My wife complains about me calling her on the phone too much. Just how much is too much? What do you think ?

Question

Some have told me to just quit calling. What do you think?

Answer 1

How often do you call her? There's a fine line between calling to say "I love you" and "I don't trust you and want to see what you're doing every second of the day."

Answer 2

You really need to talk to her about this because it's a personal comfort issue.

I would say for me, I only want my DH to call me during the day if he needs to pass on some important information or needs me to do something that he can't get to. I don't want to be expected to come up with long topics of conversation in the middle of the day when he's supposed to be working. My attitude is get the work done and get home because I'd rather talk to you in person. Now, once in a while is really nice but even once a week gets to be too much for me.

But I know other families where it's expected to call back and forth as often as possible. Their comfort level for phone calls is much higher and they feel left out if they don't get them.

So talk to your wife and work out a compromise that works for both of you.

Answer 3

It depends on how much you call her. If my husband called me ALL THE TIME, I would think he was checking up on me and didn't trust me. But I do enjoy that he calls me a few times a day and asks how I'm doing, what are we doing tonight, etc. Ask HER how much is too much, and then give her a break for a few days, and then try just once or twice a day.

Answer 4

Usually its the other way around. If your wife is complaining, you really must have been calling her every hour of the day. Try to time your call, say at lunchtime or during break so you won't be disturbing her work. Better if you have SMS just try to send a message she can read when she's free. Give her a little space.

Answer 5

I think it's lovely that you would want to call her every minute of the day but it really can be irritating at the other end if you are trying to get work done. My husband used to call me from work but stopped when we had children as I used to get really pissed off after having a c section trying to get out of the seat to find the phone!! I miss it now. But he could find other ways to show he loved me. Notes left before work would remind her throughout the day how much you love her.

Hope you can find the happy medium to keep her happy and you too!!

Answer 6

Why are you calling? Is it just to tell her that you love her or are you doing it to check up on her? My husband use to call me all the time, but it was because he was insecure and it drove me nuts!

It all depends on what your intent is. A phone call a couple of times during the day is O.K. Anything more is annoying.

Answer 7

it depends... are u calling her while she's at work? because then it should be very limited. if other coworkers answer the phone and have to transfer it to her i say u should call her 3 times a week or just when shes on her lunch break. If u are already doing this or she isin't at work when u call i think u should talk to her about it. find out what is causing her to be annoyed by you calling.

Answer 8

It's cute to call your wife or husband but 2 times a day.
I know how it feels to have someone call you every 5 minute. I lost my job cause my husband called me every 5 minute. The best thing to do just talk to her and tell her that you will call her at lunch or when you come out.

Answer 9

Why are you calling so much? Limit it to once a day if necessary. Give the girl some space. If you stop calling you'll have lots to talk about when you get home!!

Answer 10

You shouldn't be calling her any more than once a day - if that.

It is a sign of not trusting her so stop calling, concentrate on your job/career & you'll have lots to talk about when you get home at night.