im 21 and my gf is 23 and we are in love and having a baby together but she got a text from her ex who is 40 saying that he was having a bday party and she should go she said that thay were still freands and she was going i dont like this i know she wouldnt cheat on me but i think he has other things in mind not to add the fact that i think he is a pedo his last gf was 17 and i dont trust him.also she is pregnant as well and i dont think she should be going out to clubs i love her but hate the fact she is dissmissing that iv asked her not to go.am i in the wrong or is she shall i just betend that im ok with this a sit back.maybe there is a part of me that does not trust her. can any one help
2007-03-05 01:30:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why don't you go with her.xx
2007-03-05 01:35:31 · answer #1 · answered by cagsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your gf is still hanging onto her single life. If you are not engaged and not married then you have no ties to her and she has a right to do whatever she wants. Just having a baby together does not constitute love between two people. Kids are born out of lust every day and that's alot of the problems with todays relationships. I don't see where she has the same feeling for you as you do for her or she wouldn't have taken up the invitation from her ex. Better think before you get into this relationship too much deeper. You have already got a major responsibility with child coming to support. You want to make sure that this gf is mature enough to settle down before saying any I do's.
2007-03-05 09:43:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why aren't you going to the party with her. i'd be more concerened if she'd planned to go without telling yuo where she was going. if you trust her then there's no issue.
before she goes, tell her what your worries are and that you're not keen on him (most people don't tend to like their current partner's ex's anyway so she should understand that). make her aware that you think he may try and make a pass if this is what you're thinking.
she should understand you have concerns as i'm sure she would be concerned if you went to a party of one of your ex's.
as for the clubbing, she's not ill. maybe a club is not the best environment, how about you ask her not to stay for long, especially if its smoky as the smoke could have some effect dependant upon how far gone your partner is
2007-03-05 09:46:07 · answer #3 · answered by flojo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know you don't trust her. If you did trust her you would let her go. But she is wrong for wanting to go and if she really was in love with you she would invite you. If your gf is pregnant why aren't you getting married or already married. You love her and she loves you, why is she just your girlfriend. YOu both need to sit down and figure out what your relationship really is!
2007-03-05 09:42:06 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not over reacting, and she is out of her mind going to out party while she is pregnant. I would not trust her going alone to his party. If she is willing to go drink while she is pregnant and put her baby in danger then she doesnt care about her relationship with you. Tell her that you are going along with her or she isnt going at all.
2007-03-05 09:41:32 · answer #5 · answered by ehallman07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with her, if she refuses, let it be know that then theres something else up, and you need to move on dude because then she doesn't respect you as a man, or your baby(clubs are not cool). " Without Trust there can be no Love"
2007-03-05 09:41:14 · answer #6 · answered by shocker83_fear_me23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Urm sounds fishy to me...but if she is going to cheat she will cheat regardless of going to one party, he obviously has got her phone number so he could potentially contact her at any time, the question is will she run when he snaps his fingers? Only time will tell.
2007-03-05 10:55:39 · answer #7 · answered by georgeygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you just sit her down and tell her your concerns, without accusing her of anything. just tell her you would rather that she didnt go, maybe offer her a realy special night out on the same night to make up for it.
2007-03-05 09:37:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should not go...he go to get her back n u will lose her
2007-03-05 10:01:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
EVER HEARD OF FULL STOPS AND COMMAS?
2007-03-05 10:06:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋