Does your husband really know the number of previous partners you had before him. Did you tell him a number that was not quite accurate? Why? Is that being dishonest?
2007-03-05 00:55:54 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was very honest, and so was he. Neither one of us thought it was a scandelous topic, just a conversation we had once when we were dating. I think that if it becomes a conversation and someone lies about the number, then yes, they are hiding things from their spouse (which is a really lousy thing to do).
If it's not important to the couple, it's not important. Oh, well. They don't have to talk about it. But if you're going to talk about it, be honest.
2007-03-05 01:23:04 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have known each other since I was 16 so yea, he's pretty aware of who came before him. I have felt no need in counting actual numbers and neither has he. We both know there were others before us and we have just always accepted it. But in all honesty, if I were to meet someone who didn't know about my past lovers, I'd have to fudge abit. Mainly because that is very private and personal information. I don't think I'd ever want to know actual numbers. Admitting there were others and possibly feelings included, might be of interest but thats all. I would never be dishonest, maybe a little evasive, but I beleive in always telling the truth, maybe not the whole truth but enough to honestly say that I haven't deceived anyone.
2007-03-05 09:16:30 · answer #2 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I asked my husband if he wanted to know and he didn't so I have never told him how many I have been with. If he would have wanted to know I would have been honest and told him the correct number. In a healthy relationship there is no reason to be dishonest. Then again, if you are in a loving and healthy marriage, You wouldn't need to know the number and just be happy that she has committed to only be with you for the rest of her life.
2007-03-05 09:04:16 · answer #3 · answered by mrslet02 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is in fact dishonest but whatever. I don't believe I ever told mine a honest number. So he stopped asking. It wasn't that I was ashamed but more less the reaction to everytime was either this super high number or like I was a virgin or 1 or 2 ppl. then the whole I don't remember. so i have no idea maybe we all find the humor that you really want to know. He told me his number but I don't remember nor was I concerned.
2007-03-05 09:18:08 · answer #4 · answered by BettieRulz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my husband really knows how many guys came before him.I do not believe that ladies are always honest about this because they do want to be viewed as a whore or someone that does not have respect for her body.Yes,I consider not telling your mate how many partners you have had,dishonest.
2007-03-05 09:06:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not married but some men don't like us lying about the amount of previous ex's we've had. Something I've never really figured out. Back to your q, I do lie about it on some occasions, since half of the time the relationships were flings and not serious, and maybe because it's never good to remember the past. And it sure spares us ALOT of questions, men have this tendency to compare themselves with our ex's, and that annoys us. Like did he try this position with you?, ect. It's really stupid, we're together with you for a reason, not to interrogate us about our previous partners!
2007-03-05 09:01:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
IWe were both honest about our past partners. What's the point of lying to one another. Everyone has a past, especially older people. It's better to be safe than sorry!! When it comes to relationships and being partners,,, honesty is the best policy!
2007-03-05 09:05:30 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. yes, because he was my first. No, I was not dishonest. Personally, I don't think that this should be a topic of conversation, it should not matter who, what, where, when, how, how many, etc. The two of you are beginning a life together, why should one care of past indiscretions. God bless****
2007-03-05 09:04:28 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I know pretty much everything about each other...she knows I was with a whore in an alley, for example. One thing we've kept to ourselves is how many people we've been with. I suspect her number is higher than mine, she's a few years older than me, but I really don't want to know.
2007-03-05 09:42:46 · answer #9 · answered by Killer B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL -- never ever tell anyone (even your husband) something that can be used against you in the future!!!!!!! It WILL get thrown back up in your face if the number is higher than 5 and you are in your twenties....just give him an estimate and let it go. As long as he knows that he will be the last that should be all that matters
2007-03-05 09:01:23 · answer #10 · answered by jennw33 3 · 6⤊ 1⤋