whats the best way to get even with a cheating spouse?

Answer 1

Divorce her and leave her what she deserves..........NOTHING! :-)~

Answer 2

Well, it depends.

If you want to save the relationship....talk to your spouse and ask why they did it. Try to work out anything, even with a marriage counselor if needed. There have been many good marriages continue that didn't start so good due to infidelity.

If you want to end the relationship...I'd still say take the high road and just leave. Getting them back, no matter how you do it, will just make you feel guilty later. It's probably no doubt that they feel bad anyway for doing it, and if you walk away with the attitude that THEY screwed up something good and THEY are losing out, it'll make them feel worse. Especially, if you don't do any revenge.

Example: A former bf cheated on me - I walked in on him - not a pretty sight. Even though I was completely torn up, I adopted the attitude that he just lost something great and I left. He talked big like he didn't care, but a couple months later, he begged me to come back. He's send me cards, flowers, poems, you name it. By then, I was completely over him. To this day he still tells everyone that I'm the one that got away. I'm so glad I took the high road.

Answer 3

Even is to cheat yourself then you have both commited an equal act but this is not the solution and would not make you feel any better about what she has done as this would not take away your anger and disapointment.You both need to talk and find out why she cheated in the first place and find ways of coming to terms with what as happened perhaps with some professional help.

Answer 4

I would say that for you to cheat as pay back would be best but if you have morals that's going to be hard to do.but at the same time,your spouse would know how you felt when you was cheated on because she or he would feel the same way.but keep in mind they always say once a cheater always a cheater,or you can't turn a ho into a housewife.Good luck in your decision personally I would leave and find some one worthy of your love and your life.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Make sure your spouse is guilty of cheating, have the proof. Then confront your spouse and let it be known, that you will not tolerate it and unless it stops immediately, he needs to live somewhere else. The most important thing for you to do is to get a medical check up and make sure he has not given you STD.

Answer 7

This is the wrong kind of thinking. Just leave move on. You will get no satisfaction from trying to cause harm to someone else or being mean. Let it go. The cheater will feel it when your out of their life and realize what they lost that is the best way. You need to be the better person.

Answer 8

The best way would be to win a few million on the lottery (after you are divorced of course) but that's not going to happen, but it would definitely be the ultimate revenge. If that doesn't happen then if somebody is not really interested in you anymore then nothing is going to make them jealous. It's not right to do anything illegal or hurtful. Time will eventually numb your desire to get even.

Answer 9

You don't provide enough info, so if it's the first time this has happened, FORGIVE. (Even if it's not, forgiveness is crucial to YOU being able to move on.) If your spouse is truly remorseful, go to marital counseling. If this is a repeated offense and you truly see no remorse / chance of your spouse changing their ways, you have valid grounds for divorce. Revenge belongs to God...

Answer 10

i would cheat on them myself n record it on cam so he can c every bit of enjoyment i was getting, (n if i wasnt then id fake it!!) then make him feel that i thought the other person was better then he is...then i would cut all of his clothes up n break everything he owns before chucking him out on the street n finding someone better for myself. i hate ppl that cheat n dont think there should b any forgiveness.......if u forgive someone that has cheated on u n u stay with them, u punish n hurt urself all throughout the realationship, u cant trust them anymore n wonder where they are all the time n who theyre with, u start to feel that they could b getting up to something even if they r only away from u for a few minutes. u start to question who they have seen n u go through there fone to make sure they havent bin txting anyone. i say just do wat u wanna do to em to get em bk then walk away from it. move on n find better!! xx

Answer 11

First of all you can't. No such thing as "even" in that case. So why would you want to?

If you can forgive and forget - just do it. If not, just go. In the end, you have to do what you can live with. So try to decide what your priorities are and take it from there.

But if your priorities are vengeance, you're already a loser.