To be honest, I would'nt mind her "smothering" me a little bit...you know what I mean?
2007-03-05 01:50:19 · 31 answers · asked by Chewy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well that's a weird one to me. Women usually smother the man in most cases. Basically what she wants is for you to go hang out with your friends more. Do stuff by yourself. She just needs time to miss you. Give her some space by doing somethings by yourself or with other people. Trust me. Do that and you guys will be closer. She might even smother you some.
2007-03-05 01:53:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
You turned her off to smothering you by suffocating her. Back off with the constant phone calls and hanging on to her. Call her once a day, from work to tell her you are on your way home. When you get there give her a kiss hello, ask how her day was and then go take a shower or whatever. Have nice dinner conversation and then try being quiet for awhile. At bed time make love or kiss her good night and go to sleep. Quit making her your whole life, you will lose her!
2007-03-05 02:00:35 · answer #2 · answered by kitkat 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself if your very loving so be it. I wish my husband would smother me more, lol. Have you always been like this? Everyone likes to have their alone time and/or time apart. Hang out with guy friends, fix up things around the house, yardwork something that will take your mind off of her for a little bit. Soon she'll see shes not the center of attention as much and she will come to you when she wants more. Even when married we like our men to be a little hard to figure out and the chase should always be there. Keeps the fire going.
2007-03-05 01:58:09 · answer #3 · answered by ilisalec 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for the first few years my wife use to tell me that and then i had to go get a hobby so that i would stop doing that. after a while of working and putting all my effect into the new hobby she started turning the table on me an i love it so now. so just stop doing it a find something to keep your mind for wanting to smother her. Good luck.
2007-03-05 01:59:54 · answer #4 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
give her some space. Assuming we are talking about a grown woman, she's an adult, she doesn't need your o.k. in everything that she does. And guys if you are retired, get the hell out of the house, and find an honest hobby. If you worked your whole life, she's not used to you being home all the time, and ya'll are getting on some ladies nerves. I hear this from some of the older ladies in my community.You are up her @ss, and she needs her space ! Make her miss you. Older women get tired too, and they want to "retire" too.......not have extra work and feel like they have to entertain you just because you are home. Retirement changes a lot for wives, too !
2007-03-05 02:02:12 · answer #5 · answered by Scorpius59 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
even married people need to have down time for themselves every now and then. you shouldn't "turn the tables" that just sounds like you want to get even... try doing things on your own...if you need to go to the store then go...she doesn't have to go with you. If shes busy at work and you keep calling her try to understand that she has a job to do and you really could be interefering with her work. If she wants to take a bath alone don't let that hurt your feelings...wouldn;t you rather her relax and get her day off her mind on her own without complaining to you and getting you all worked up?? maybe start making date nights so you guys can completely be all about each other for the night that way you both get time together and then the nights when she just wants to veg out it won't be that big of a deal to you
2007-03-05 02:03:51 · answer #6 · answered by Chrissy 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Communication, is the "Key" to a "Successful Marriage" hun!! You need to tell her that you smother her, inadvertantly because you so desire this "From her!!" And be open with her, about how you feel!! Or this will not get resolved, it'll only become "worse" befoe it gets better if you dont speak your mind, about it... And if I were you, if you back way off, and go on with your own thing as much as possible, she may actually get to missing all of that Loving, and effection you used to give her!! This is called "Reverse psychology!!!" And see how that works for you, first, then I'll bet you within a couple of weeks of backing way off, (as much as it's killling you, not too) she will be like wow, "What's up with him, he's not paying attention to me, the way he used too?!!!" And in turn you will begin to get smothered a little bit by her, as well, you'll see!! Smile!! It'll all work itself out!! Just make yourself back way off, for atleast two weeks, so plan you a "Busy Schedule" right now, for those two weeks, and you just watch and see that she doesn't actually get to missing all of your effections, and if she doesn't than its time to move onto too another wife!! I'm sorry but, if she doesn't get too missing your loving, than that only means "The love is gone, hun!!" And your marriage is also in trouble!! I hope this wont be the case,,, but see how she respond's to this sort of behaviour from you first, and go from there!! Good luck to you & your's!!!
2007-03-05 02:02:21 · answer #7 · answered by Hmg♥Brd 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Best thing to do is leave her alone, if you stop showing her attention then she will notice this and will start to miss you. You might even find she starts coming to you for attention, have you ever heard the old saying - treat em mean keep em keen! Im not saying be horrible or anything but just give her, her space for a bit and let her come running to you.
2007-03-05 01:55:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
lol nice little tidbit at the end. My ex used to smother me all the time, even in 90 degree whether and it really got on my nerves. Just give her some space, she might start to miss it. My ex never stopped and I eventually left him b/c he gave me no room to breathe.
2007-03-05 01:59:52 · answer #9 · answered by Afrodyty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time to herself. Let her have a girls day out. I love it when I am away from my husband for a day I miss him. And then I smother him if you know what I mean.
2007-03-05 01:53:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋