If your wife leave you for two months......?

Question

If your wife leaved you for two months, and you stay with the children, what does it mean?

1.- She is coming back with excuses, and stay.
2.- She is not coming back at all, although she is calling you with excuses.
3.- She is coming back with excuses, and leave again shortly after.
4.- She doesn’t care about you.
5.- She doesn’t care about you and the children.
6.- She cares about the children but not you.
7.- She doesn’t care about anybody else but herself.

Answer 1

#7 is my guess. For any woman to be able to leave her children, she cares about no one but herself.

Answer 2

4

Answer 3

Sweetie, I think it's past time to face the truth. Her disapperance is not because she doesn't love the children or you, but she has found something exciting in those months which could only be a man/woman. She doesn't want to give up her security>>> the children and you>>> but she doesn't want to give up her newly found man and the excitement she feels every time she's with him. If you had the money, I would say hire a private detective, but deep down inside you already know the answer..You could put the cards on the table and ask her point blank or you could also tell her in no uncertain words that if she leaves one more time the marriage will be over and you file for divorce and full custody of the children. It has to be hard on the children too, not knowing where their mother is and when she'll be back. If you were to ask the children what they thought about their mother leaving, you might discover that they know more about the situation than you do. But, this is no way to bring your children up and it's no way for you have to live. Bring it out in the open and make a decision to divorce her and stick to it. Fight for full custody of your children. This will be a very hard thing to do>> divorce>> but as I understand it, she's not much of a mother to her children and I would guess that she is not much of a lover to you either. I wish you the best, but don't let this go on any longer. Janet

Answer 4

6

Answer 5

7

Answer 6

#7, #5, #3 and you fail to say this one. There's someone else. She'll be back when those grapes go soar. I hate it for those kids. It's rare that you find a sorry a$$ mother. I commend you for being a good father. If I was you, I would take out child support on her and get a lawyer so she can't decide to come and take the kids when she wants to. Set up visitation and if she does not comply, then take her rights from her. I advise you, not to continue to listen to her lies and excuses, there is no excuse for leaving your family. I will pray that the pain in your and the kids heart goes away. God bless you for being that great man that is so rare. She don't want you nor the kids, but there is someone that will come in and treat the kids as their own and love you as a wife should, if that's what you want.This woman doesn't know the meaning of love or motherhood. Hold your head up, when you feel like giving up, just think about how sorry she is and ask God to give you strenght to go on and ask him to forgive her and to please help her to find peace in whatever she is doing. God bless you.

Answer 7

Not knowing why she left, I have to say that any woman who leaves her children behind is a person that only cares about herself. Husbands may come and go but your children are your forever and they should always come first. By leaving them and staying gone 2 months, it's my guess that she wasn't a good mother to start with. I'd probably make sure that it was legal if she does come back that she can't jerk them around while she figures out what she wants in life. How do the kids about her absence, does she come to visit them or call them? I've been married and divorced with children twice and NEVER did I consider my kids not going with me nor would I have allowed it.

Answer 8

she dont care about nobody only herself and how can you just up and leave your kids like that i had a brother in the same position and the best thing you can do is get custody of the kids and not let her see them till they get old enuff to make there own decitions then tell them everything and let them make there own decicion cuz if you let the kids see her it will cause the kids alot of emotional hurt cuz they wont know why mommy is always comeing home then leaveing again. and keep your head up its gunna be tuff when they come to you and ask you where she is and just stay tuff and strong for your kids and be truthfull with them and they will respect you for it. the only ones that are suffering is you and the kids. good luck man and be strong and everything will work out for the better.

Answer 9

#7 is my best pick. It means she abandoned you and yours and her children for her own self centered self. And when find outs that she has made a grave error by leaving, I would not want her back in my life or my childrens life right now until she gets help for what is bothering her and stop running away from problems or issues. I would talk to a lawyer and see what my options are with this issue. God Bless and Good Luck.

Answer 10

you forgot #8 why did she leave in the first place?
As for me there where problems in our relationship that affected our child like verbal and physical abuse. so I left knowing that he would take care of our child so that doesnt mean that I don't want my child I just wanted him to know that it is a job being a parent a mothter a maid a money maker a provider and all that! But now Im back and he understands that life is not that easy.
It does'nt mean that I don't love my child it has to do with what really makes a woman leave in the first place. Tell the whole truth and stop looking for your way out.

Answer 11

It is obvious that she has left you and the kids (how any person can leave their kids......). You need to go to a lawyer and file for custody of the kids and to get a divorce. She is a self-centered person that only cares about her needs. You and ( I hate to say this) the kids are better off without her. She may come back, but how soon until she decides to leave again? Do you really want to go thru that again? Is it fair to you or the kids....I think not. Do what is best for you and the kids.....file, file, file.