2007-03-05 01:38:55 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this is a major red flag....she will not change.....if u marry her, expect to b broke................its God's Plan.......let us pray......
2007-03-05 01:41:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've had the same problem in a past relationship.
I tried pleading, yelling, bribing, going to counseling - which he refused to do. Nothing worked. I eventually had to take over the bills and start him on a budget. He didn't like that so he locked me out of our bank account. I didn't have any kind of access to it. So, if I needed money, I had to go through him. Needless to say, we were always broke. He was being paid $2,000 a week and we still had nothing to eat other than Ramen noodles and Kool-aid because he couldn't stop spending money.
Unless she's willing to get some outside help, you're going to have to deal with this for the rest of your life. She'll never change. You'll be up to your eye-balls in debt and your credit will be shot - no one is worth that.
If she can't respect you and care for your well-being, then you need to move on. There are other women out there that will treat you so much better.
2007-03-05 02:14:50 · answer #2 · answered by Joa5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could TELL her all you want, but she won't listen. Instead, sit down with her. Take your incomes and add them together, then figure out how much your bills will be. Figure in groceries, utilities, gas, etc. Then show her how much will be left, and ask her if she can live with that and not spend more than allowed per month. If she can't, then don't get married and until she is willing to stick with the budget. Money is the #1 problem in marriages so be SURE she understands she will not be able to over spend.
2007-03-05 01:42:25 · answer #3 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just a little word to the wise here.....this is who your fiance is. Don't think she is going to change once you get married and have children. If she does not respect you now in saving money she isn't going to later when you have a mortgage to pay 2 children and one on the way and the car payment is already late. Get me? Think this one through before going forward. Marriage is a big step and I certainly don't want you to have to go through a divorce someday.
Good luck!
2007-03-05 01:42:59 · answer #4 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this should be a huge warning sign for you . i have known some couples that where the man got really messed up like 10 years of two jobs just to pay off what his wife had put on credit.
i suggest before you marry this girl you really look into how this is going to work . i urge you to do this what a mess this can be.
2007-03-05 01:43:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get use to it or get out of the proposal. Do you think putting a ring on her finger is going to make her stop spending? Heck she figures there is just more to spend. Open you eyes before it is too late. Or get use to treating her like a child and her ending up hating you.
2007-03-05 01:44:56 · answer #6 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
frequently whilst 2 persons at the instant are not jointly on an afternoon-to-day foundation, they start to communicate extra advantageous 'cos then you certainly see issues with a various perspective. you do not continuously see faults then, you in addition to mght start up focusing on the sturdy issues. What you the two choose is a while aside for the two certainly one of you to attain one yet another's value. you have spent ten years jointly and in spite of issues, it shows you nonetheless have feeling for another. start up your courting afresh; do not stay on previous issues, yet concentration on the sturdy and God might actually assist you artwork out the placement. each and all of the terrific...........
2016-10-17 07:45:19 · answer #7 · answered by troesch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her shes gotta start saving money if she wants to have a house and a car, and not be broke in life.
2007-03-05 01:43:27 · answer #8 · answered by Amber 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look into her eye and say to her you wont a big wedding or a big house please my love cut down on your shopping. if not your going to have to live in a box with the justest of the peace.
2007-03-05 01:43:25 · answer #9 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get used to it, she won't change and if she promises to she will only hide it until one day you wake up to finding your life savings gone.........
2007-03-05 01:44:16 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you won't marry her until she gets control of her shopping, if she can't control it..then tell her that she needs to go to counseling.
2007-03-05 01:58:51 · answer #11 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋