babies.
Even if you are on the pill you can still get diseases and infection. Most people dont even know they are infected, thats how they spread them.
Be grown up if you want to act grown up and have sex.
2007-03-05 02:17:46 · answer #10 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 9⤊ 1⤋