Please check out my other question about it being appropriate to have female "friends" sending text messages to my husband's cell phone.
A lot of the guys said I am over reacting and I'm jealous and insecure and blah-de-blah-de-blah...
How would YOU handle YOUR wife or girlfriend receiving personal text messages from some guy "friends" that you've never met??? You mean to tell me that you would be totally cool with that and you wouldn't demand to know what was going on? Or who these dudes were that were contacting you???
2007-03-05 01:31:39 · 23 answers · asked by ♥♥Mrs SSG B♥♥ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is no reason a married man should incessantly be getting communications from other women. He should not be continually receiving text/email from women you do not know. Marriage is hard enough without that complication. You are not being overbearing to expect this.
2007-03-05 01:35:51 · answer #1 · answered by Devdude 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately men are double standard when it comes to things like this. It is very inappropriate whether it is the wife or the husband the boyfriend or the girlfriend. It is nothing if the boyfriend or husband is getting the text but if the girlfriend or wife is getting the text it gets down right ugly. The nature of the text if he lets you read it should be enough to determine how you should react. If he lets you read it then you should not get jealous and if he doesn't I would seriously think about kicking some @&&.
2007-03-05 01:48:55 · answer #2 · answered by romettifamily 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of factors that lay into this. First and foremost, it bothers you, so that means it should stop. BUT, wouldn't you consider it controlling if your husband told you who you could and couldn't talk to? Most of the women I've talked to would. I find it deeply ironic that you're right, most women would be bothered by their boyfriend getting a text message from a female friend or co-worker, but if he even hinted that he'd rather she not openly flirt with other guys in public, then he's being too controlling and needs to back way off, because that's her right by golly and just to show him how lucky he is she'll sleep with the guy she was just flirting with before... and if he can't handle that then it's his tough luck.
I think the best policy is somewhere in the middle. Be accountable to each other. You should know the nature of all of the text messages, and if they start to get "too frisky," you should be able to put a stop to them. I had to do that with my wife and one of her male friends. But she has several other male friends that she talks to on a regular basis. It doesn't bother me unless/until they start to cause problems.
2007-03-05 01:50:53 · answer #3 · answered by Sean J 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-03-29 00:46:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is inappropriate for a married man or woman to be sending and receiving personal messages with someone of the opposite sex. The fact that your husband refuses to stop, even though he knows it bothers you, makes me think he is immature and uncaring. Grown-ups don't do that kind of thing. Hopefully you don't have any children with this guy, because things don't look good. Good luck.
2007-03-05 04:00:33 · answer #5 · answered by Tiss 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband hates it when one of his friends contacts me by text or phone. But some of friends of mine call him and he says its ok. I think that a lot of men are double standard . Also, if you have a problem with it then he should understand and do something about it. Our agreement is that we tell each other who calls...and it is not a trust issue. It is just that we don't want to find out from the other and it is not like we stop and call each other right then. Talk about it with him and be open.
2007-03-05 01:40:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
My husband would be PISSED if some guy was sending me emails and text messages, and I would be mad at him if the situation were reversed. No, it is not appropriate behavior for a marriage. I mean, it's not the dating game, right? Only immature, young unmarried people do things like that. If you want your husband to know how you feel, have some guy send you messages all the time and let him know it, and then see what HIS reaction is like.
That really makes me mad.
2007-03-05 01:35:50 · answer #7 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I didn't see your other post...but I would not be okay with my husband receiving text messages from women. No way!
You are not jealous and over-reacting. He should care about what upsets you. If these women mean nothing...then he should tell them to stop because it upsets you. He doesn't have to agree with you...he just has to love you enough to not want you to feel hurt.
Even if he's not doing anything wrong, he's putting himself in danger of doing something wrong. He needs to not engage in behavior that upsets you and/or could lead to being tempted to break his marriage vows.
2007-03-05 01:45:26 · answer #8 · answered by Misty 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm with you...I don't think it's appropriate for other women to text a married man.
I know my husband wouldn't like it if I received messages from men.
It all comes down to showing respect for your spouse.
2007-03-05 01:36:25 · answer #9 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
My ex-boyfriend would do the low voice on the telephone from a room. I set up a caller ID box on an extension. I had her telephone numbers. I don't believe there is any reason for text messages from someone other than your significant other. BOY- am I glad there wasn't text messaging at the time.
2007-03-05 01:35:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋