My two roommates are both in their first year of college (as am I) and are both only children (as am I) - so, they're not used to roomming with other people. I went to boarding school for four years, so I know how to deal with complicated rooming situations and dumb problems, but they don't. I feel like they argue and fight over the stupidest crap and then come to me like I'm supposed to be a mediator and I hate it! I try to step away and be like "deal with it" but then I always get turned into the bad person. Last night, T, and I heard it but when S asked her to repeat what she said, she didn't. I didn't repeat it because it really wasn't that important, & that would have put me right in the middle of yet another argument. This morning, I wake up and say good morning to S and she frigging YELLS at me for not telling her what T said, etc. I'm so fed up! Am I wrong for not stepping in? I had to learn the hard way how to deal with ppl & I think they should too! I hate having to mediate!!
2007-03-05 00:40:35 · 11 answers · asked by ♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Say, "Hey, roommates, stop being so immature and stop fighting over dumb crap". Hopefully they will say something like,"What do you mean?". Then you can have a detailed conversation with them.
2007-03-05 00:44:51 · answer #1 · answered by lisateric 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No u are not wrong! You are there to go to school not to be a special mediator. If they dont like that u dont want to be in the middle then so what. Eventually they will see what is going on and respect u for your decision to NOT be involved with petty catty girly fights. Stand strong to your decisions. Sorry to say it can be very difficult living with someone who seems to be mad at u for something they should no be mad at u for but once they grow up they will get over it. I admire u
2007-03-05 00:48:23 · answer #2 · answered by JAY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you and the dorm mother sitting down with them and laying out some ground rules? If you don't mediate a little, their behavior will continue and aggravate you even more.
Good luck. Two spoiled only children in the midst of teenage diva years with a sense of entitlement. I'm glad I'm not you.
2007-03-05 00:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them your sick of it and you're not going to be in the middle of it. You don't have to be mediator for them. There are people that get paid by the school to do that. If the problem continues go to the dorm captain and talk to them about the problem if it continues consider finding new roomies.
2007-03-05 02:37:07 · answer #4 · answered by Just D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would it be impossible to move?...I would think you would be on the hunt trying to find people with like personalitie for next year...so you don't get stuck with a bunch of whiners...Heck no...take a stand...when they are not in the middle of an argument...tell them...I am not a mediator...so when you get into disagreements...don't try to pull me in because I am not going to do it....I like you both...want to be friends with both...but if that doesn't suit you both...I don't know what to tell you.
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2016-09-30 05:35:45 · answer #6 · answered by goodfellow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that they shouldn't argue about this stuff. If they are being immature babys, then u shouldn't join them. Just be calm and be like stop or this is rlly stupid, and they might listen 2 u.
2007-03-05 00:45:10 · answer #7 · answered by yoyoyowatup3579 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Post a sign in your room:
Pick battles big enough to matter; small enough to win
2007-03-05 00:46:12 · answer #8 · answered by double_klicks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why put up with it? their such babies to begin with..
find another set of roommates.. or get another room..
or better yet.. have them fight over something until they kill each other.. hehe
2007-03-05 00:44:32 · answer #9 · answered by crushmybones 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if yor tired of it let them know. ur should tell them how to cope with eachother. they ll get over it
2007-03-05 00:44:02 · answer #10 · answered by imcoolyournotgetoverit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋