I only found out i was pregnant on Friday, and I've had maybe 30-40 calls with him crying, telling me it's the worst thing that could have happened and the easiest thing is to abort. I tell him i cant even talk about having an abortion and he says that i should, that i'd be a terrible mum.. just to have him calling when i'm in the middle of having morning sickness is getting me down. I want to keep the baby.
2007-03-05 01:51:23 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
he's just trying to get out of child support, don't listen to that jerk off, you're the one who makes that decision regardless of what he wants, it's your baby too. More yours than his since you carry it, and the effects of abortion will be to your body not his. DO NOT do this just because he wants you too, I guarantee you that you will regret it.
2007-03-05 01:55:16 · answer #1 · answered by krazy_chic6944 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep that baby then the decision is yours. If you decide to abort you will probably feel a little empty inside knowing you wanted your child all along but aborted bc your husband told you so. Him telling you that you would be a bad mom is him just trying to convince you no to have it. If you never had a child then how will you know? I think you should look at the information first in deciding whether an abortion is right for you.
Here is a site that may help. It give a check list you should go through to whether or not it is right for you. Im telling you now, dont let your ex husband pressure you into anything you dont want to do. Good Luck.
2007-03-05 02:00:47 · answer #2 · answered by highdle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you should do is not answer his calls anymore, if all he wants to be is negitive about the whole situation, You need to be around people who will be supportive. Just remember during this hard time for you that soon enough ( if you are keeping the baby ) that you will have the most beautiful thing you could ever ask for.
And the love between you and your baby will be unconditional.
I was 17 when I got pregnant with my Daughter and the guy I was with asked me to have an abortion and if I did me and him could still be together because he wasn't ready to be a father and I was to young,...I only thought, how could a person be so selfish if they are suppose to have loved you so much. but I now know that kicking him to the curve and having my daughter was the best thing that ever happened. As far as her father goes, he's never met her and she's almost 2, but I only think of it as his loss....so think of your ex husband as this being his loss if he doesn't want to have this kid or be apart of its life. because you have everything to gain ...and im sure you'll make a great mom .
2007-03-05 02:18:57 · answer #3 · answered by mom4ever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex-husband is being an irresponsible jerk (and that's putting it mildly). I'm sorry he's not being supportive, but you need to realize that you can't control his actions or attitude, only your own, and you need to do the right thing and protect your baby. It's not your baby's fault that her father is behaving so badly, or that you chose to have sex with him the first place. Your baby is totally innocent and doesn't deserve to die. Be like a momma bear and protect her at all costs!
No man is worth the life of your child. It sounds like this guy is on the way out of your life anyway. Please don't even consider aborting your baby for him! Abortion would be easy for HIM, NOT for you! You would end up hating yourself if you abort your baby, but if you let her live, you will never, ever regret it. When you hold her in her arms, you will know you did the right thing.
If you need some help being strong, please take a look at the information below. Did you know that your beautiful baby's heart started beating just 3 weeks after conception?
Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
Photos and Video of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
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http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
Abortion Stories:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html
Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.nrlc.org/Factsheets/FS15_pilldanger.pdf
Free, Confidential Pregnancy Help (including referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free pregnancy tests and ultrasounds; free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; counseling and emotional support):
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp (US)
http://www.heartbeatinternational.org/worldwide_directory.asp (worldwide)
You will be a great mum! You already have the most important things you need--strong maternal instincts, a love for your child, and a desire to protect her. And by the way, please realize that you have the right to celebrate the new life inside you. Regardless of your circumstances, you have been given a very great gift. Stay strong.
2007-03-05 05:51:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You keep the baby, that is your choice, and if he feels the need to act like a child about it, tell him you do not want him to call. His trying to pressure you into an abortion has absolutely nothing to do with you, he is scared of having to pay child support, its a pretty safe bet he isnt going to take a father figure role in the child's life. Having a baby will change your whole life, I have a son who is 18 months old now, and I'll be honest, its been up and down, and harder then almost anything i have done, its been funny and scarry, but I would never trade one second of the time I have spent and the memories I have made with my son for anything in the world.
The next time he calls you, tell him that you having the baby is not his choice and his input means nothing to you, tell him to stop calling and that if he doesnt, you will file charges of harassment against him. Tell him you will be the best mother that anyone could possibly be for your baby and that he will regret not wantign to be a part of his child's life someday, and by the time he realizes that, it will be to late. Then...hang up, and be done with him, hes is not worht stressing yourself over right now.
I wish you and your child the best, Good Luck.
2007-03-05 01:59:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well im really sorry to hear that. I was in the same situation when I found out I was pregnant. My boyfriend was pressuring me into an abortion and would say it would ruin his life and our future and blah blah. I would get so sad and down because thats the worst thing anyone could say to you when you find out your pregnant. You want everyone to be happy instead. But anyways.. 3 months passed by and I already had chickened out once on going to the abortion place, so by the 3rd month we found out it was $500 dollars and it was more difficult procedure so we decided it got to late for it and we waitied to long to do it. Sooo i had no choice but not to have an abortion...Soo now im keeping it! and now that he knows the "abortion" is out of the picture...he got over it and opened his eyes and is actually happy about the baby! hes happy that im having it and everything. So I guess your ex needs to get over it and you gotta tell him your having it and thats final. when your belly starts getting bigger, im sure he will start giving in and start to love the baby. I guess its just a stupid guys first response when there not ready for a baby!!! good luck and congratZ!!
2007-03-05 02:01:00 · answer #6 · answered by curious789 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course ull keep it! Having an abortion is murdering b/c even from the 8th week the baby is fully developed...So many women who have done it have had nervous breakdowns after the operation. By all costs keep the baby! You'll be the best mom, Im sure of that! And anyway I might be wrong, but why would your ex- care,, since you've divorced? It's over, he's gone! I think you had better not answer his calls b/c he might persuade you and that woulb be completely horrible! ( I mean killing the baby)
Plz, KEEP THE BABY!!!
2007-03-05 01:58:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you say EX husband...............Why does he get a say...... ignore him, change your #. Im pregnant Im divorced, Im a day shy of 20 weeks, I have not even told the as shole yet. He has nothing to do with our kids , doesnt see them, doesnt pay support, so I dont owe him anything.
This baby would not have came if i didnt believe his lies that he had changed. In 2 days i saw clearly he hadnt he just wanted back in my home, so he didnt need to look for work, he didnt work during our marriage because i had and still have a good job.
I told him to leave when I came to my senses, He was here long enough to knock me up. Yes a condom was used..... Oh well I love my kids and would have 20 if i could. I raise them alone and will this baby as well. Keep your baby, lose the looser.
2007-03-05 02:05:48 · answer #8 · answered by tammer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the baby regardless of what he says. You will be a great mom don't listen to him. He doesn't sound very mature if he wants you to have an abortion. How can he say that. He doesn't have a heart. You need to do what you feel is best. Good Luck.
2007-03-05 02:00:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell that sorry SOB that he can kiss your as$!! If he doesn't want to be part of that babies life, then you will take half of his check each week...its called CHILD SUPPORT! Let me tell you, it is soooo awesome to get half of a sorry as$ man's check when he doesn't feel like being stepping up a being a man. I'm sure when he was getting his 15 minutes of fun with you in the bed, he wasn't thinking twice about a beautiful baby coming into this world! You should keep that baby if you want to, first of all, he is your ex.... so he is a jerk for one reason. If he isn't willing to take responsibility for something he has made, he won't stick around for you even if you do abort the baby. Here is a great site you should look at, it will definetly change your mind about abortion. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE visit this site.
http://www.priestsforlife.org/resources/monica/index.htm
2007-03-05 01:58:22 · answer #10 · answered by yahoocraze 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't call him anymore during your pregnancy. You should be talking to people who will be supportive - presumably your friends and family. If you don't want an abortion and you let him pressure you into it, you will regret it the rest of your life.
After the baby is born, you can get child support through the courts. Until then, don't deal with your ex.
2007-03-05 01:56:55 · answer #11 · answered by Liz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋