We have been together for 5 years and he only just told me that he kissed someone on his holiday (we were together 3 years then). I am so mad he could do this to me and i love him all the world, but i feel cheated and ashamed that my boyfriend could actually treat me like this, and he has done it more than once. He says he loves me, but is it possible for somebody in love to even think of kissing etc, another girl nevermind actually doing it? Would you leave him or stay?
2007-03-05 00:58:23 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Guys are impulsive and lustful. Most of the time when they cheat, it's because they can't control themselves; they aren't even thinking of their girlfriends. They think about the here and now, not the consequences of their actions. It hurts to be cheated on, it's happened to me a few times. Under certain circumstances, I believe in second chances, but ultimately it's your decision. But if it's happened more than once, there's a huge chance that it will happen again.
2007-03-05 01:04:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everybody is different but i think sometimes it would be easier if we all accept that we are all human and these things do happen, i believe people can seperate love from lust. It was a kiss and yeah although it's cheating in your book it's not as bad as an affair or sleeping with someone else. The deceit could of been much worse. Depends on how much you value your relationship and of course individual circumstances.
I'm not condoning cheating, and alcohol etc are not excuses to dismiss whats happened however just because he did this does not mean he doesn't love you or value your relationship, he shoulda confessed sooner so thats also a factor, like i think lying in relationship is far worse than cheating.
I'm sorry but huckleberry1 hit the nail on the head with his response.
2007-03-05 01:07:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's awful that he hasn't told you before now, but then again that was 2 years ago. Has he done it since? Has it ever gone further than a kiss? Does he seem as interested and as in love with you as he always has?
Go with your gut instinct - if it tells you to leave then that is probably what will work out for you better in the long run. On the other hand, if it tells you to stay then try it for a while.
Good luck and I'm sorry this has happened to you
xx
2007-03-05 01:31:30 · answer #3 · answered by b3xecutioner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would usually say it isn't possible to kiss someone when you are in a relationship with some one you love --- but i have been there and done it myself,i was very very drunk at the time but it didn't mean i didn't love my boyfriend it genuinely was a mistake -- so where as usually i would say get rid of him, i think if he is sorry and has said it will never happen again then i would give him a second chance - but he shouldnt expect you to be happy about him going on holiday with the boys again! x
2007-03-05 01:05:30 · answer #4 · answered by jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was just a holiday kiss two years ago. Not really worth throwing a five year relationship away for. He's obviously still racked with guilt about it or he wouldn't have told you. OK so he made one minor slip up. Try and work it out. Five years is a long time. Good luck.
2007-03-05 01:05:35 · answer #5 · answered by Dave 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey ladies...listen up!
MOST MEN HAVE CHEATED!
What makes you women think that your BF or husband has not ventured out at least once. Statistics would beg to differ. It's a fact most men cheat or have at least tried it, so just run the numbers. That means, most of you here on Yahoo have been cheated on or will be cheated on at least once by your significant other. Only a very small percentage of you here will escape that reality.
Geesh!
2007-03-05 01:05:40 · answer #6 · answered by huckleberry1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a man's point of view, it's perfectly fine to do whatever they wish. A man cheats when he's confident that his partner would not to do the same, eg, he can fall back on SOMEONE if the other r/s screws up. Pretty silly.
Either that, or he's looking for something you're unable to provide him with. I would leave him. Ditch that piece of trash. Let him go screw around - don't give him the luxury of using you as backup.
2007-03-05 01:04:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a kiss is a very important and intimate gesture between two people that care for each other or that lust for one onother, it could be passionate or a peck on the cheek but it doesn't sound like the latter to me. My opinion? if he respected you and cared deeply enough for you he would not have kissed the other woman. What he did is something that should be shared only between the two of you. I consider it cheating.
2007-03-05 01:51:56 · answer #8 · answered by Nanci 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would leave and not look back if he has kept the kiss a secret for 2 years you said you were together 5 yrs now and 3 yrs at the time of the kiss then what else is he hiding? good luck
2007-03-05 01:04:53 · answer #9 · answered by patbgone 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've been in almost the exact situation before. Except my guy said 'she kisssed him'. I felt hurt and betrayed becuase he only told me 4 months later. However, I love him and so I warned him:: Do this again. Its over. If I even hear about anything- we're over. If you truly love him, I'd say give him another chance. People make mistakes- sometimes BIG ones. You just have to show him that your trust in him was broken, and now he has to gain it back. Good luck!
2007-03-05 01:05:09 · answer #10 · answered by KnottyJ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋