We went out dancing Saturday night and every time I went to the rest room, I could see her flirting with men. I went to the bar to get a drink and when I returned, she was on the dance floor with some guy that looked like a football player.
2007-03-05 01:52:33 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow, tough one to swallow
big props to you, it is hard livin like that, knowingt things are slowing down, and nommatter how much you compliment her, and make her feel beautiful, she gets allittle loo0py and flirty...
the best advice i can give, is to trust her, do not confront her, it will only push her farther away.
just keep her closew, and get ellittle flirty yourself, and see if it pulls her closer...sometinmes all a woman needs is to see that she has got the hot one.
good luck
2007-03-05 10:20:49 · answer #1 · answered by Seerin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think a little flirting and dancing is reason enough to confront your wife. Was she kissing anyone? No? Then don't stress. She might know that you think she's the most gorgeous woman in the world, but now and then, she might like to hear it from an impartial judge.
If you really, really want to say something to her about it, say something like, "The other night, when we went out dancing, I saw all those men flirting with you, and I saw you dancing with that one guy. That kinda hurt. But then I realized that they were just flirting with you because you're so beautiful and amazing, but none of those guys gets to go home with you, or hold you, and that I'M the one who gets to do those things, and then I felt like the luckiest guy in the world." Then buy her some flowers and make sure you smile at her often. She'll melt.
2007-03-05 02:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I'd confront her right now.
She's clearly looking for something she isn't getting (sorry!). If this is new behaviour for her, then you have to find out what's up, and do everything you can to fix it now, before it goes any further.
Dancing with another guy in front of you is sooooo unacceptable! If she's being that bold, then you've got a problem. Typically, I think, that infidelity starts with thoughts, then turns to fantasies, then flirting, and when they meet a responsive person they like, it snowballs pretty quickly from there. If you weren't there with her, I wouldn't be too sure of how far she'd go. She clearly wants that male attention pretty bad. Badly enough to disrespect and hurt you.
On the other hand, if she was very flirty before you married, then she just probably needs that male attention regardless of what's going on in her life, and there's nothing you can do about it except demand that she have more respect for you than that. Either way, it's wrong and immature behaviour. She's putting her marriage at risk, and losing your trust, so it needs to be dealt with right away.
2007-03-05 02:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by Canadian Girl 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That depends on lots of things, did you agree that it was okay for either of you to dance with other people? Do you dance with or talk to other women when you go out together? Is this some place you go regularly and did she know these guys already? How were they dancing, was it friendly or inappropriate? Is it the type of place where couples always switch partners, or do you usually stay with your date if you have one?
2007-03-05 02:01:06 · answer #4 · answered by mommyem 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with flirting and dancing. However, if she is kissing or stroking the guy she is dancing with then yes that would be a problem. But dancing and flirting in itself is no big deal.
2007-03-05 02:30:20 · answer #5 · answered by Momma K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes confront her if need be BUT be nice about it and do not yell or raise your voice. be calm and collective when talking with her and choose your words wisely. Ask her why she was dancing with another man and why she was flirting around. Were your eyes only on her when you were there?
2007-03-05 02:20:02 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about it. Let her know you feel like the luckiest guy in the world and she will melt. Just see how it goes if you feel she wants other men the leave her. If you think she loves you and was just goofin off then don't worry. Girls just want to feel pretty and sometimes it's nice to have guys flirt with you.
2007-03-05 02:10:14 · answer #7 · answered by :o) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Do you look at other women?
2) DON'T GO TO BARS. There are plenty of other things you can do together. If you want to drink & dance, do it at home & make it interesting!
2007-03-05 02:37:45 · answer #8 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how long you've been married but if it was innocent flirting, I'd say don't sweat the small stuff.
My hubby and I have been married many years. He's seen me flirt, I've seen him flirt. I've seen him look at other women, just as he's seen me look at other men. When a woman flirts with him, I take it as a compliment. We are married, but for God's sake, we're not DEAD.
2007-03-05 02:31:02 · answer #9 · answered by Vicki B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Confront her if you are uncomfortable with her behavior. She probably would confront you if you were on the dance floor with some hot woman.
2007-03-05 01:57:08 · answer #10 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋