I have been separated with my wife for 5 years and I have a 14-year old daughter and an 8-year-old son. I live in Sweden and they live with their mom in Italy. My ex-wife keeps my daughter from speaking to me. My daughter said she hates me for leaving her.
2007-03-05 01:41:13 · 8 answers · asked by italoman43 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your daughter may come around someday and your wife really should let your daughter talk to you . You just may have to take a trip across the ocean and visit and see your dauther and son again. Your wife may be brain washing your daughter against you. Give your daughter time however and someday she may just turn around and want to see you again because she misses you so much. Have you tried sending her a letter or a card? Try this ant make sure her mom gives it to her so she can read it and write back to you if she wants to. Good luck to you and hopefull someday soon your daughter will want to at least talk to you again. You cannot force your daughter to see you or even want to talk to you at this age. Just give her some time and space and may i ask why you moved so far away from your kids to begin with? Maybe you should think about moving back closer to them again. She may feel abandoned by her dad.
2007-03-05 02:11:31 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce and separation causes a lot of heartache especially for kids. Remember that this daughter is going through not only issues with the separation and the distance, but also hormonal changes as well. Teenager years are hard enough to go through without adding the pain of a failed marriage of their parents. You just need to be patient and allow her to get beyond these difficult years. Continue to try and keep in contact with your kids and eventually they will resume a relationship with you.
2007-03-05 09:50:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time. You can write her letters or send emails. At fourteen she is going through a very difficult time, don't try to force the issue. I'm not sure why your marriage didn't work, but as your daughter matures, she will understand things better. She will want a relationship with you, make sure you're available when she's ready.
2007-03-05 09:51:51 · answer #3 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter is at an age where she may not want to come see you. If you force her she will resent you more. I was this way with my dad until I turned 19. My dad and I have a great relationship now but it took time.(I'm 33 now) I really hated him for leaving my mom.
Just to let you know my mother never said anything all that bad about my father, so it wasn't like I was turned against him I just didn't want to see him.
2007-03-05 09:48:05 · answer #4 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children always get dragged into their parents seperations and divorces. It is impossible not to take sides when you see one parent being hurt. Your child is loyal to her mother, and that is a good trait.
Why don't you go and visit your daughter? Why must she come and see you?
You can tell her then that you miss her and care about her. Every child needs a father.
2007-03-05 09:47:53 · answer #5 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is so sad. i think this is why God made divorce to be such a rare thing. i wonder if you sent a registared letter to the girl would she get that. or your son could he deliver a letter to her.
if i had to i would pay a lawyer to help with this. i would however be very carefull about how much to pay the lawyer as they can be like sharks.
i have to say if you dont make contact soon then if you ever will it will be when she is grown up. i would say this is about the last year you have to see the child that is your girl.
2007-03-05 09:47:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in time your daughter will come around send her cards little thing to show you care as while as your son just remember you divorce their mother not the kids why you didnt see youre kids over the summer unsure youre need to try to see them youre their father
2007-03-05 09:50:15 · answer #7 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to visit your children and explain to them, that you will always love them and be there for them. Make sure you give them your address and telephone number. Some ex wives will not allow their children this information. Buy them a cell phone (handy) and pay for it and they can call you anytime they want to. Or you can arrange for them to have phone cards they can use.
2007-03-05 09:48:32 · answer #8 · answered by flieder77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋