Do I have a LIFE? Haven't I payed my Debt? I get out only to find I have not!! No mindless answers please

Question

You probably think there is no hope for ex convicted sex offenders. Let me tell you about a success story. First, it's one thing to be presumed an offender, sometimes when people go on a witch hunt they'll not stop till they find something or someone who fits the description even in the smallest way. So I got out of prison, only to find out there was no place to live till The Lord provided me with and and a trailer I am currently Owning my Own shop and Singing for the LORD ...and no, for you people who like to track ppl like us, I will N O T reveal that info because you ppl need a life. Leave sex offenders alone, worry about yourself, keep yer mouth shut....unless ya can prove beyond a shadow of doubt an offender has invaded your life, (by means of DNA). Otherwise the coin can flip, and someday you'll be judged just the same way you Judge a presumed Sex offender, ex convict. Lastly , For My Law enforcement friends, Thanx for keeping me safe, and Yes, I am registered ThankYou

Answer 1

I think it is very selfish of you to tell us to keep our mouths shut ,worry about ourselves, How dare you to tell us how to feel about the crime you committed,You gave up your rights to have a worry free life when you committed Acts to children or women ,My Three younger sisters and i were molested and raped for years by a family member who also happened to be a police Officer, we were by far his only victims there were plenty others who could not gather enough strength to come forward ,I was the oldest and only 11 when we went to trial against this man ,My baby sisters had to endure all the pain again while sitting across from this man in the court room ,He only received 12 years and only served 6 of them , He is now free but my sisters and i are not ,One turned to drinking l and drugs at 13 and one cuts her self daily in hopes to have more physical pain rather than all the emotional pain ,So do NOT tell me how to feel !!!! Or how to deal with it .

Answer 2

Well, I personally feel that if you have given your life to Christ and REALLY adhere to his regulations for our lives, then all should be forgiven. But you also have to understand the countless other convicted sex offenders who are roaming the streets, UNREGISTERED, looking for their next victim. Prime example: John Couey. He was an unregistered sex offender when he kidnapped and raped 9-year-old Jessica Lunsford; he then buried her ALIVE in fear of the police finding the little girl in his bedroom. I think that it's people like him that have so many on their toes and ready to get the noose ready in the town square. I personally don't think that we need to leave you all alone, keep our mouths shut, or "get a life." A lot of people in this world (or who were forced out of it through murder) have had their lives invaded by sex offenders, and it's sad that I am afraid to let my children play in their own backyard for fear of the same happening to them. I'll tell you this: if someone was to violate MY children, or children that are close to me, the offender won't have to worry about jail time. He or she will have to worry about how long it's going to take the police to clean their brains off of the pavement.

Answer 3

It's not just about forgiveness, or paying a debt, it's fear. If it was just about debts, victims would ask for money. Jails exist today to "keep dangerous criminals off the streets" because we're afraid of them.

And perhaps jealousy, people who haven't been convicted of any crime who feel they should have better than those who have been convicted.

You seem to say you're innocent, or at least not as guilty as people say you are, that happens, sometimes innocent people get unjustly punished. Life isn't fair, that's why people find such hope in spirituality.

Does that answer your question in any way?

Answer 4

Bad decisions will follow you the rest of your life. Yes, you may have done your time in prison. Yes, you may have turned the direction of your life around. Yes, you may have asked for and received the Father's forgiveness. BUT, what we do usually cannot be reversed. If I cut off my arm and throw it in the fire, it's not coming back. If I commit a horrible crime against someone, I can't just take it back as if it never happened.

I do find it somewhat hypocritical that you scream to be left alone yet you air it out on a very public forum.

I will pray for as smooth a transition as possible into as normal a life as possible for you.

Answer 5

Not all offenders leave DNA (flashers), and while I grant you not ALL sex offenders repeat, the vast majority of them do. If you were convicted and are innocent, I can only say it must suck to be you. If it were me, I would not rest until that untruth was exposed and my name and character exonerated, my records expunged. If you were convicted as a person guilty as charged, I have no sympathy for you. The rights of people to be free of that kind of intrusion into their lives and the lives of their children outweigh your need to feel accepted back into society.

Answer 6

You did a bad thing. . .
It cost you your freedom, respect, trust, and a normal life.

It cost your victim a lifetime of fearfulness, a loss of self respect, the ability to trust anyone, ever again, and a normal life.

You feel put upon because you can't have a normal life? Sorry, no sympathy from me. I know too many of your victims.

God will forgive you but people will never really trust you again. That is the burden you will have to carry for the rest of your life. That is the consequence of your act.

Answer 7

First., let me say I do not judge you. That's God's job - not mine. The bible says we can be forgiven for are sins if we just ask. If we read on further it tells us that we still will have to pay the wages of our sins. He will forgive us , but that don't meen we won't "reap" the coienciences. I am still paying for my sins I committed 11 years ago ( having a child with a man I knew was a drug addict and a liar). I'm seeing behaviors in my son that are like his fathers when he was a adolecent ( his mother has informed me of the things he used to do.,ect..)

Yes, I do think you have payed your debt (and cuz you'll never meet me) I personally feel sorry for people like you. I do believe people can change their evil ways when they come to the Lord. I know most of the world would say I'm stupid for thinking like that, too. Like I said, , I think you have paid for what you did, but that don't meen you won't wear the scars. You know what? I do believe God loves us and doesn't want us to live miserably ( bible states he has redeemed us from the curse of man.) He can send us hope! That is why he so wonderful! He loves us so much my brother. All we have to is ask for his help. I advice you to ask for his help!

Early last year I did this not even really believing he would answer! Here's what happened... I was still with the father of my child trying to stay with this man for the sake of his sweet little boy. I was so miserable. He was still doing the drugs, ect.. I cryed out to God one night -- Dear God, help I can take living like this no more! I don't have the strength to boot this rotten man out of my life! It was like the battered women sydrome ( turns out that is similar to what it was!) One night later after I had prayed my husband came home and said he was leaving me for another women! I was devastated at first, but now I have healed since last year and am so much happier! I haven't gone back to him and God has helped me to stay away ( I have even re-married another man that treats me and my son so wonderful). God took care of my son, too. He now has a good father that he never had before. My new husband even has helped counsel my ex (he is always encouraging him in different ways to change his ways for the sake of his boy). So anyhow-- Ask God to help. He there to help you with more than you realize! Blessings from Texas!

Answer 8

I am a 63 year old woman. I was molested when I was 5. I have never gotten over it. It has effected my life very negatively. So please forgive me if you feel offended you idiot.

Answer 9

I'm not going to presume to know whether or not you were rightly convicted, or even make any comments about the complexities of your life today that you imply exist, and about which you are clearly bitter. I'm just going to tell a little story about one very small incident that happened to me when I was eight years old. I was on my own in the children's play area at the local park, scooting myself round on one of those little roundabouts. A man - somewhere in his 30/40's I'd guess - walked out of some bushes, called "Hey kid" and when I looked towards him, exposed himself. I didn't even have any understanding at that time what it was I was seeing, but I remember being overcome with the instinctive sense of it being something very wrong that he was doing. I lit out of there and ran like a deer out of the park, and to my home nearby. Then I sat in my bedroom, trying to process what had just happened. I felt scared, but never told my mother because I didn't know how to put into words what had occurred. I just knew I would never go alone to the park again, and never did.
That was over half a century ago, and I can tell you that throughout all the long years from then to the present, that one memory has stayed with me, still triggering that same instinctive sense of discomfort and uneasiness, whenever it has popped back into my mind. It comes to my mind a lot these days, as we hear more and more cases of child sexual abuse that has gone waaaaaay further than what happened to me.
Parents - the huge majority of them anyway - are dedicated to the protection of their children, and are forever fearful of sexual predators, because we know they are everywhere, and they don't walk around with signs on their forehead. We also know that whatever "twist" they have in their psyche that causes them to have this sexual attraction to children, was there from their early years, and will be there till the day they die. Some, having once been caught and punished, may have the inner strength to overcome their urges, and never do it again. But the majority will not, and will re-offend. We don't know who has, and who has not overcome this unnatural urge, but one way or another it is always there, lurking somewhere in their heads, and if and when it breaks loose again, the next victim could be our child
No caring parent is prepared to risk that happening by not asking for, and making full use of any and every tool allowed them under the law, to protect the innocence of their child. It wasn't the child that committed the wrongful act, and it isn't the parents, or society who are to blame for the twisted abberrations of that sexual offender. If the offender wants to argue that it isn't his fault either because he didn't choose to have the problem he was probably born with, I suppose that might be a viable postulation. But he did make the choice to submit to it when he KNEW it was wrong, offensive, and extremely damaging to his helpless victims. There has never been a time that I heard about yet another case of child sexual abuse, without thinking about that incident years ago, and saying to myself if that single very small thing could have such a profound lasting impact on my psyche, what kind of devasting, overwhelming damage must be done to the minds and the lives of children who have undergone much, much worse?
I don't know who you are, sir, but I do know that you are directing a lot of rage at Society for simply doing what they have every right to do - work tirelessly to keep their innocent children safe, and punish those who are found preying on them. You may have payed your debt to that Society as far as the offence for which you were convicted, and punished, but you have no right to condemn Society for being wary enough of you, having demonstrated what you were capable of. If you did something you feel you couldn't help doing because of some compelling urge within you, how can we know that urge couldn't break loose again? How can you even make that guarantee yourself?
You talk about us having no right to persecute sex offenders unless and until one of them has invaded our life. You already have invaded our life, sir, because whatsoever you have done to one person's child, you have done to all of us, and when you have impacted the life of that child, you have left your mark on Society as a whole.
One thing that stands out in everything you wrote, is the absence of what you didn't write. Not one word of regret, or remorse, or apology, or an attempt to say that you understand the feelings of those whose only desire is to protect their kids. Not a single word of regret for having almost certainly taken away from the victim or victims of your behaviour something that they will never get back, and having replaced it with something they will never forget.
You asked for "no mindless answers" so you should appreciate mine, at least, because I have given a lot of mind to it. You indicate that you have now turned to "religion". I hope you will find within it what you need to go on and live a blameless life. Power to you in that. But you are not serving that purpose by blaming others, or projecting your resentment at us for the very feelings and uncertainties that YOU and others like you put there in the first place. You paid your debt under the Law. Now you will have to pay your debt to your own conscience, and live the rest of your life with the consequences of your own behaviour.

Answer 10

May you never know peace